Umxholo
- Uya kwenza umahluko wokwenyani kubomi bomntwana
- Sisikhumbuzo esihle samandla akho
- Kuya kufuneka wenze umgudu
- Uya kufunda ukusebenzisana
- Iya kuphucula unxibelelwano
- Uya kuseka amaxabiso asisiseko kusapho
Yamkelwa ngokubanzi into yokuba ifayile ye- umtshato olungileyo ayonto izenzekelayo, yinto ekufuneka uyisebenzele leyo. Xa izibini ziwela kwisiqhelo, isikhalazo esiqhelekileyo kukuba siqala ukuziva ngathi sinomntu ohlala naye kunokuba ube ngumlingane.
Ukusebenza imisebenzi eyahlukeneyo kunye nokuphila ubomi obahlukileyo kulungile ukugcina inkululeko yakho. Kodwa xa abantwana bebalekile kwindlwane, kunokuba nzima ukufumana umdla oqhelekileyo wokukubuyisa kunye. Nabantu abangena bantwana banokujongana nolu celomngeni emtshatweni wabo. Isenokuvakala ngathi umtshato awusebenzi xa enyanisweni kungekho nto iphosakeleyo ngokusisiseko.
Ke, ungawuphucula njani umtshato wakho? Ugcina njani umtshato ophilileyo?
Izibini ezifuna umceli mngeni ngokudibeneyo ukuba ziqhubeke kunye, ukukhuthaza kunokubonelela ngenketho yokuzincama enokunisondeza kunye. Olunye lolukhetho olufanelekileyo kunye nobulumko malunga nendlela yokuqinisa umtshato wakho.
Ukujongana nemiceli mngeni kunye kunokunceda ukomeleza umtshato wakho. Bakhumbuza abantu ababini ngezizathu zokuba bathandane.
Ngaba ukukhulisa umntwana kunokuwomeleza umtshato wakho? Nazi izizathu ezi-6 ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo ukukhuthaza ukomeleza umtshato wakho:
Uya kwenza umahluko wokwenyani kubomi bomntwana
Alithandabuzeki elokuba ukukhulisa abantwana kufanelekile. Baninzi kakhulu abantwana abasweleyo kwihlabathi liphela, kwaye ngelixa abantu abaninzi bebambekile kumbono wokukhulisa umntwana ngaphambi kokuthatha umntwana, oku akusoloko kuyindlela ekufuneka uyithathile.
Ukunyusa kungathatha iifom ezahlukeneyo, kubandakanya ixesha elifutshane, ukhathalelo lokuphefumla, kunye nolungiselelo lwexesha elide. Ukuba awuziva ukuba ungazibophelela ekubeni nomntwana ahlala nawe ngokusisigxina, unokuhlala unikezela Unonophelo olungxamisekileyo, okanye ukukhathalela abantwana abaneemfuno ezizodwa ukunika abazali babo ithuba lokuhlaziya iibhetri zabo.
Sisikhumbuzo esihle samandla akho
Sihlala sitsala abantu abangafaniyo kuthi, kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha lo mahluko ungaqala ukubonakala uqhelekileyo. Ukukhulisa umntwana ngumceli mngeni wokwenene oya kufuna uqeqesho, unyamezelo, kunye namandla emvakalelo.
Ukuhamba kolu hambo kunye kunokunceda ukukhumbuza izibini ngamandla amaqabane abo kunye nokunceda ukuvuselela uthando lwabo. Ngelixa ukukhuthaza akufuneki kusetyenziswe njengokulungiswa ngokukhawuleza komtshato osisiqhelo, ukuba yinto ocinga ngayo kwixesha elidlulileyo, kunokuba kufanelekile ukuba uphinde uyiphinde.
Kuya kufuneka wenze umgudu
Xa ungumzali okanye umntu okhathalela abantwana, kufuneka wenze umzamo wokwenyani wokuchitha ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye. Ayizukwenzeka ngaphandle kokuba uyenze yenzeke, kunjalo uya kufumana umlinganiso omtsha kumtshato wakho xa uqaphela ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuchitha ixesha kunye. Ukufumana ixesha lokuthetha ngayo nayiphi na into engeyiyo eyokukhulisa abantwana okanye iarhente yabucala yabantwana iya kuba yinto ephathekayo, kwaye ukubhukisha ukuba umntwana oza kubagcina inyanga nenyanga kuya kwenza ukuba usuku lwakho lubaluleke ngakumbi kunakuqala.
Njengoko bekutshiwo ngaphambili, ukukhuthaza ngumceli mngeni wokwenene, kwaye ngenxa yoko, akufuneki kusetyenziselwe ukulungisa umtshato owaphukileyo, kodwa ungafumanisa ukuba ukuhamba kolu hambo kunye kunokunceda ukomeleza umtshato wakho kunanini na ngaphambili.
Uya kufunda ukusebenzisana
Enye yeendlela oya kuwomeleza ngayo umtshato wakho ngelixa usiya kuba ngumzali wokukhulisa abantwana kukufunda ngokubambisana. Ubuhle bomtshato obulungileyo bulele kwizinto zayo ezincinci. Ukukhulisa umntwana ongengowakho kunceda ekugcineni uthando luphilile emtshatweni.
Umsebenzi weqela uhlakulela ukunconywa, intlonipho kunye nobabalo omnye komnye. Kwinkqubo yokhathalelo lokugcina abantwana, nobabini niyakwenza iimpazamo, nijamelane nokungaphumeleli, nibe namaxesha 'wow', kwaye nabelane ngazo zonke iintlobo zolonwabo. Oku kuya kunceda ekomelezeni umtshato wakho.
Xa uza kusebenza njengeqela njengabazali abangabondli, uya:
- Vuyisanani
- Bolekanani uncedo
- Ukukhathalelana
Iya kuphucula unxibelelwano
Unxibelelwano kunye nokuqonda zizinto eziphambili zokomeleza umtshato wakho. Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo lukhokelela kulwaneliseko emtshatweni. Ngokukodwa ngexesha lomtshato womzali, kwenzeka kuba uyakwazi ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zakho, uvuyo kunye noxinzelelo ngokukhululekileyo.
Ngelixa umtshato wakho nokuba ngumzali zihamba kunye, ufunda nokukhulisa ubugcisa bokumamela iqabane lakho. Unxibelelana ukuncoma kwaye ungakhalazi. Ngaphandle koko, uya kufunda ukusombulula umahluko ngokwenza ulwazelelelo.
Uya kuseka amaxabiso asisiseko kusapho
Njengokuba utshatile kwaye ungumzali ngokunjalo, uya kuseka amaxabiso aphambili aphambili aluncedo ekomelezeni umtshato wakho kwaye aya kunceda ekukhuliseni umntwana ngcono.
Amaxabiso asisiseko anje ngenkqubo eya kukhangela iintshukumo zosapho kunye nokuziphatha kumgangatho obekiweyo. Le mithetho-siseko ichaphazela inkqubo yokwenza izigqibo yosapho. Amanye amaxabiso asisiseko aya kunceda umntwana kunye nokomeleza umtshato ngala:
- Ingqibelelo: Kuthetha ukuxabisa ukuzibophelela kunye nokuhlala unyanisekile kwimigaqo
- Ukuzihlonipha: Kuthetha ukuba uliqonde ixabiso lakho kwilizwe elingaphandle kwaye ungahlali phantsi kokungabalulekanga
- Isibindi: Kuthetha nje ukuba unomdla wokumela okuhle kwaye unamandla okwenza izinto ezinzima
- Ukubambisana: Ukunceda iintsapho, abahlobo kunye nabantu obathandayo
Unokwenza uluhlu lwamaxabiso aqhuba ubomi bakho kunye nezinto ongathanda ukuzidlulisela emntwaneni wakho. Lungisa uluhlu lwamaxabiso asisiseko kwaye uchonge amaxabiso aphezulu amahlanu okanye alishumi aphezulu abalulekileyo kusapho.
Kwividiyo engezantsi, uJan Stassen uthetha ngokubaluleka kwamaxabiso asisiseko. Uthi amaxabiso achaza indlela esifuna ukuqhubeka siphila ngayo. Bangabaxhasi besigqibo abaxhomekeke kwimeko. Yazi ngakumbi ngalo ngezantsi:
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