Umxholo
- 1. Khangela inkxaso engakumbi
- Cwangcisa ixesha lokuxela kunye neqabane lakho lokukhohlisa
- 3. Misela umthetho oza kuvunyelwa ukuba ubuze ukuba uphi
- 4. Funa iqabane lakho ukuba licoce ubumdaka babo
- 5. Yamkela into eyenzekileyo, mayiyeke uxole
Lonke ulwalamano luba namava emiceli mngeni emininzi eya kuba yeyohlukileyo kulwalamano oluthile okanye wabelane ngobuso obuqhelekileyo nolunye ubudlelwane obujikelezileyo.
Inokwenzeka into yokuba abanye bajongane nemeko yokungathembeki. Kwaye abantu basabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Uninzi lwabantu lunokucebisa ukuba umntu ayeke ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuhlala nomkhohlisi ngelixa abanye becebisa ngokuthatha inyathelo umva kwaye uzame ukulungisa izinto. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ngumzamo wokuzama kubudlelwane onokuthi ufune iingcebiso ngobuchule kuwo omabini amacala.
Kutheni abantu begqiba ekubeni kubudlelwane emva kokungathembeki
Zininzi izizathu zokuba kutheni abantu benokuthi bathathe isigqibo sokuhlala kubudlelwane okanye emtshatweni nokuba ujongene nokungathembeki. Kwinkoliso yamabhinqa, anokukufumanisa kunzima ukugcina usapho lodwa luhleli lodwa. Kweminye, kungenxa yezizathu zemali-nokuba abanako ukubonelela abantwana okanye abanakho nje ukubushiya ubomi obulungileyo.
Abanye abantu, ayibobulumko ukushiya ubudlelwane beminyaka emininzi ungakhange ulwe.
Ke, apha ngezantsi kukho iingcebiso ezi-5 ezixabisekileyo kwabo bathi, ngasizathu sithile, bathathe isigqibo sokuxhoma kunye nokulwa okanye ukuzama ukwenza ubudlelwane bube ngcono kwakhona emva kwetyala lokungathembeki.
1. Khangela inkxaso engakumbi
Ayinamsebenzi ukuba ngubani okhohlisiweyo, nokuba ngumfazi okanye ngumyeni. Ukufumana kwakhona ukungathembeki yinto enobuqili. Kukho imiba enje nge-egos eyaphukileyo, ukuziva ungonelisekanga, ukuthembana okuqhekeziweyo kunye neqabane ngoku elizive ngathi ngumphambukeli ekufuneka kujongwane nalo ngokufanelekileyo.
Awuqinisekanga ngento omele uyikholelwe malunga nexesha elidlulileyo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo, hayi malunga ngoku okanye ngekamva.
Konke ngequbuliso, uba neliso elibukhali ngakumbi, ukrokrele, ukhathazeke malunga nezinto ezazingekabikho. Uba snoopier, kwaye awusalithembi ilizwi lakho langaphakathi kwakhona.
Phambi kwazo zonke ezi zinto, ayizenzululwazi zerocket ukucinga ukuba kutheni umntu efuna inkxaso kunye nangaphezulu. Yijonge kubahlobo abathembekileyo, usapho, iincwadi, amaqela enkxaso nakwingcali onokufikelela kwaye ubathembe.
Cwangcisa ixesha lokuxela kunye neqabane lakho lokukhohlisa
Ayinamsebenzi ukuba bazichaze kangakanani emva kokufumanisa ukungathembeki. Usenemibuzo esisigidi ofuna iimpendulo kuyo.
Lungiselela ixesha elichaziweyo lemibuzo yakho malunga nobungakanani kunye nembali yokukhohlisa ukuze iphendulwe.
Thatha ixesha lakho ukuzinika iinkcukacha, cinga ngazo kwaye uzame ukunxibelelanisa indlela yokuziphatha kunye namaxesha apho wawuziva ukuba izinto bezingekho.
Ukuba uza kuphinda uphumelele ekukopeni, iqabane lakho eliqhathayo kufuneka lize licocekile, bonisa ukuzimisela ukuba ungaze ubandakanyeke kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha kwakhona ukuya phambili.
Oku kunokwenzeka kuphela xa betyhila yonke into ekufuneka uyive nangakumbi malunga nokuba ubuqhetseba benzekile, izizathu kunye nendlela eqale ngayo.
3. Misela umthetho oza kuvunyelwa ukuba ubuze ukuba uphi
Misela umthetho oza kuvunyelwa ukuba ubuze ukuba uphi kunye nobungqina babo kwiqabane eliqhathe, nangaliphi na ixesha uziva ungaqinisekanga okanye ungaqinisekanga.
Nangona kunjalo, akufuneki uyenze yesiqhelo okanye umsebenzi osisigxina ukubeka esweni iqabane lakho. Kulungile ukubuza ukuba uphi na ubungqina obufanayo xa uziva ukuba izinto ezithile azongezi. Mhlawumbi lilizwi labo elihlekisayo, okanye icebo livakala lingaqhelekanga kakhulu.
Ukuba unembali yokuncamathelisa intloko entlabathini xa ujongene neengcebiso ezibonakalayo, iqabane lakho kufuneka liyithathe rhoqo ukuze licele ukuqinisekiswa kwezikrokro zakho okanye wabelane ngazo.
Iqabane lakho kufuneka liqonde ukuba ukuthembana kwakho kwaphuka xa bekukhohlisa kwaye ekuphela kwendlela yokuphinda uyakhe ebusweni beeflegi ezibomvu ezingenakubalwa kukufuna ukuqinisekiswa kwezikrokro zakho. Kuya kufuneka babuqonde ubunzima bokuhlala nomkhohlisi kwaye bancede ekuphulukweni kwakhona.
4. Funa iqabane lakho ukuba licoce ubumdaka babo
Iqabane lakho lokukhohlisa kufuneka likulungele ukucoca ukungcola kwabo ngokuphelisa unxibelelwano nabo bonke abantu, iinkonzo, iisayithi okanye iiapps ezinxibelelane nendlela yokuziphatha yokufumanisa ukukopa.
Ngapha koko, kuyacetyiswa ukuba ubonise ubungqina bokupheliswa. Abanye bacebisa ukuba oku kwenziwa phambi kwakho ukucoca onke amathandabuzo avelayo kamva.
5. Yamkela into eyenzekileyo, mayiyeke uxole
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuhlala kubudlelwane kukwamkela okwenzekileyo kwaye uzame ukuqhubeka. Ngokwenza njalo, uthi kwiqabane lakho lokukhohlisa ukuba ubathanda kakhulu kangangokuba uzimisele kwaye ukulungele ukunika ithuba lesibini ukuba bakulungele ukutshintsha.
Nangona abantu abaninzi beyibonakalisile intetho yokuba “xa umntu ekhohlisa, uhlala ekhohlisa,” akuyonyani kwaphela.
Nangona kunjalo, lumka ukuze iqabane lakho lingasebenzisi ithuba lokwamkelwa kwakho kwaye likusebenzise kuwe.
Nje ukuba ukwamkele ukungathembeki kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuhlala, kuya kufuneka uyeke kwaye uxolele iqabane lakho. Awunakukutshintsha okwenzekileyo, kwaye akukho sidingo sokwenza intsimbi yonke imini kwaye wonakalisa amathuba akho okwakha ukuthembana kwakho kwakhona.
Esi sisigqibo esaziwayo osithathayo entliziyweni yakho ngeenjongo zokugcina ubudlelwane bakho. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuhlala, wenza oko kuba iqabane lakho eliqhathayo lingqinile ukuba likulungele ukuhamba umgama kunye nawe kwaye awuzukujonga ngasemva.
Oko akuthethi ukuba xa uxolela, uya kuba yimfama kwiiflegi ezibomvu ezibonakalayo.
Ukuba uza kuyakha kwakhona intembeko yakho, funa iinkcazo zeeflegi ezibomvu.
Yonke into ethethiweyo kunye neyenziweyo, ukhetho lokuhlala nomntu okopayo okanye ukuyeka ishiyeke kunye neqabane eliqhathiweyo. Kububulumko kuphela ukuthatha yonke into uyithathele ingqalelo ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo xa ujongene nokungathembeki.