Umxholo
Xa sinentliziyo eyaphukileyo singajika siye emculweni okanye sijike kwizicaphulo ezinentsingiselo. Kulabo ngoku bacinga ukuba bafuna ukubuphelisa ubudlelwane babo okanye umtshato, ukuhamba kwakho intuthuzelo kuya kuba zizicatshulwa zoqhawulo-mtshato ezinokuchukumisa nje intliziyo yakho.
Zicaphula njani iintliziyo ezaphukileyo
Unokuzibuza ukuba ucaphula njani uqhawulo mtshato okanye iikowuti ngokubanzi zinceda ukuphilisa intliziyo eyaphukileyo. Ngaba isicatshulwa esinye sinokuthetha kangakanani na njengoko sinako ukukhawulezisa oko uziva kuko ngeli xesha lobomi bakho kwaye senza ingqiqo?
Inokubakho impendulo enye kule nto, kungenxa yokuba ezi ngcaphuno zenziwe ngeemvakalelo ngabantu abangaphefumlelwanga kungekuphela ngeemvakalelo ezonwabileyo kodwa nangosizi, ilahleko kunye nokwahlukana.
Zifezekile kuba zimfutshane, zizele ziimvakalelo, kwaye zinamagama afanelekileyo okuchaza oko siziva ngoku.
Ke masiqhubeke kwaye sifunde ezinye zeyona ingqokelela inentsingiselo yoqhawulo-mtshato kuye kwaye noqhawulo mtshato wakhe.
Uqhawulo mtshato kuye
Ngokwenene kunqabile kakhulu ukuba sibone umntu egxadazela okanye eveze iimvakalelo zakhe. Kude kube ngoku, sinesimo sengqondo sokuba amadoda angamadoda kwaye ayalila okanye ubuncinci bokungena baya kubenza bangabi yindoda. Kodwa into elungileyo kukuba kukho iikowuti apho, xa kugqithise kakhulu, umntu anokuphethukela kwizicatshulwa zoqhawulo-mtshato ukunika intsingiselo koko bakucingayo.
“Uqhawulo-mtshato sesinye sezona zinto zakha zabuhlungu ngokwezezimali onokujamelana nazo. Imali echithwa ekucaphukeni nasekuziphindezeleni yinkcitha mali. ” URichard Wagner
Ngaba akuyonyani oko? Uqhawulo-mtshato lusibiza imali eninzi, imali esele siyisebenzisile ukuthenga imoto entsha okanye ukuqala ishishini elitsha kodwa ucinga ukuba abantu basakhetha uqhawulo-mtshato kuba luyimfuneko.
Uqhawulo mtshato ayisiyiyo yomntu kuphela, yonke into ihamba nayo - abantwana bakho, uhlengahlengiso, yonke into. UPeter Andre
Uqhawulo-mtshato alusoze lube lula; awuqhawuleli nje umntu. Ekugqibeleni uyichaphazela yonke into owawunayo. Ayifani nento yokuba sikwenzela ukuzonwabisa. Ngapha koko, kuya kuphula neentliziyo zethu ukubona ukuba uqhawulo-mtshato aluchaphazeli thina kuphela kodwa nolwabantwana bethu.
Uqhawulo-mtshato mhlawumbi lubuhlungu njengokufa. ” UWilliam Shatner
Awekho amanye amagama anokuchaza umtshato ngokufa. Ukufa komtshato wakho wamaphupha, ukusweleka kosapho olupheleleyo kunye nenxalenye yakho ufe nje kunye noqhawulo mtshato. Amadoda anokuba kulunge ngakumbi ukufihla iimvakalelo zawo kodwa uqhawulo-mtshato lubuhlungu kwaye yinyani leyo.
“Uqhawulo-mtshato lufana nokunqunyulwa ilungu lomzimba; uyasinda, kodwa bambalwa bakho ”- uMargaret Atwood
Nasiphi na isibini, ewe, siyakusinda kuqhawulo-mtshato, yinkqubo nje enzima kodwa ungaphila. Nangona kunjalo, inxenye yakho, nokuba ungakhululeka kangakanani kuqhawulo-mtshato lwakho iya kuziva ngathi yafa kunye nokuphela komtshato wakho.
"Ndiyayazi into endiyizisa etafileni. Ke ndithembe xa ndisithi andoyiki ukutya ndedwa." - Ayaziwa
Amaxesha amaninzi, uqhawulo-mtshato luziva ngathi lodwa kwaye lunokubangela nokudakumba kodwa kwabathile abaziyo ukuba banikele ngako konke abanikele ngako konke abanako - uqhawulo-mtshato alunakubashukumisa kuba bayazi ukubaluleka kwabo.
Uqhawulo-mtshato kukufa kwephupha ocinga ukuba liza kuhlala likho. - Ayaziwa
Sonke siphuphe ngomtshato oza kuhlala ixesha elide. Yiloo nto sitshatile kwasekuqaleni, akunjalo? Nangona kunjalo, xa ubomi busenzeka, uqhawulo-mtshato lwenzeka kuthi kunye nephupha lokuba sasikhe safa.
Uqhawulo mtshato wakhe
Abasetyhini bayaziwa ngokukwazi ukuthatha iintlungu kwaye bazinyamezele. Abasetyhini baziwa ngokuba neemvakalelo ngakumbi kunamadoda.
“Xa abantu ababini begqiba kwelokuba baqhawule umtshato, ayingomqondiso wokuba 'abayiqondi', kodwa ngumqondiso wokuba, ubuncinci, baqalisile.” -UHelen Rowland
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa ekugqibeleni sibona ubuntu bokwenyani bomntu esitshatileyo naye, ekugqibeleni siyasiqonda isizathu sokuba ezinye izinto zingenakulungiswa.
“Uqhawulo-mtshato ayilotyala lomntwana. Musa ukuthetha nantoni na engafanelekanga nge-ex yakho emntwaneni, kuba uyamenzakalisa umntwana. ” - UValerie Bertinelli
Ngentlungu eninzi, ngamanye amaxesha ekuphela kwendlela yokuziphindezela kukuxelela abantwana ukuba kwenzeke ntoni kwaye yintoni ebangele uqhawulo-mtshato ngokungazi, asiziphindezeli kumaqabane ethu kodwa siyabenzakalisa nabantwana.
“Uqhawulo-mtshato aluyontlekele enjalo. Intlungu ukuhlala emtshatweni ongonwabanga, ufundisa abantwana bakho izinto ezingalunganga ngothando. Akukho mntu wakha wasweleka ngenxa yoqhawulo-mtshato. ” -UJennifer Weiner
Yeyiphi eyona intlekele? Ukufumana uqhawulo-mtshato kwaye ube ngumzali omnye okanye uhlala kubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo nobunetyhefu? Ngamanye amaxesha, uqhawulo-mtshato lolona khetho lufanelekileyo.
“Xa abantu beqhawula umtshato, kuhlala kuyinto ebuhlungu. Kwangelo xesha, ukuba abantu bahlala kunye kunokuba mbi nangakumbi. ” —UMonica Bellucci
Uqhawulo-mtshato lubuhlungu kodwa akukho nto iya kwenzakalisa ngaphezu komtshato ophilileyo ebumnyameni nakukungonwabi.
“Ukuyekelela akuthethi ukuba awusakhathali ngomnye umntu. Kukuqonda nje ukuba oyena mntu unokulawula ngokwenene nguwe. ” -UDebhora Reber
Ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba kukho uthando phakathi kwabantu ukuba omnye akangekhe atshintshe ukugcina ubudlelwane akukho sizathu sokulwela uthando okanye umtshato ngokwawo.
Akukho zintlungu okanye ukusilela njengokuqhawula umtshato. ” -UJennifer Lopez
Ngelixa uqhawulo-mtshato luyindlela yokuqalisa ubomi obutsha kunye nokonwaba, kusekho ukuziva kabuhlungu kunye nelahleko xa umntu ethatha isigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato.
Lilonke, uqhawulo-mtshato luyanceda kwaye lusizi ngaxeshanye. Yiyo loo nto iikowuti zoqhawulo-mtshato zineemvakalelo ezininzi kubo. Nokuba wawukhathazeke kangakanani umtshato wakho, kusekho obu buhlungu buza noqhawulo mtshato ingakumbi xa kukho abantwana ababandakanyekayo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kunyanzelekile ukuba uhlale womelele kuyo yonke le nkqubo kuba ngasemva kwayo yonke ikamva lakho.