Umxholo
- 1. Uziva ephezulu
- 2. Ukungabikho koxanduva
- 3. Ukungabikho kovelwano
- 4. Inobuhle kwaye iyakhohlisa
- 5. Ukungabikho konxibelelwano
- 6. Amadoda aseNarcissist ahlala echanekileyo, akaze aphosakele
Ukuba kubudlelwane kuyonwabisa kwaye kuyathandeka, kodwa ukuba ukunye nomntu ongalunganga, izinto zisenokungabi mnandi ngendlela ocinga ngayo. Ukuba uthandana narcissist, kuya kufuneka ujongane nemiceli mngeni enzima.
Nangona ungazibetha ngoyaba iimpawu zakhe zokuziphatha kakubi kangangeeveki okanye iinyanga, ekuhambeni kwexesha, uyabuqonda ubunyani bokuba ungubani emva koko udane kwaye uphoxeke. Ngelishwa, oyena mntu unzima ukuza kuthi ga ngoku uya kuba ngumntu oneempawu zokuziphatha kakubi.
Ewe, i-narcissist lolona hlobo lubi lomntu ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Nantsi into amadoda malunga narcissist malunga neempawu ezinokubakho zokuba uthandana nendoda ye-narcissist.
NgokukaGoogle, i-narcissist ichazwa "njengomntu onomdla ogqithisileyo okanye ozithandayo, oonokrasi abacinga ukuba umhlaba ujikeleze bona". Kodwa, kukho okungakumbi kubudlelwane be-narcissistic.
Umntu osebenzisa iziyobisi uya kufuna yonke into ijikele kuye. Uya kufuna ukuba yeyona nto iphambili kulwalamano.
Ngoku, ngaba ushiywe ngumbuzo otyhafisayo- ngaba ndijola narcissist?
Oku kulandelayo kuxutyushwa ngezinye zeempawu ezikhazimlayo zomntu obonisa ukuba akonwabanga. Ezi mpawu ziqhelekileyo kunye neempawu ze-narcissist zinokukunceda uqaphele ukuba uthandana nendoda enesifo sobuntu.
1. Uziva ephezulu
Ubudlelwane konke malunga nokulingana nothando, kodwa kwipateni yobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo, indoda ye-narcissist iziva ingu-Alfa kwaye ikukuphela kwenkosi kubudlelwane.
Ukwenza ukuba uzive ungabalulekanga ngokuzibeka ngaphezu kwakho nayo yonke into malunga nawe. Baziva benelungelo lokufumana inkxalabo ethomalalisayo kunye nembuyekezo yokuba kunye nawe.
Ubudlelwane kunye ne-narcissists bunokuba nzima. Bavakalelwa kukuba banelungelo lokukukhathaza okanye bafune uxolo ukuze benze izinto.
2. Ukungabikho koxanduva
Kuyaziwa ukuba i-narcissist ifuna ukulawula, kodwa ayisoze ithathe uxanduva. I-narcissist ayisoze ibe yeyazo iimpazamo okanye ukungasebenzi. Bahlala befumana indlela yokuyibeka komnye umntu.
Abaphenduli ngayo nayiphi na into ‘eyenziwe; endaweni yoko, bakusola okanye iimeko zento eyenzekileyo.
Rhoqo, nangona kunjalo, i-narcissist isola umntu ongoyena mntu usondeleyo ngokweemvakalelo, ozinikele kakhulu, othembekileyo nothando ebomini bakhe- yeyona nto inganguwe.
AbakwaNarcissist baziva ukuba ungoyena mntu ukhuselekileyo onokubekek 'ityala ngenxa yokuba kunqabile ukuba umshiye okanye umgatye.
3. Ukungabikho kovelwano
Ukuba uthandana narcissist, uyakuqonda ukuba le ndoda ayibonisi nkxalabo okanye usizi ngawe okanye izinto ezijikelezayo.
I-narcissist inokuthi ingqine iswiti ekuqaleni, kodwa owona mbala wayo uza kubonakala. Uyakujongeka udiniwe kwaye usezantsi, ukanti i-narcissist iya kukucinezela.
AbakwaNarcissists abanasiphiwo sokukwazi ukuvelana nabanye. Bavame ukuzinikezela kakhulu kwizenzo zabo. Abafane baxolise, bazisole, okanye bazisole.
Ukujongana ne-narcissist kunokuba yinto ebuthathaka. Ngaphandle kokubeka iinzame zakho ezinyanisekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu osebenzisa i-narcissist aneliseke ngumzimba wakho. Ekugqibeleni, uya kuziva uphelelwe ngokupheleleyo.
4. Inobuhle kwaye iyakhohlisa
I-narcissist inomdla wokuzenzisa kunye nokuqhuba iindlela zabo.
Bahlala bezenza ngathi bangabo. AmaNarcissist aqhelekile ukuba adlale abalinganiswa abahlukeneyo. Bangatshintsha ukuba bangobani ukusuka emntwini baye emntwini.
Ayizukuphazama ukuba ii-narcissists zamkelwe njengabona badlali babalaseleyo emhlabeni. Ewe banokubeka umboniso olungileyo ngalo lonke ixesha!
Banokutshintsha ngokulula indlela abathetha ngayo umntu baye emntwini. Xa bephuma, bahlala benempawu.
Ukuba kwenzeka ukuba uchonge ezi mpawu zobudlelwane bobuchwephesha, kuya kufuneka ulumke kwaye ucinge malunga nolwalamano.
5. Ukungabikho konxibelelwano
Njengokuba sonke sisazi, unxibelelwano ngoyena ndoqo kulwalamano olonwabisayo noluyimpumelelo, ukungabikho kwayo kuthetha ukuba ubudlelwane bunetyhefu kwaye buyingozi ekukhuleni kwendoda ye-narcissist. Ukunxibelelana neqabane elidala ngumsebenzi wokunyuka.
Awuyi kuba nakho ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo xa uthandana ne-narcissist.
Amaqabane e-Narcissistic ayalawula kwaye agweba, uhlala ethintela ilizwi lakho kwincoko.
Abayi kukhuthaza kakhulu ngezinto ozifezileyo owabelana ngazo nabo, zihlala zingakhathaleli impumelelo yakho. Xa uqala ukuziva ungathandabuzi ukwabelana nazo naziphi na iindaba ezilungileyo neqabane lakho le-narcissist, oko kubonisa ukuba ubudlelwane buya ezantsi.
6. Amadoda aseNarcissist ahlala echanekileyo, akaze aphosakele
Amadoda aseNarcissist ahlala ezijonga njengenkosi yabo bonke, owazi konke. Ke ngoko, abaze bavume ukuba baphosisile.
Abasoze balamkele igalelo labo nakweyiphi na into ehamba gwenxa kwaye banokukukhanyisela ngamaqhekeza obuxoki okanye ifib ngokungenazintloni ukubonisa ukuba banyanisile.
Olunye lwemiqondiso eyoyikisayo yokuthandana narcissist ngumnqweno wabo onyanzelekileyo wokuzibonakalisa belungile ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ufuna yonke ingqalelo yakho ngelixa engakuniki yona.
Bukela le vidiyo ngeminye imiqondiso yokuba uthandana narcissist:
Emva kokudlula kuyo yonke le miqondiso neempawu ezibengezelayo, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba uthandana narcissist, umbuzo olandelayo ocacileyo ovelayo ngothi, indlela yokujongana narcissist okanye indlela yokuhlala narcissist.
Usenokude uzibuze- ngaba i-narcissist inokuthembeka?
Ewe, ukuphendula yonke le mibuzo ngeempendulo ezichanekileyo kunokuba nzima. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uthandana narcissist, kuya kufuneka uphinde ucinge ngobuhlobo bakho.
Nangona i-narcissist inokuthi ibonakalise ukuba ingumntu ozayo-nozayo kwaye onokuthenjwa, kungokuhamba kwexesha kuphela apho imibala yabo yokwenyani iya kutyhilwa. Zininzi iimeko zobudlelwane be-narcissistic eziphele kwinqaku elikrakra.
Ke, nika ingcinga enzulu ngelixa uthandana narcissist. Kwakhona, musa ukuba neentloni ekufuneni uncedo lweengcali. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kungcono ukukhuseleka kunokuba ube nosizi!