Umxholo
- Iinyani malunga nokuba kulwalamano nomlutha
- Umlutha uhamba ngaphaya kwezinto
- Ngaba uqhawulo-mtshato alunakuphepheka xa utshatile?
- Imiba yezomthetho yokuqhawula umtshato
- Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngaphambi komtshato
Naluphi na uqhawulo-mtshato lunzima, kwaye into sonke sinqwenela ukuyiphepha kodwa ukuqhawula umtshato kwiziyobisi kuthwala ubunzima ngakumbi. Ukutshata komnye kwenza njalo. Iziyobisi yenye yezona zinto ziphambili ezonakalisa ubudlelwane kunye neentsapho, kunye nobomi bomntu ngamnye. Eli nqaku liza kuhamba phezu kwazo zonke iziseko zoqhawulo mtshato ekufuneka uzazi ngaphambili, ngexesha, okanye emva koqhawulo mtshato ngokwawo.
Iinyani malunga nokuba kulwalamano nomlutha
Phambi kokuba sigxile kumlutha kunye noqhawulo-mtshato kunye, makhe sixoxe ngendlela ubudlelwane kunye neziyobisi ezijongeka ngayo. Ngenxa yokuba akukho mtshato ngaphandle kobudlelwane obungasebenziyo.
Kodwa okokuqala, iinyani ezimbalwa malunga neziyobisi. Nangona ihlala inzima kakhulu kwiqabane elingelilo ikhoboka ukuba likholelwe kuloo nto, iziyobisi kunye neebins azikho malunga nazo.
Obu budlelwane babucala kakhulu phakathi komlutha kunye neziyobisi. Ngendlela efanayo, inkohliso ayisiyonto inokuthathwa buqu.
Umlutha unendlela yokwenza umlutha ukholelwe ukuba abanakuphila ngaphandle kwento, kwaye baya kwenza nantoni na ukuyifumana, okanye ukuqhubeka ukuyisebenzisa. Ayikuko ukuba ubukhuthaze ubuxoki, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba kutheni isenzeka kwaye ungaphazanyiswa kukonzakaliswa bubuxoki.
Umlutha uhamba ngaphaya kwezinto
Xa utshatile umlutha, kwaye nje ukuba umlutha ukhwazwe ngokuvakalayo, yintoni eba ngumba ophambili kusapho- unyango. Kodwa, njengoko kusaziwa njalo, akukho lunyango ngaphandle kwesigqibo esinyanisekileyo sokwenza njalo.
Kwakhona, esi sigqibo asonelanga. Into eyoneleyo yile detox. Abantu abaninzi ngempazamo bakholelwa ekubeni zakuba iziyobisi ziphumile kwinkqubo, umlutha uyaphiliswa.
Oku akunakuba kude nenyaniso. Umlutha udlula ngaphaya kwento (nangona into ayisiyoqhekeza lekhekhe). Yindibaniselwano yeendlela ezahlukeneyo zengqondo ezenze ukuba umntu abe sesichengeni, abagcine bengamakhoboka, kwaye abagcine ekunyangeni.
Yiyo loo nto ukuhlala nomlutha kuhlala kuguqula umdlalo ongapheliyo wokungena nokuphuma kunyango.
Ngaba uqhawulo-mtshato alunakuphepheka xa utshatile?
Ukuba likhoboka, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, yeyona mingeni mikhulu emtshatweni. Iqabane elingelilo ikhoboka lichaphazeleka likhoboka ngokuthe ngqo nangokungathanga ngqo.
Kuya kufuneka babukele umntu abamthandayo ehamba ngendlela eyintlekele esezantsi yomoya. Rhoqo, kufuneka bajonge ukuba oku kubachaphazela njani abantwana babo.
Ngaphezulu koku, banokuxokiswa, mhlawumbi bakhohliswe, bakhwazwe, mhlawumbi benzakaliswe emzimbeni, kwaye baphathwe ngentlonipho encinci kunokuba befanele ukuphathwa.
Umlutha uya kuyitya ngokuthe ngcembe intembeko kunye nokusondela kwaye ngokuzibophelela ngokwasemthethweni kumlutha, iqabane elingengomakhoboka nalo liyakunyanzeleka ngokusemthethweni ukuba labelane ngomonakalo onokubangelwa lelo likhoboka.
Konke oku kunamandla okucinezela umtshato kunye nokukhupha amandla kunye nokunyamezelana kweqabane elingalikhoboka. Kwaye isenokuba ngunobangela woqhawulo mtshato.
Akunjalo, nangona kunjalo, ukuba ngaba uqhawulo-mtshato luya kwenzeka luxhomekeke kwizizathu ezininzi, ezinje ngokuba umlutha ufumana unyango kwaye uphumelele kangakanani, umgangatho kunye namandla obudlelwane ngaphambi komlutha, njl.
Ngoku, ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato ngenxa yeziyobisi, uya kudibana nemibuzo, 'njani ukwahlukanisa umntu olikhoboka leziyobisi' kwaye 'nini ukwahlukanisa umntu olikhoboka'.
Imiba yezomthetho yokuqhawula umtshato
Ukuba ucinga ngokuqhawula umtshato neqabane lakho elineengxaki zokulutha, zikho iindlela ezimbalwa ezongezelelweyo onokuzisebenzisa, ngaphandle kwemiba ngokubanzi yenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato ehamba wonke umntu. Okokuqala, iziyobisi zihlala ziqwalaselwa njengezizathu zoqhawulo mtshato.
Kwiimeko xa uziva ukuba kufuneka ufake ifayile yoqhawulo mtshato, uyakufuna ubungqina bokuhlala unxilile kwaye uza kuhlala unxilile. Ukwahlukana nomlutha ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kuwela phantsi kwephiko lokuqhawula umtshato ukuba kukho ukuxhatshazwa okubandakanyekileyo.
Ukuba ngexesha lenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato apho kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo kumlo wokugcina umlutha uxeliwe, ijaji iya kuyalela ukuba kwenziwe uphando ngesi sikhalazo.
Ukuba kukho ubungqina bezo zityholo, ukugcinwa kwabantwana kuya kunikwa umzali ongekho likhoboka. Kwiimeko xa umzali olikhoboka esatyelela abantwana phantsi kwempembelelo yento leyo, ukubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kunokuyalelwa yinkundla.
Izinto ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe ngaphambi komtshato
Konke oku kunokuba buhlungu kubo bobabini amaqabane kunye nabantwana. Yiyo loo nto kukho izinto ezimbalwa ekufuneka uziqwalasele ngononophelo ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokufaka uqhawulo mtshato.
Okokuqala, ngaba iqabane lakho alunakunceda?
Ngaba bazamile basilela ekubuyiseleni kwimeko yesiqhelo?
Ngaba bakubeka engozini okanye kubantwana bakho?
Ngaba umtshato wakho uqhawukile?
Ekugqibeleni unokwenza ingqondo yakho kuphela emva kokuba uziqwalasele ezi zinto ukuze uqiniseke ukuba ufika kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo. Kwimeko apho umtshato wakho ungasindiswa, zama unyango lomtshato uzame ngazo zonke iindlela ngelixa ufumana inkxaso kunye noncedo olufanelekileyo ngababoneleli bezempilo yengqondo kwiqabane lakho.