Umxholo
- Ukuthabatheka kunokutsala kwaye kwelinye icala
- Inkanuko isekwe kumtsalane wesini
- Uthando luyakha ngokuhamba kwexesha
- Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo lukhuthaza ulwalamano
Uyawazi umahluko phakathi kothando, inkanuko nentabatheko?
Ukuba awucacanga ncam umahluko phakathi kwezi zintathu, ungakhathazeki, awuwedwa. Uninzi lwabantu luyadideka olunokuthi luphele isiphelo kubudlelwane, ngakumbi ebusaneni babo.
Esinye sezizathu zokuba kutheni kufuneka sifunde ukuxelela omnye komnye kungenxa yokuba ezi mvakalelo zinempembelelo ngqo kwindlela esinxibelelana ngayo nasekwenzeni izigqibo kubudlelwane bethu.
Nje ukuba uqonde ngcono iimvakalelo ohlangabezana nazo, uya kubekwa ngcono ukuba ungazenzi iimpazamo umz. ngekhe wenze impazamo kuthando lothando okanye uyabhida inkanuko nothando.
Ke masibone ukuba ungaluhlula njani uthando, inkanuko kunye nentabatheko:
Ukuthabatheka kunokutsala kwaye kwelinye icala
Sonke mhlawumbi sinomdla kumntu. Kukuthatheka.
Yimvakalelo enamandla eyenza ukuba ube ngumntwana kwaye uthambekele kumaphupha amnandi kwaye ubeka i-silin ebusweni bakho.
Iza ngesiquphe kwaye ihlala inecala elinye.
Ngelixa imiqondiso kulula ukuyibona kwaye iyinyani, ukuba nentabatheko kuthetha ukuba uhlala ekukhohlisweni.
Uyayila into oyithandayo kwaye ungaziboni izinto ezimbi abazenzayo. Ubabonisa kuphela icala lakho elilungileyo. Intabatheko ihlala ikwenza ubenomona kwaye ungoyiki kwaye inokuba yinto eyoyikisayo.
Oku akuthethi ukuba intabatheko ayinakukhula ibe luthando. Kunokwenzeka, kodwa kuya kuthatha ixesha kunye nomzamo kuwo omabini amaqabane.
Inkanuko isekwe kumtsalane wesini
Inkanuko ihlala ichazwa njengemvakalelo eluhlaza, kunye neyona nto iphambili emzimbeni.
Kwakhona kuhlala kusekwe kwiimvakalelo zokutsala ngokwesondo, ukuvusa inkanuko kunye nokuzaliseka.
Ke nguwuphi umahluko ophambili phakathi kothando nenkanuko?
Xa unenkanuko, ufuna ukoneliseka kwangoko kwaye ngokungafani nothando, awujonganga ukukhulisa ukudibana ngokweemvakalelo nomnye umntu.
Ufuna nje ukubamba kunye namandla omzimba.
Inkanuko, ukuba yintloko, kunye namava okulutha kungazonakalisa iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuba into oyinqwenelayo liqabane lakho, unokuzinyusa ezo mvakalelo zokunyusa isondo sakho, ukuphucula ubudlelwane bakho njengesiphumo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awukho kubudlelwane bexesha elide, kubalulekile ukuba uzikhumbuze ukuba inkanuko yimvakalelo yethutyana. Ubudlelwane obusempilweni bunqabile ngokwakhiwa kwinkanuko yodwa, ngakumbi ukuba ujonga uqhagamshelo olunzulu.
Uthando luyakha ngokuhamba kwexesha
Ngokwahlukileyo kwinkanuko nentabatheko, uthando luyakhula ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye lunobunzulu nobubanzi kulo.
Njengazo zombini iimvakalelo, uthando lunokuba namandla kwaye lube namandla.
Ukufunda umahluko phakathi kothando nentabatheko kubalulekile ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo kubudlelwane.
Umahluko ophambili kukuba uthando luhlala ixesha elide kunenkanuko okanye intabatheko. Omnye umahluko kukuba uthando ayizizo iimvakalelo zokuzingca. Ufuna okona kulungileyo komnye umntu kwaye uyakhuthazeka kwaye unamandla okuba ngumntu ongcono ngokwakho.
Ngapha koko, unombono olungeleleneyo kwiqabane lakho kwaye uyabamkela, ukungafezeki kunye nako konke.
Endaweni yokwakha umfanekiso wabo, uvulelekile kwiziphene zabo kwaye ubathande ngokufanayo. Ukhululekile ukuba ngokwakho kwaye umahluko wakho awumi endleleni.
Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo lukhuthaza ulwalamano
Ngoku ukuba uyawazi umahluko phakathi kothando, inkanuko, kunye nentabatheko, kunyanzelekile ukuba abazali bathathe ixesha lokufundisa la magama kulutsha olubaxuba kakhulu.
Uninzi lolutsha olufumana ezi mvakalelo okwesihlandlo sokuqala kuyaqondakala ukuba luyakhathazeka kwaye lunokudideka ngokulula.
Umzekelo, ulutsha olungamakhoboka oonografi lunokudideka luthando kwaye luphele lukubona abanye njengezinto nje zokwanelisa loo nkanuko. Ngelishwa, oku kunokuba nzima kubudlelwane babo bexesha elizayo.
Ukongeza, ukwazi ukwahlula iimvakalelo ezintathu kuza kuluncedo xa kuvavanywa ukuba ulwalamano lwakho lumi phi kwaye nokuba lunakho ukuhlala.
Inkanuko nentabatheko, kwiimeko ezininzi, ziyindalo kwaye zihlala zibonakala kwisigaba sokuqala sobudlelwane obunothando.
Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba ubudlelwane obuqala ngokukhanuka okanye ukuthatheka buya kuba nothando, ubudlelwane bexesha elide. Abanye bayayenza kwaye abanye babengenzelwanga ukufika apho, uphendula lo mbuzo, "Ngaba intabatheko inokujika ibe luthando?"
Unxibelelwano oluvulekileyo sisixhobo esiphambili salo naluphi na ulwalamano olunempumelelo kungoko kubalulekile ukuba uthethe ngokunyaniseka neqabane lakho malunga neemvakalelo zakho. Ngale ndlela, nobabini niyakuba kwiphepha elinye apho ubudlelwane bujongise khona, nokuba ukweliphi inqanaba okhoyo kwaye wonwabele ulwalamano oluhlala ixesha elide.