Umxholo
- Yintoni ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo?
- Ubakha njani ubuKrelekrele boMvakalelo?
- Ubunkokeli bobukrelekrele bemvakalelo
- Izakhono esizikhankanyileyo zezi:
- Ukuchongwa kweemvakalelo
- Ukusetyenziswa kweemvakalelo
- Ukuqonda iimvakalelo
- Ulawulo lweemvakalelo
Imvakalelo ayisiyiyo into yokuqala ethi qatha engqondweni xa sicinga ngobunkokeli nobunkokeli ayisiyiyo into yokuqala ethi qatha engqondweni xa sijonga umtshato.
Sifundisiwe ukuba ubunkokeli busenokuba brawn okanye ubuchopho; Inye kuphela inkokeli enkulu ukuba babonisa ubukrelekrele bengqondo okanye ubuchule bobugcisa babo. Nangona kunjalo, uphononongo lwamva nje lwengqondo lubonisa ukuba intliziyo ibaluleke ngokufana nengxabano kunye nengqondo xa kuziwa ekukhokeleni iqela.
Sikwasifundiswa ukuba umtshato ujolise eluthandweni, kwaye oko kukodwa kuya kubona umtshato kwizilingo neembandezelo ebomini xa sonke sisazi ukuba umtshato ufuna umsebenzi omninzi kunye nokuzama.
Ubunkokeli bobukrelekrele bemvakalelo ngumboniso wolawulo lwenkokheli kunye neemvakalelo zabanye ezinokuvelisa iziphumo ezingaqhelekanga emsebenzini kwaye zisindise imitshato emininzi!
Ke buyintoni ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo? Kwaye umntu uyakha njani?
Yintoni ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo?
Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo (i-EI) okanye i-Emotional Quotient (EQ) yingqondo yabaphandi, uPeter Salovey noJohn Mayer (hayi imvumi). Aba baphandi babini basinike inkcazo yekota njengokwazi kwethu ukwenza ezethu iimvakalelo kunye nezinye. Bayandisela le nkcazo ukuba ibandakanye amandla ethu okusebenzisa olu lwazi ukukhokela indlela esicinga ngayo kunye nokuziphatha kwethu.
Ubakha njani ubuKrelekrele boMvakalelo?
Ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo kukulawula ukuphatha iimvakalelo, isakhono esinokufundwa ngokwenza.
Ngokwenqaku elibhalwe nguPreston Ni, unokusebenza kwezi ndlela zilandelayo zokuphucula ubukrelekrele bakho bemvakalelo:
- Funda ngendlela yokulawula uxinzelelo
- Yakha ukomelela
- Khetha ukuba usebenze kunokuba usebenze
- Funda ukubonisa iimvakalelo kubudlelwane obusondeleyo kunye nobusondeleyo
- Funda ukuzithemba kwaye wazi ukuba yeyiphi imvakalelo efanelekileyo ngokuxhomekeke kwimeko
- Nciphisa iimvakalelo neengcinga ezimbi
Ubunkokeli bobukrelekrele bemvakalelo
Oovulindlela uSalovey, uSodolophu, kunye noCaruso bakubonile ukubaluleka kwenkokeli ephethe ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo ekukhokeleni iqela liye empumelelweni.
Bacebise ukuba isebenze. Iinkokeli kufuneka zikwazi ukubonisa ubuchule babo xa kuziwa ekusebenziseni izakhono zobukrelekrele bemeko kwimeko yobunkokeli.
Kodwa imigaqo efanayo inokusetyenziswa nasemtshatweni.
Xa uchonga ezi zakhono kwaye uzisebenzisa emtshatweni wakho, unokwenza umlingo kuba unokuqinisekisa ukuba ujongana kwaye usebenze kwiingxaki kunye nemiceli mngeni kunye kwaye uqonde indlela yokuxhasa iqabane lakho ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ngokuchaseneyo okuya kuqinisekisa ukuba niya kuhlala nobabini yomelele kunye.
Izakhono esizikhankanyileyo zezi:
- Ukuchongwa kweemvakalelo
- Sebenzisa iimvakalelo
- Ukuqonda iimvakalelo
- Ukulawula iimvakalelo
Ezi zakhono zingabonakaliswa ngezi ndlela zilandelayo:
Ukuchongwa kweemvakalelo
Iinkokeli ezikrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni (kunye namaqabane) zilungile ekufundeni abantu. Bayazi nokuba ukuba krelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni kubavumela ukuba bafumane ulwazi malunga nemeko yeemvakalelo zamaqabane abo, iqela okanye nawuphina umntu abadibana naye.
Ngobunkokeli bobukrelekrele bemvakalelo kunye nokwazisa, abatshatileyo banokuthi baqwalasele izinto ezihlala zingakhuselwa. Umzekelo, banokuchonga ixesha nokuba kutheni amaqabane abo esokola ngento ethile, okanye ebunzimeni, kwaye banokuwakhuthaza amaqabane abo ukuba athethe, babancede bafumane isisombululo kwingxaki yabo.
Nokuba ingxaki iyabandakanya-kuba banengqondo ngokwasemphefumlweni ngokwaneleyo ukuba baqonde ukuba ezi zinto zinokwenzeka kwaye zifuna ingqwalaselo kunye nesisombululo ukugcina umtshato wonwabile.
Esi sicwangciso sikwachaphazeleka xa kusenziwa izigqibo.
Ukubonisa isakhono sokufunda abantu ngobunkokheli bobukrelekrele beemvakalelo emtshatweni, kwenza kube lula kuwe kunye neqabane lakho ukuvula malunga nezimvo zabo ngaphandle kokuziva ungaqondwa kakuhle.
Ukusetyenziswa kweemvakalelo
Xa iqabane lomtshato libonisa ubunkokeli obukrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo, abazi nje kuphela ulwazi olukhoyo kwiimvakalelo, kodwa banakho ukusebenzisa amandla eemvakalelo endaweni yokubhenela kwingcinezelo okanye kwingcinezelo okanye nakwezinye iidrama zolawulo ezinokwenzeka kubudlelwane obusondeleyo njengomtshato.
Umzekelo, uMyeni okanye uMfazi (okanye bobabini) banokukhokelela kusapho lwabo empumelelweni nakumaxesha okonwaba ngokwazi ngokweemvakalelo zonke iintsapho ezifunekayo kunye nokufundisa abantwana babo ubukrelekrele bemvakalelo.
Ukuqonda iimvakalelo
Asinguye wonke umntu onovelwano kunye novelwano, kungoko, amandla okuba namava kunye nokuchaza ezi zimbini zizakhono zenkokeli ekrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ziluncedo ngakumbi xa kufikwa kubudlelwane obusondeleyo njengomtshato.
Intetho ethi 'ukuqhelana kuzala indelelo' iyinyani kakhulu kodwa ukuba ukrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni, uya kuba nakho ukuchonga xa indelelo ingene kumtshato wakho kwaye uyiqabele kwindlela eya kuthintela ezinye iingxaki ekuzaleni.
Ulawulo lweemvakalelo
Ukuphulukana nokuphola kwakho rhoqo ayisosalathiso silungileyo senkokeli ekrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukugqabhuka komsindo ngenxa yengxaki okanye impazamo nako akusosalathiso silungileyo senkokeli ekrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni, kwaye ayilunganga kumtshato owonwabileyo noxolo!
Uxinzelelo olucinezelweyo luhlala lusenzeka ngenxa yokucinga gwenxa ukuba inkokeli ekrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo inokuzicinezela iimvakalelo ezinjalo.
Ucinezelo alunamveliso, kwaye inkokeli ekrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni iyakuqonda oko.
Endaweni yokuba inkokeli ekrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo icinge ngokucacileyo ekuqaleni kwezi mvakalelo. Bayakuqonda ukuba ezi mvakalelo ziya kudlula kwaye zijolise kakhulu ekujonganeni nengxaki ekuyo.
Endaweni yokuthi "ndiyacaphuka yile ntetho, okanye impazamo eyenziwe liqabane lam," inkokeli ekrelekrele ngokweemvakalelo ibingathi, "Le meko iyacaphukisa. Kodwa, singenza ntoni ukujongana noku size siphethukele kwisiphumo esibi kwi-positive? ”
Kumzekelo okhankanyiweyo, iqabane elikrelekrele ngokwasemphefumlweni liyaziqonda iimvakalelo zabo ezinomsindo kwimpazamo, kodwa liyigqithise kwaye lidlule ngokukhawuleza libuze isisombululo.
Imvakalelo inokuba sisixhobo esinamandla emtshatweni, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, yakhelwe phezu kwayo.
Kodwa ngobunkokheli bobukrelekrele bemvakalelo, ukukwazi ukuchonga iimvakalelo, ukusebenzisa amandla alo ngeendlela ezinemveliso, ukuyiqonda, kunye nokuyilawula idlala indima enkulu ekugcineni ngempumelelo ulonwabo kunye nomtshato olungeleleneyo.