Umxholo
- Misela imida ecacileyo
- Buza iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho ukuba libe nomqolo wakho
- Zisa iziphazamiso
- Misela umda wexesha
- Misela izithethe zakho
- Chitha ixesha nabanye abantu
- Yamkele indlela oziva ngayo
- Qaphela ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha okanye ukulawula abantu
Ewe ndiyaqonda ukuba isihloko sivakala kancinci. Abanye babenokuphendula emva kokuyifunda, becinga, “Ewe ngekhe uzichithe iiholide nosapho oluxhaphazayo! Ngubani oya kuthi? ”
Ngelishwa oku akuphendulwa ngokulula, njengoko kubonakala. Iintengiso zinokukukholelwa ukuba iiholide azinto ngaphandle kovuyo, ukuhleka kunye nokubonisa ukumangaliswa kunye nolonwabo njengoko uvula eso sipho sigqibeleleyo. Kwelinye icala, ubunyani bosapho kwabanye, ayingomfanekiso ucwangciswe ngocoselelo kwiintengiso ezijolise kubathengi. Ukuchitha ixesha nosapho olongezelelekileyo, nokuba yeyakho okanye yeyabakhozala, kunokuba nzima kwaye kugcwele ukuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo. Nangona kunjalo, kukho imiceli mngeni ekhethekileyo yokuhamba xa wena okanye iqabane lakho lisokolisana nokuba ungachithi ixesha kunye nezihlobo ezinembali ende yokuhlukumeza.
Kukho izifundo eziqukumbela ngokuqinileyo ukuba ngokwebhayiloji sicwangcisiwe ukuba silangazelele kwaye sifune unxibelelwano losapho kunye nonxibelelwano. Kwaye kukwakho manani maninzi abonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba abantu abaninzi abakhuli kwiimeko ezintle zosapho. Njengomntwana, bekungekho enye indlela ngaphandle kokunyamezela imeko yokuhlukumeza kunye nokunyamezela ukuhlaselwa, kodwa ngoku, njengomntu omkhulu uyenza njani le nto, ungqubana njani nentambo yakho yebhayoloji?
Unxibelelwano olunyanzelekileyo losapho
Ukunxibelelana nosapho, ngakumbi malunga neeholide kunokuchazwa kwabanye njengokunyanzelwa, kunokubakho ukuziva unetyala kunye / okanye uxinzelelo lokunxibelelana nosapho. Kunokubakho ukubaluleka okukhulu okubekwe ekugcineni i-facade, mhlawumbi amashumi eminyaka okanye nakwizizukulwana ekwenziweni, ukuba konke kulungile ngaphakathi kwiyunithi yosapho. Xa iikhamera ziphuma, uxinzelelo luphindaphindiwe, lokuma kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba, dlala indima yakho kumzobo wosapho owonwabileyo. Kodwa ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho lichitha iiholide nosapho apho kukho imbali yokuxhatshazwa, ujongana njani?
Misela imida ecacileyo
Ngaphambi kokuba uye kwindibano yosapho, yiba nombono ocacileyo wento oza kuyinyamezela ongayi kuyinyamezela. Kuya kufuneka uthathele ingqalelo into oza kuyenza ukuba imida yakho yaphuliwe. Ngaba uya kucebisa ngomlomo ukuba umgca uwele? Ungayishiya indawo? Ngaba uya kwamkela ulwaphulo-mthetho ukuba luyintoni, uhlale uthule, ugcine uxolo, kwaye uthethe nomntu othembekileyo omthembayo kamva?
Buza iqabane lakho okanye iqabane lakho ukuba libe nomqolo wakho
Thetha ngale nto kunye neqabane lakho kwangaphambili kwaye ubacele bakuxhase. Inokuba luncedo ukuthetha malunga "nolindelo lwakho lwenkxaso" kunye neqabane lakho. Ngaba ufuna ukuba bathethe ngomlomo nesihlobo sakho (s) ukuba bawela imida yakho okanye ufuna ukuba iqabane lakho libe secaleni kwakho, likuxhase cwaka ngobukho babo. Ngena kunye neqabane lakho kwaye uqiniseke ukuba bayakhululeka ngendima ongathanda ukuba bayidlale. Ukuba iqabane lakho alihlali, zama ukuthetha-thethana ngento elisebenzelayo nobabini.
Zisa iziphazamiso
Inokuba yimifanekiso evela kuhambo lwamva nje okanye umdlalo webhodi, yiza nezinto onokuzisebenzisa njengokuphambukisa. Ukuba iincoko / isimilo siqala ukuhamba kwicala olibona ukuba liyacaphukisa okanye linzima, kwaye awukhululekanga ukulungisa le nto, khupha "iziphazamiso" zakho njengendlela yokuhambisa kwakhona isihloko sencoko, ngelixa ugcina uxolo.
Misela umda wexesha
Cwangcisa kwangaphambili ukuba uza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani kwindibano yosapho. Ukuba uyazi ukuba izinto zihlala zihla ezantsi emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa, yenza ukuphuma ngokukhawuleza emva kokunceda ukucoca izitya zangokuhlwa. Yenza ezinye izicwangciso. Umzekelo, lungiselela ukusebenza ishifti ngokutya kwindawo yokuhlala engenakhaya. Oku kusebenza ngeenjongo ezininzi; unesizathu esivakalayo sokushiya kwaye wenza igalelo ekuhlaleni, nto leyo eya kuthi inyuse ukuzithemba kwakho.
Abanye abantu, inqanaba lobutyhefu kunye nokungasebenzi kakuhle kwiintsapho zabo kuye kwenyuka ukuya kwinqanaba lokuba abasenalo unxibelelwano. Ngokwesiqhelo esi sigqibo asenziwa kancinci kwaye iba sisigqibo sokugqibela, xa zonke ezinye iinzame zokunxibelelana nokusebenza zingaphumelelanga. Ngelixa ubudlelwane obuqhawuliweyo buthintela umntu ekubeni angabhencwa ekuqhubekeni nokuxhatshazwa, uqhawuko losapho luza noluhlu lwazo lwezinto ezinokubakho.
Abantu abaninzi baziva benetyala ngokungachithi ixesha, ngakumbi iiholide kunye nezihlobo, nokuba kukho imbali yokuxhatshazwa. Uluntu lwethu lusigcwalisa ngemiyalezo eyazisa abantu ukuba, "usapho luza kuqala!" Le miyalezo inokushiya abantu abaphule iintsapho, beziva ngathi basilele okanye abanandlela yakwenza ngandlela thile. Kunokubakho iimvakalelo ezinzulu zentlungu kunye nelahleko, hayi kuphela ngenxa yokungabikho kosapho olongezelelekileyo, kodwa ukuba buhlungu ngento engasokuze ibe- lusapho olusebenzayo nothando.
Ukuba usenzile isigqibo sokungabikho kwezihlobo ezixhaphazayo, okokuqala nokuphambili, funda ukulunga kwisigqibo sakho. Ngaba ilungile? Hayi, kodwa enyanisweni isigqibo osenzileyo senzelwe wena, ukuba ube noxolo lwengqondo kunye nentlalo-ntle.
Ungalixhasa njani iqabane / iqabane lakho ukuba bayasokola nokungabikho konxibelelwano losapho ngeeholide:
Misela izithethe zakho
Qala ukudala amava eholide owawusoloko ufuna, kodwa awuzange ube nawo. Qaphela kwaye uzinike imvume yokonwabela izinto ezincinci, njengokungabikho koxinzelelo kwindibano yakho yeholide. Yazisa oku, ngumvuzo wokuzincama kwakho.
Chitha ixesha nabanye abantu
Aba banokuba ngabahlobo, abantu osebenza nabo, njalo njalo. Qinisekisa ukuba abantu obakhethileyo ukuba ube phakathi kweeholide banethemba kwaye bayakuxhasa. Into yokugqibela oyifunayo okanye iqabane lakho, kukugwetywa ngumhlobo ngokungazichithi iiholide nosapho, emva koko uzive ngathi kufuneka uphinde uvuselele ukuxhatshazwa kwakho, ukuze uthethelele isigqibo sakho.
Yamkele indlela oziva ngayo
Unomntu onokuthetha naye malunga nendlela oziva ngayo, kunye nokushiyeka onokudibana naye. Akufanelekanga ukuzama ukugubungela ezi mvakalelo "ngezinto". Phila amava. Kwakhona, zinike imvume yokuziva, ukudakumba, ilahleko njl.njl. Ukubala iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ungajongani nazo, kukhokelela ekuvaleni kwinkqubo yokuphilisa. Nangona kunjalo, gcina ezi mvakalelo ngendlela efanelekileyo. Zikhumbuze ukuba kutheni uthathe isigqibo sokungabinako ukunxibelelana nosapho.
Qaphela ukuba awukwazi ukutshintsha okanye ukulawula abantu
Unokuba noxanduva kuphela kwizenzo zakho, awunakugunyazisa indlela abanye abantu abacinga nabaziphatha ngayo.
Yazi ukuba nasiphi na isigqibo osithathayo, ukhaliphile. Akululanga ukuzama ukugcina ubudlelwane nabantu abakhetha ukuxhatshazwa njengendlela yokunxibelelana. Kwaye kwelinye icala, akukho lula ukuhamba usiya kusapho lwakho olude, nokuba lolwempilo-ntle yakho. Ingqondo elungileyo yokumkela, yenye exhasa ukufumana isiphumo esikusebenzela kakuhle, ukubetha ibhalansi ekwenza uzive ngathi uza kulunga.