Umxholo
- Kubandakanya ntoni ukuba ngumzali kunye neqabane le-narcissist?
- Ukuba ne-narcissist njengeqabane
- Akukho narcissism, akukho bunzima
- I-narcissist njengomzali ibachaphazela njani abantwana
Kunyaka ophelileyo, bendisiya ethekweni. Andizange ndiyiphose kuba banamaqebengwana amangalisayo! Bendinganxibanga, ngakumbi umcimbi, ngokungafaniyo nabanye abantu. Andikhathali ukuba nokuba wonke umntu unelungelo lokuba ngoobani.
Ndonwabile emva kwemini emnandi ebusika kunye nomculo omnandi nomyeni wam kunye neentombi zam xa ndabona isibini esincinci kakhulu kwaye sibahle singena ethekweni.
Babekhangeleka behle kakhulu kunye, kwaye ukunyaniseka, yayingumbono othandekayo. Baqala ukudibana babulisa abanye epatini, kwaye ke, yayilixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthatha iiselfie.
Njengokuba ndandibancoma ngokufihlakeleyo ngobutsha babo kunye namandla abo, ngequbuliso, ndaqaphela umntwana, malunga nobudala bentombi yam encinci, enxibe shabbily kakhulu ehamba phantsi komthunzi wesibini.
Umntwana wabonakala ngathi akabonakali kubo bonke abantu abakweli theko, nditsho nakubazali bakhe.
Babehamba ngokukhawuleza besuka kwenye indawo besiya kwenye, beqinisekisa ukuba bexubana nesihlwele, kwaye kwakunzima ukuba umntwana ahambisane nesantya sabo, kwaye waqhubeka emka kude nabo.
Ndothuka ngequbuliso ngulo mbono.
Mhlawumbi ibinento yokwenza nam ukuba ndingumzali kunye notitshala ixesha elininzi.
Umbono wentombazana encinci engahoywanga wanamathela entlokweni yam. Ndiqale ukuzibuza ngomahluko okhoyo phakathi kwelizwe lakhe nelabazali bakhe. Ewe, bobabini babeyonwabela kwaye babekunye kuyo.
Ke, ngaba kunjalo kwenzeka ntoni xa i-narcissist iba ngumzali.
Ukukhulisa umntwana kunye neqabane lomlingisi okanye ukwabelana ngecala lokugcina kunye kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu, ngenxa yokuba uhlala uzifumana usokola ukufumana iqabane lakho lokuzibandakanya libandakanyeke kubomi bomntwana wakho.
Jonga kwakhona:
Kubandakanya ntoni ukuba ngumzali kunye neqabane le-narcissist?
Ndiyazibuza, uthini ngemeko apho omnye umzali eza kuvela ukuba uyazithanda, kwaye omnye kufuneka enze oko.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba ngumzali kuko konke malunga nokungazingci, ukuzibophelela, kunye nokufunda ukuthanda umntu ngaphezu kwesiqu sakho.
Ukuba ngumzali kubandakanya umsebenzi onzima kunye nokudinwa. Iyakudiliza, ikophule kwaye ikudle, kodwa ekupheleni kosuku, konke kufanelekile.
Kum, ukuba ngumzali kubandakanya ukuthanda kwabantu ababini ukuhlala bezinikele kunye neqela ukuze babelane ngothando.
Ewe! Kukusebenzisana, ukusukela ngexesha lokukhulelwa kude kube kukuphefumla kwakho. Akukho kubuya mva, akukho kungqina, akukho kulindelwa, kwaye akukho mida, luthando olungenamiqathango.
Nangona kunjalo, owona mceli mngeni mkhulu wokuba ngumzali kunye nomyeni wangaphambili okanye umyeni kukuhlala ujonge ukhuseleko lomntwana ngokwengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni.
Abantu be-Narcissistic bafuna ukuthotyelwa kwaye baya kuhamba nakweyiphi na indlela ukuze bakhohlise abanye, kwaye ukuba uyasukuma kubo okanye uzama ukufumana amandla kwakhona, sonke isihogo sinokuqhuma.
Kungoko indlela ethe ngqo isenokungabi sesona sisombululo sisemgangathweni malunga 'nendlela yokujongana nendoda exhalabileyo okanye umfazi.'
Ukuba ne-narcissist njengeqabane
Ukuba ngumama ngokuqinisekileyo ngamava amaninzi.
Usentlungwini; uphelelwe yimilo kwaye unengqondo. Into yokugqibela oyifunayo ngexesha elinje kukuziva ungathandwa.
Nokuba kuyise, ngokuqinisekileyo akukho lula. Uphulukana nalo lonke ulwahlulo kunye nothando olwalunandipha ngaphambi kokuba ube ngutata.
Kufuneka ube noxanduva ngakumbi kwaye uhlale womelele.
Kodwa mhlawumbi, ndinomdla wokuthetha njalo. Ngokwenyani, oku akunjalo.
Ingakumbi ngeli xesha losasazo lwentlalo apho sinokufela ukuthandwa kunye ne "awwwsss!" kwaye “aahhhhs!” kwaye ”ubonakala umhle!”
Kuthekani ukuba umntu ubambekile kwimeko apho kufuneka anyamezele amava othusayo wokuba ngumzali kunye narcissist? Andikwazi nokuqala ukuthelekelela ukoyikeka kokujongana nomzali ongumlingani we-narcissist.
Akukho narcissism, akukho bunzima
Ndikhumbula xa ndandingumzali omtsha, umyeni wam wayengamandla am.
Uthando nothando lwakhe lwandigcina ndiqhubeka. Ukuba naye wenza izinto zaba lula kwaye zaba ngumzali, olo luvuyo. Oku bekungafani nezinye izibini ezininzi ezindijikelezileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, oomama babelondolozwa kakhulu kwaye babengakulungelanga ukuncama ubomi babo obutofotofo. Ngamanye amaxesha ootata babegcwele kakhulu ukuba bangaxhasa amaqabane abo. Isiphumo?
Imitshato ematyeni kunye nabantwana abangahoywanga yinto eyimveliso yokuba ngumzali ngokubambisana nomzali we-narcissist.
I-narcissist njengomzali ibachaphazela njani abantwana
Ndiye ndabona elona cala loyikisayo lomfanekiso xa ndiba ngutitshala. Phambi kokuba ngutitshala, ndandingakwazi nokucinga ukuba imeko enjalo inokuthetha ntoni emntwaneni.
Yonke imihla ndimamela abafundi bam bethetha ngeemvakalelo zabo namava abo. Eyona nto yoyikisayo kukuba iapile ayiwi kude nomthi.
Kwi-narcissist, ziziko lendalo iphela, kwaye benza umhlaba ubabalo olukhulu ngokuzithanda. Ngokuqinisekileyo benza ifuthe, kodwa ayisiyonto ilungileyo.
Kufana nefuthe elibi
Kuthatha umntu ozithandayo, omnye kuphela, ukwenza ubomi babaninzi bube lusizi.
Umntu omnye ozicingela yedwa ukhokelela kusapho olungonwabanga; Usapho olunye olungonwabanga lukhokelela kuluntu olungonwabanga, kwaye ke iyaqhubeka. Isiphumo? Abantu abaninzi abonwabanga, abangazithembanga eluntwini.
Ukuba ufuna ukuthandwa, kuya kufuneka wabelane nabanye kunokuba uzigcinele ngokwakho. Ndithembe; ngokuqinisekileyo iya kubuyela kuwe.