Umxholo
- Iimpawu zoMda woMntu oPhazamisekileyo
- Ukufunda ubudlelwane obunamandla bokuthanda umntu one-BPD
- Ezinye zeempawu zeBPD zinokuphelisa ubudlelwane
- Imiba evela kukoyika ukushiywa
Ukuphazamiseka kuBorderline Personality Disorder (BPD) luhlobo lokugula ngengqondo oluchaphazela naphi na ukusuka kwi-1.6% ukuya kwi-5.9% yabantu abadala base-US.
Uninzi lwabantu lufunyaniswa lunayo njengabantu abadala abancinci. Ngelishwa, lelo lixesha ebomini xa abantu abaninzi begqibezela imfundo yabo, beqala imisebenzi yabo, kwaye bahlala bonwabela ubudlelwane babo bokuqala bokwenene.
Zithini ezinye zeenkcukacha ngeBPD? Ngokusisiseko, i-BPD ineempawu ezisithoba ezahlukeneyo, kwaye isifo senziwa ukuba umntu uneempawu ezintlanu ubuncinci kwezi.
Iimpawu zoMda woMntu oPhazamisekileyo
- Uloyiko lokushiywa
- Ubudlelwane obungazinzanga
- Umbono ongazinzanga okanye oguqukayo
- Ukutshintsha ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukuzenzakalisa
- Ukuqhuma komsindo
- Ukuziva ulilize
- Ukuziva ungaphandle kwebala kunye nenyani
- Iimvakalelo ezingapheliyo zokuba lilize
Ngoku, njengoko ubona, ezo ziimpawu ezinzima kakhulu.
Njengoko unokucinga, ezinye, ukuba ayizizo zonke, zinokutshabalalisa naluphi na uhlobo lobuhlobo bomntu umntu ofunyenwe ene-BPD anokuba nayo. Senze udliwanondlebe nabantu abaye bafumanisa ukuba bane-BPD kunye namaqabane abo ukuze bafunde okungakumbi malunga nendlela abahamba ngayo ebomini.
Ukufunda ubudlelwane obunamandla bokuthanda umntu one-BPD
U-Leslie Morris, 28, ngumzobi ophumeleleyo kwimagazini yamazwe aphesheya. Iqabane lakhe, uBen Crane, 30, ngusomashishini. U-Leslie wafumanisa ukuba une-BPD eneminyaka engama-23.
Ubona ugqirha wezengqondo kabini ngenyanga kwiiseshoni zonyango lweCognitive Behaeve Therapy, kwaye ngoku akathathi nyango. Uqale uLeslie, “OMG. Awungekhe uyikholelwe iminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo, hayi nyani, kule minyaka isibhozo idlulileyo okanye kunjalo.
Ndithathe ixesha ukufunyanwa. Abantu bahlala besithi ndiyacaphuka, kodwa xa nditshisa ipotifoliyo yam phambi komphathi wam kuba wayegxeke enye yemizobo yam, wandikhupha ngaphandle kwesakhiwo. Ibali elifutshane: Ekugqibeleni kwafunyaniswa ukuba ndineBPD. ”
Umqeshi kaLeslie wayexhalabile kwaye wamgcina eqeshwe ngokulaliswa esibhedlele kunye nonyango lokuhlala.
UBen ungene, "Ndamthanda uLeslie xa ndadibana naye kwigalari. Umnqweno wakhe onzulu wobugcisa wawunjengento endingazange ndiyibone.
Kodwa kwakamsinya nje emva kokuba siqale ukuphuma, isimo sakhe sengqondo saba nzima ukuba ndijongane naso, kwaye wayeqhubeka endityhola ngokufuna ukumshiya ngokusisigxina. Andifuni kwanto, kodwa uya kuqhubeka. Kwakunzima kakhulu ukumqinisekisa ukuba ndifuna ukuhlala kubudlelwane.
Ndichitha ixesha elininzi ndiphanda amashishini amatsha, ndiye ndasebenzisa izakhono zam zophando ndenza uphando ndafumana iindlela zokuqhubeka naye. ”
Ubudlelwane bukaLeslie noBen bancedwa lilinge likaBen lokufunda ngokugula kweqabane lakhe. Baqhubeka bomelele, kodwa ngoku makhe sijonge kubudlelwane obungakhange buvele ngokunjalo.
Ezinye zeempawu zeBPD zinokuphelisa ubudlelwane
UKayla Turner, oneminyaka engama-23, ungumfundi kwiyunivesithi enkulu embindini mpuma. Umlingane wakhe wangaphambili, uNicholas Smith, usandul 'ukuba ngumfundi ophumelele kwiyunivesithi enye.
UKayla kwafunyaniswa ukuba une-BPD eneminyaka eli-19. Uthe, “UNicholas yayilulwalamano lwam lokuqala lokwenene. Ndandinomsindo, ndimthanda kakhulu. Ndandifuna ukuba kunye naye ngonaphakade. Kwakufana nje nakwiimuvi. Bendicinga ukuba ndifumene isithandwa sam sokwenene, kwaye siya kuhlala kunye ngonaphakade. ”
Ngelishwa, emva kothotho lokugqabhuka esidlangalaleni kunye nokuhamba ebusuku okuyingozi, uNicholas waziqhekeza izinto. Ucacisile, "UKayla ebenomdla, engaqhelekanga njengomntu endingazange ndimazi. Ngobunye ubusuku wacebisa ukuba siqhubele eChicago. Kwakusebusika kwaye into engamashumi amabini ngezantsi. Ndizamile ukweyisela ukuba ayisiyonto ilumkileyo le, kodwa wangena emotweni yakhe waphuma. Ndilandele imoto yam sade sayeka sobabini ngenxa yokuvalwa kwendlela.
Ngelo xesha, ndaqonda ukuba nokuba ndiziva njani ngaye, kufuneka ndiphume. ”
Ngelishwa, ezinye zeempawu ze-BPD, ukunyanzeliswa, ukuzithemba, kunye nokutshintsha okugqithileyo kweemvakalelo, zibuphelisile obu buhlobo. UNicholas ubonakalisile, “Ndandisoyika uKayla.
Imiba evela kukoyika ukushiywa
Ukuqhuba ebusuku kwimozulu engaphantsi kweziro kwakungebobulumko ukutsho nje okuncinci. Andinakuba kunye nomntu ongaluhoyiyo ukhuseleko lobuqu nokuba ndikunandipha kangakanani ukuba kunye naye. ”
UGardenia Clark ngummkeli wolwamkelo oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala enembonakalo entle kunye nokuchongwa kweBPD.
Isithandwa sakhe sangoku, uBill Tisdale, akazi ukuba ulisoka lakhe lesithathu kule nyanga, kananjalo akazi ukuba uye wamxhaphaza ngokucinga ukuba uyisoka lakhe lokuqala kwithuba elide kakhulu.
Uhlala exoka emadodeni anolwalamano naye, kwaye akasiqondi isizathu sokuba ubudlelwane bakhe bungahlali ixesha elide; Oku kungena nokuphuma kwamakhwenkwe kuhlala kumenza oyike ukushiywa, kodwa unethemba lokuba "olandelayo" uya kuba "nguye."
Uyavuma ukukopela kancinci kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye uthi, "Kulungile, ndikhohlisile. Hayi yonke into. Kwaye ngekhe ukubize ukukopa, kodwa ndibone abafana abambalwa ngaxeshanye. ”
Uqale wathetha uBill, “iyandimangalisa into yokuba umntu onomkhitha nobukrelekrele njengoGardenia aphume nesikolo njengam. Siye saphuma kanye kuphela. Undixelele ukuba ebengathandani ixesha elide. Ndiziva ndisikelelekile! Ndijonge phambili kule mpelaveki xa sisiya kwikonsathi yensimbi enzima. Ngomnye wemidla yethu ekwabelwana ngayo, kwaye kuba ndiyamazi umgqugquzeli kwishishini lam lokutyela, sinamatikiti amahle. Ngokuqinisekileyo usikelelekile! ”
Ayithathi i-clairvoyant ukubona ukuba obu budlelwane abuyi kuhlala ixesha elide.
U-Gardenia ukhethe ukungafumani naluphina unyango kwisigulo sakhe, kwaye ngoku iimpawu zakhe zikukuqhuba. UBill akazi ukuba unjani kanye kanye. Mhlawumbi uya kufumana umonde wokujongana naye, kodwa uya kuncama kuba kuninzi kwipleyiti yakhe.
Njengoko sibona, kukho iingxaki ezenzeka xa umntu one-BPD ebandakanyeka kubudlelwane nomnye umntu. Ukuba omnye umntu unqwenela ukuqhubeka nobudlelwane, kukho ithuba lokufunda nokukhula.