Umxholo
- Abantwana banokuba yinxalenye yokuxhatshazwa ekhaya ngeendlela ezininzi
- Iziphumo zobundlobongela basekhaya nangaluphi na uhlobo zihlala zifikelela ebudaleni
- Iziphumo zokuxhatshazwa zihanjiswa kwizizukulwana
Xa sithetha ngobundlobongela basekhaya, sihlala sisiva ukungxamiseka kwale meko kwaye sicinga ngazo zonke iinkxwaleko ezenzekileyo ezenzeka ngalo mzuzu kumaxhoba. Ukanti, ubundlobongela basekhaya ngamava ahlala eshiya iziva ezisisigxina.
La manqaku ngamanye amaxesha anokuhlala kwizizukulwana, nokuba akukho mntu waziyo ngesiphumo kunye nalapho avela khona kwakhona.
Ubundlobongela basekhaya lilishwa eliyityhefu kwaye elihlala lidla ngokuba yingozi elichaphazela wonke umntu obandakanyekayo. Naxa abantwana bengengawo amaxhoba ngokuthe ngqo, bayasokola. Kwaye ukubandezeleka kunokuhlala ubomi bonke.
Abantwana banokuba yinxalenye yokuxhatshazwa ekhaya ngeendlela ezininzi
Banokuba ngamaxhoba ngqo. Kodwa nangona bengaphathwa gadalala ngokuthe ngqo, babandakanyeka ngokungathanga ngqo kwinto yokuba umama wabo (kwiipesenti ezingama-95 zexesha lamaxhoba okuphathwa gadalala kwabasetyhini ngabasetyhini) uphethwe gadalala ngutata wabo. Umntwana unokuba lingqina kwisiqendu sobundlobongela phakathi kwabazali, eve izoyikiso kunye nemilo, okanye ujonge indlela asabela ngayo umama kwingqumbo katata.
Oku kuhlala ngokwaneleyo kunokubangela iingxaki ezinzulu emzimbeni nasempilweni yomntwana.
Nabantwana abancinci kakhulu bayaluva uxinzelelo lobundlobongela basekhaya kwaye bahlupheke ngenxa yokukholelwa kwabazali ukuba basebancinci kakhulu ukuba bangaqonda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.
Ukukhula kwengqondo yabo kunokuba semngciphekweni ngokuhlala kwikhaya elixhaphazayo ngenxa yalo lonke uxinzelelo olubekwa kwingqondo ekhulayo ebuthathaka. Kwaye ezi zinto zivuselelayo kwasekuqaleni zinokuma ngendlela eya kuphendula ngayo umntwana, aziphathe kakuhle, kwaye acinge kwikamva, kubo bonke ubomi babo bonke.
Abantwana abasetyhini abakwiminyaka yokuphathwa gadalala kwabasetyhini banendlela yabo yokuphendula kubundlobongela emakhayeni abo. Bahlala benengxaki yokumanziswa ebhedini, iingxaki esikolweni, ubunzima bokugxila, ukuphazamiseka kwemood, isisu esibuhlungu kunye nentloko ... Njengesikhalo soncedo oluvela kwihlabathi langaphandle, umntwana ovela kwikhaya elixhaphazayo uhlala esenza.
Ukulinganisa ligama elivela kwi-psychoanalysis kwaye lithetha ukuba, endaweni yokujongana nengqiqo ebangela ukuba sixhalabe kunye nomsindo, sikhetha enye indlela yokuziphatha, ihlala iyinto eyonakalisayo okanye eyonakalisayo, kwaye sikhuphe uxinzelelo ngayo.
Ke sihlala sibona umntwana ongumama olixhoba lokuphathwa gadalala enengcwangu, esilwa, esebenzisa iziyobisi notywala, etshabalalisa izinto, njl.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Iimpawu zoXhatshazo ngokweemvakalelo oluvela kubazali
Iziphumo zobundlobongela basekhaya nangaluphi na uhlobo zihlala zifikelela ebudaleni
Ngaphezu koko, njengoko izifundo ezininzi zibonisile, iziphumo zokukhula kwikhaya apho kukho ubundlobongela basekhaya nangaluphi na uhlobo zihlala zifikelela ebudaleni. Ngelishwa, abantwana abavela kumakhaya anjalo bahlala bephela kuluhlu lweziphumo, ukusukela kwiingxaki zokuziphatha, ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo, ukuya kwiingxaki kwimitshato yabo.
Uninzi kakhulu luphelela kwinkqubo yezolwaphulo-mthetho, ikakhulu ngenxa yolwaphulo-mthetho olunobundlobongela. Abanye baphila ubomi boxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo, bahlala becinga ngokuzibulala. Kwaye uninzi luyayiphinda imitshato yabazali babo kubudlelwane babo.
Ngokuhlala kwindawo apho yayiqhelekile into yokuba utata axhaphaze umama, abantwana bafunda ukuba le yinto eqhelekileyo. Kwaye basenokungayibonakalisi inkolelo enjalo, kwaye banokwazi nangokuqinisekileyo ukuba bayayichasa ... ziyaphindwa.
Amakhwenkwe ahlala ekhula engamadoda aya kuthi anikezele kumnqweno wokuxhaphaza abafazi bawo ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Kwaye amantombazana aya kuba ngabafazi ababethwayo ngokwabo, belinganisa indlela imitshato yabo eyahluke ngayo koonina, nangona ukufana kuyinto engaqhelekanga. Ubundlongondlongo bubonwa njengendlela efanelekileyo yokujongana nokudakumba.
Inxibelelene nothando kunye nomtshato, isenza iwebhu yomhlaza yokuphathwa gadalala kwebhayisekile kunye nothando olungashiyi mntu engenzakalanga.
Iziphumo zokuxhatshazwa zihanjiswa kwizizukulwana
Xa owasetyhini elixhoba lobundlobongela basekhaya, oko akuchaphazeli yena kuphela, kodwa nabantwana bakhe, nabantwana babantwana bakhe. Umzekelo wokudluliselwa kokuziphatha kwizizukulwana, njengoko izifundo zibonisile amaxesha amaninzi.
Umfazi ophethwe gadalala ukhulisa intombi ephethwe gadalala, kwaye uyigqithisela phambili kule nto ... Nangona kunjalo, oku akufuneki ukuba kubenjalo.
Ngokukhawuleza ukuba ikhonkco liqhekeke ngcono. Ukuba ukhulele kwikhaya apho utata wakho ahlukumeza umama wakho, ukhule unomthwalo ekunganyanzelekanga ukuba abanye abantu bawuthwale. Kodwa akufuneki uphile ubomi bakho ngoluhlobo.
Ingcali iya kukunceda uqonde ukuba zeziphi iinkolelo onokuthi ube nazo zisisiphumo esithe ngqo sobuntwana bakho, kwaye uya kukukhokela kwinkqubo yokufumana ezakho iinkolelo eziyinyani malunga nawe, ixabiso lakho, kunye nendlela ofuna ukuphila ngayo eyiyo life endaweni yale ibibekwe kuwe.