Umxholo
- Yenza: Ncokola ngakumbi malunga nezinto ezilungileyo kunezingalunganga
- Musa: Yiba nezifundo "ezingavumelekanga"
- Yenza: Yabelana ngezikhalazo zakho nothando
- Musa: Zisa incoko yokulwa ngexesha elingalunganga
- Yenza: Xolela
- Musa: Thatha ukuba iqabane lakho lifunda ingqondo
Unxibelelwano ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo lelona candelo linzima lokugcina umtshato usempilweni. Njengokuba ixesha lihamba, izibini ziyaqhelana kwaye zicinga ukuba iqabane lazo liyayiqonda indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngalo lonke ixesha. Amaqabane ahlala ethintela izifundo ezithile ukuthintela umlo okanye incoko enzima. Kungokwemvelo ukufuna ukuthintela ungquzulwano, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukunqanda ungquzulwano apha kwaye ngoku kukhokelela kungxabano enkulu ezantsi kwendlela.
Kukho imingxunya emininzi ehlala ikhona kuyo nayiphi na incoko emtshatweni enokuthi iboniswe. Kodwa ngayo yonke imingxunya ekhoyo kunxibelelwano lwabantu abatshatileyo, zininzi iindlela zokuhambisa olo lwazi. Ingaba yintsimi ekhohlisayo ukuhamba, kunye nezigcayiseli ezilindele ukuhamba kwakho okulandelayo ngendlela yengxabano okanye izimvo ezithathwe ngendlela engafanelekanga.
Makhe siqwalasele ezinye zezinto ezingafanelekanga nezingafanelekanga ukuba uzenza njani xa uthetha neqabane lakho. Ayikhe ibabuhlungu ukuphucula indlela onxibelelana ngayo, ke kufuneka uqaphele iimpazamo kwiindlela zakho njengoko uzifunda.
Yenza: Ncokola ngakumbi malunga nezinto ezilungileyo kunezingalunganga
Ndiyazi, oku kubonakala ngathi akukho ngqondo, kodwa kuyacotha ukuba abantu abaninzi benza impazamo yokuthetha kuphela xa benento engalunganga abanokwabelana ngayo. Sebenzisa amagama akho ngendlela enothando kunye neyokuncoma kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Xelela umfazi wakho ukuba ubonakala emhle kwezo jean. Xelela umyeni wakho ukuba mhle namhlanje. Xelela iqabane lakho ukuba ulixabise kangakanani.
Ukuba uthetha neqabane lakho malunga nezinto ezintle rhoqo, baya kuthi bangene kwaye bayihlonele into oza kuyithetha ukuba ufuna ukubonisa ukungonwabi kwakho ngento ethile. Ukuba ubabhalela nje kuphela malunga nendlela abaqhuba ngayo, baya kuqala ukukukhuphela.
Musa: Yiba nezifundo "ezingavumelekanga"
Ukuba kukho into evela kuwe okanye kwiqabane elidlulileyo elingavumelekanga, inokuba lilifu elimnyama kulwalamano lwakho lwangoku. Enye yezinto zokutshata nomntu omthandayo kukuba ungabelana ngokuvulekileyo nangokunyaniseka ngaphandle koloyiko lokugwetywa.
Ukunika isihloko okanye incoko ileyibheli "yokunciphisa imida" yenza ukuba kubonakale ngathi kukho inyani embi okanye imfihlo umntu angafuni ukuthetha ngayo. Kulumkele ukuba nale misantsa kuncoko ukuze iimfihlo zingagqithisi ubudlelwane kwaye zibangele umsantsa kamva.
Yenza: Yabelana ngezikhalazo zakho nothando
Ukuba awonwabanga malunga nokuziphatha kweqabane lakho okanye indlela abathetha ngayo nawe, yiya kwingxoxo kwindawo efudumeleyo nenothando. Ukuze incoko ibe yinto evelisayo, awungekhe ungene ukhwaza, ukhwaze, kwaye uthuke isimilo seqabane lakho.
Bonakalisa uhlalutyo lwakho njengenye yezenzo zabo, hayi enye yeempawu zabo. Kuya kufuneka bazi ukuba usamthanda umntu abakuyo, awuyixabisi into abayenzileyo okanye amagama abawathethileyo. Umahluko onobuqili onje, kodwa ukuhlasela ubunini babo kuya kuyiphazamisa incoko.
Umzekelo:
Isimangalo somlinganiswa: "Usisidenge."
Isimangalo sokwenza: “Wena isebenza njenge khawutsho. ”
Olo tshintsho lincinci yindlela enothando nenentlonelo yokuthetha ngokungoneliseki kwakho. Soloko uhlasela isenzo, hayi umntu owenzileyo.
Incoko emtshatweni phakathi kwamaqabane yinto elukhuni. Ukubekwa ngendlela engeyiyo okanye ukusetyenziswa kwamagama kunokwenza umahluko omkhulu kwaye kube negalelo ekunyuseni umba ongenamsebenzi kwimpikiswano yexesha elide phakathi kwamaqabane. Ukukhetha okungalunganga kwamagama ngexesha lencoko kuhlala kusebenza njengesixhobo sokuqhawula umtshato.
Emtshatweni, kufuneka ulumke malunga nendlela othetha ngayo.
Musa: Zisa incoko yokulwa ngexesha elingalunganga
Kuza kubakho amaxesha ngaphakathi komtshato wakho apho kuya kufuneka ukuba ube nentliziyo ngentliziyo kunye neqabane lakho. Ukuba benze into engalunganga, bhala ngengqondo oko kukreqa, emva koko uzise ngexesha apho iimvakalelo zingaphakamanga kwaye nobabini niza kuba nexesha lokuthetha. Eyona nto ingoyena mntu uyenzayo kukusabela kwimpazamo yabo kwangoko, kodwa loo nto ayisoloko isombulula ingxaki. Lindani nide nibe nobabini nentloko kwaye ningawuxoxa umcimbi njengabantu abadala.
Kwakhona sukuzisa incoko eza kufuna ixesha ukuyiphuhlisa njengoko nobabini niphuma emnyango nisiya emsebenzini okanye nakwezinye izinto. Oku kushiya i-cliffhanger kwincoko emtshatweni enokuba mbi ngakumbi njengoko imini iqhubeka. Qiniseka ukuba ukhetha inqaku ngexesha apho unokuhlala phantsi kwaye uthembeke kwaye uvule ngaphandle koloyiko lokuphelelwa lixesha.
Yenza: Xolela
Umtshato kukuzinikela ubomi bakho bonke, kwaye oku kuyakuhamba kunye nokungavumelani okuninzi. Nje ukuba umba unikezelwe kuwe okanye kwiqabane lakho, sebenzela ukuxolelwa. Ukubamba ingqumbo kunokubonakala ngathi sisicwangciso esiliqili, kodwa uzimisele ukubambelela ixesha elingakanani kwinto ayithethileyo ngomama wakho? Uzimisele ukuhlala ixesha elingakanani nenyani yokuba ekuxelele ukuba unganciphisa ubunzima?
Akufanelekanga.
Yiba nomsindo, ube nomsindo, kwaye uthembeke ngendlela iqabane lakho elikwenze waziva ngayo, kwaye ke ube nenjongo yokumxolela loo mntu. Uxolelo alubakhululi kuphela kwityala labo, kodwa likukhulula kuxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo oluza nalawo mafutha.
Kwakhona, ukubamba inzondo ixesha elide kunokubangela isithunzi sokuthandabuza ngayo nayiphi na incoko emtshatweni phakathi kwamaqabane.
Musa: Thatha ukuba iqabane lakho lifunda ingqondo
Ngokuqinisekileyo, utshatile iminyaka engama-25, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba naliphi na iqela linokusebenzisa ukuqonda ukuze libone ngaphakathi kwengqondo yabanye. Ukuba unento esengqondweni yakho, kwaye iqabane lakho alithathi kuyo, ngqo.
Kwakhona, ukuboniswa kwayo nayiphi na incoko emtshatweni kufuneka kwenziwe ngendlela enenkathalo ukuze omabini amaqabane angazikhuselanga ekuphenduleni. Kodwa sukuhlala, upheke, kwaye ube neqabane kwiqabane lakho kuba abayichongi imood yakho.
Thetha uviwe. Rhoqo. Musa ukulinda ukuba bakuvulele kwaye bajonge ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho. Kufuneka uyirola ibhola xa kufikwa kwiincoko oziva ukuba kufuneka zenzekile. Unokucinga ukuba ukuba bakuthanda ngokwaneleyo, baya kuba nakho ukwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni phakathi kweendlebe zakho. Kodwa enyanisweni, ukuba ubuthandile kubo ngokwaneleyo, ungabanceda kwaye ubaxelele okwenzekayo. Yeyona ndlela ingcono yokuphepha ukuba nenzondo kubo bobabini. Sebenzisa loo mlomo wakho!