Umxholo
- 1. Ibala elibi
- 2. Iinkcukacha-manani zifunyenwe kuwe
- 3. Umthwalo wokuqala womtshato
- 4. Ukuba ngumzali wesibini
- 5. Umtshato wesibini ufumana ngokukhawuleza okukhulu
- 6. Imiba yezemali
- 7. Iiholide ezingaqhelekanga
- Imiba yobudlelwane sijamelene nayo sonke
- 9. Isifo sesibini somfazi
Ubudlelwane buza buhambe, kwaye oko kulindeleke. Into engalindelwanga ngokwesiqhelo iya kuba ngumfazi wesibini.
Khange ukhule ucinga; Andikwazi kulinda de ndidibane nendoda eqhawule umtshato! Ngandlela thile, kusenokwenzeka ukuba uhlala unomfanekiso womntu ongazange atshate.
Oko akuthethi ukuba ayinakuba yinto entle. Ayithethi ukuba ayizukuhlala. Kuthetha ukuba ukuba ngumfazi wesibini kuza nemiceli mingeni emininzi apha endleleni.
Bukela kwakhona: Isikhokelo sabafazi besibini ukwenza usapho olonwabileyo oludibeneyo.
Nantsi imiceli mngeni eli-9 yokuba ngumfazi wesibini ekufuneka uyilumkele:
1. Ibala elibi
“Lo ngumfazi wakho wesibini.” Kukho nje into oziva ebantwini xa beqonda ukuba ungumfazi wesibini; njengawe ibhaso lokuthuthuzela, indawo yesibini kuphela.
Enye yeengxaki zokuba ngumfazi wesibini kukuba ngesizathu esithile, Abantu abamkeli kangako umfazi wesibini.
Kufana naxa usengumntwana, kwaye ubunaye oyena mhlobo usenyongweni okoko wawuselusana; ke, ngequbuliso, kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, unaye umhlobo omtsha osenyongweni.
Kodwa ngelo xesha, akukho mntu unokukujonga ngaphandle komhlobo wokuqala. Kuluhlazo olunzima ukubaleka kwaye kunokukhokelela kwimiceli mngeni emininzi yomtshato wesibini.
2. Iinkcukacha-manani zifunyenwe kuwe
Kuxhomekeka kumthombo, amaxabiso oqhawulo-mtshato ayothusa. Amanani aqhelekileyo phaya ngoku athi ama-50 epesenti yemitshato yokuqala iphelela kuqhawulo-mtshato, kwaye Iipesenti ezingama-60 zemitshato yesibini iphela ngoqhawulo-mtshato.
Kutheni le nto liphezulu okwesibini ukujikeleza? Ngaba zininzi izinto, kodwa kuba umntu emtshatweni sele eqhawule umtshato, ukhetho lubonakala ngathi lukhona kwaye aloyikisi.
Ngokucacileyo, oko akuthethi ukuba umtshato wakho uya kuphela, kukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba ube ngowokuqala.
3. Umthwalo wokuqala womtshato
Ukuba umntu obetshatile okwesibini ebetshatile ngaphambili khange abenabo abantwana, ke amathuba okuba bangaze baphinde bathethe ne-ex yabo kwakhona. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba abonzakalanga kancinci.
Ubudlelwane bunzima, kwaye ukuba izinto zihamba kakubi, siyalimala. Obo bubomi. Singafunda kwakhona ukuba ukuba asifuni kuphinda wenzakele, sibeke udonga, okanye olunye uhlengahlengiso.
Olo hlobo lwempahla lunokuba yingozi kumtshato wesibini kwaye lujongela phantsi naziphi na izibonelelo zokuba ngumfazi wesibini.
4. Ukuba ngumzali wesibini
Ukuba ngumzali kunzima ngokwaneleyo; ngokwenyani, ukuba ngumzali wesibini kuphume kweli hlabathi kunzima.
Abanye abantwana abanakho ukwamkela umama okanye utata omtsha, ke ukubethelela amaxabiso okanye ukugcina imithetho kubo kunokuba nzima.
Oku kunokwenza ubomi basekhaya obucelomngeni imihla ngemihla. Nokuba abantwana bamnkela okanye bamkela kancinci, okungaphezulu kunokuba kungakulungeli nomntu omtsha kubomi bomntwana wabo.
Nditsho nosapho olwandisiweyo njengoomakhulu nootatomkhulu, oomakazi, oomalume, njl.
5. Umtshato wesibini ufumana ngokukhawuleza okukhulu
Imitshato emininzi yokuqala iqala ngabantu abancinci abancinci, abangathandekiyo, abangaphazanyiswa zizinto zobomi. Ihlabathi liyimbatyisi yabo. Baphupha kakhulu. Yonke into enokwenzeka ibonakala ifumaneka kubo.
Kodwa kule minyaka idlulileyo, njengoko singena kwi-30 kunye ne-40s yethu, sikhula kwaye siqonda ukuba ubomi buyazenzekela, nokuba ucwangcisela ezinye izinto.
Imitshato yesibini injalo. Imitshato yesibini ifana nohlobo oluqolileyo lokutshata kwakhona.
Umdala ngoku, kwaye ufunde izinto ezinzima. Ke umtshato wesibini uhlala ungaphantsi kobuqhophololo kunye nangakumbi kubomi bemihla ngemihla obuqhotyoshelweyo.
6. Imiba yezemali
Isibini esitshatileyo esihlala kunye sinokufumana ityala elininzi, kodwa kuthekani ngomtshato ophelayo?
Oko kudla ngokuzisa ityala ngakumbi kunye nokungaqiniseki.
Kukho ukwahlulwa kweeasethi, umntu ngamnye athabathe nokuba leliphi ityala, kunye nokuhlawula imali yegqwetha, njl.
Kukho nobunzima bokuziphilisa njengomntu ongatshatanga. Yonke le ngxaki yemali inokuguqulela kumtshato wesibini onzima ngokwezemali.
7. Iiholide ezingaqhelekanga
Xa abahlobo bakho bethetha ngeKrisimesi kwaye nosapho lonke belapho kunye-ungaphaya ucinga, "I-ex inabantwana beKrisimesi ..." Bummer.
Zininzi izinto malunga nosapho oluqhawule umtshato olungenakwenziwa ngokwesiko, ngakumbi iiholide. Kunokuba ngumceli mngeni xa ulindele ukuba amaxesha esiqhelo enzeka ukuba abe yindlela ethile, kodwa ke akunjalo.
Imiba yobudlelwane sijamelene nayo sonke
Ngelixa umtshato wesibini unokuphumelela, iselulwalamano olwenziwe ngabantu ababini abangafezekanga. Kusanyanzelekile ukuba sibe neminye imiba yobudlelwane efanayo esijongana nayo amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ukuba amanxeba obuhlobo obudala akaphilanga.
9. Isifo sesibini somfazi
Nangona zininzi izibonelelo zokuba ngumfazi wesibini, unokuziva ungonelisekanga xa ugcwalisa izithuba ezishiywe ngulowo wayesakuba ngumfazi kunye nabantwana.
Oku kunokukhokelela kwinto eyaziwa kakhulu eyaziwa ngokuba yi-'wesibini yomfazi wesifo. ' Nantsi eminye imiqondiso yokuba uvumile ukuba isifo sesibini somfazi sikhule ekhayeni lakho:
- Uhlala uziva ukuba iqabane lakho ngokwazi okanye ngokungazi libeka usapho lwangaphambili phambi kwakho kunye neemfuno zakho.
- Uziva unganqabisekanga ngokulula kwaye ucaphuka njengoko uziva ukuba yonke into iqabane lakho eliyijikelezayo yayingumfazi wakhe kunye nabantwana.
- Uzibona uhlala uzithelekisa nowayesakuba ngumfazi wakhe.
- Uziva isidingo sokuseka ulawulo ngakumbi kwizigqibo zeqabane lakho.
- Uziva ubambekile kwaye uzive ngathi awungowalapho ukhoyo.
Ukuba ngumfazi wesibini kwindoda etshatileyo kunokuba nzima, kwaye ukuba awulumkanga ngokwaneleyo, unokuzibhaqa sele ungenaxhala lokungazithembi.
Yiyo loo nto ngaphambi kokuba uqalise uhambo lwakho lomtshato, kufuneka uqonde iingxaki zomtshato wesibini kunye nendlela yokuzisingatha.