Ngesinye isihlandlo, xa ndandikwiklasi yesikolo esiphumeleleyo, uprofesa osisilumko wabuza abafundi abaphumeleleyo ukuba yintoni intsingiselo yothando? Zonke ii-prima donnas ziphakamise izandla zazo ezinomdla wokubonelela ngempendulo ebonakalayo. Unjingalwazi, njengesiqhelo sakhe, wanikina intloko nje ngapha nangapha. Ekugqibeleni, xa saphelelwa ngamacebo, wathi: “Ilula. Uthando = Fascination + Exclusive. ” Fascination sisiseko somtsalane wokuqala. Ayisiyesondo kuphela kwaye inomdla kodwa ibhekisa kumnqweno wokwazi ngakumbi nangakumbi malunga neqabane lakho. Ukuba wedwa kuthetha ukuba ungathanda ukuba neqabane lakho ngaphezu kwakhe nabani na ehlabathini.
Kodwa emva kwenqaku lexesha, umbono wokuthabatheka kunye nomnqweno wedwa uyaphela. Izibini ezitshatileyo zichitha ixesha elininzi kunye kangangokuba into yokhetho ilahlekelwa lixabiso layo. Umtsalane nawo ufikelela esiphelweni xa kungekho nto iseleyo sokwazi ngakumbi malunga neqabane lakho.
Ngoku, xa umtsalane kunye nokuzikhethela kuphuma ngefestile, izibini ziqala ukubonisa iindlela zokuziphatha eziguqulweyo. Iindlela zokuziphatha eziguqulweyo aziyonto ngaphandle kwezicwangciso zokujongana nokuphulukana nothando kubudlelwane.
Nantsi into eyenziwa zizibini xa uthando luyancipha kubudlelwane-
1. NGAPHANDLE
Sikude neqabane lethu xa sirhoxa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Sinokuphuma ngaphandle, siphazanyiswe ziinkxalabo zomsebenzi, sitshaye ngokugqithileyo, kwaye mhlawumbi sibi kunazo zonke ezi ntsuku, singene kwi-Screen Addiction. Le yokugqibela ixhasa umabonwakude, uFacebook, ukhangela i-Intanethi kwaye ewe ...... imidlalo yevidiyo. Ngamanye amaxesha omabini amaqela akha umtshato ofanayo apho ahlala khona ngokusebenza, nokuba sele enabantwana, kodwa kunqabile ukuba ahlangane ngokusondeleyo kwaye bangadibana.
Elona qhinga lokugqibela kukuya kwimicimbi engaphandle komtshato. Oku kukhokelela ekuziphatheni ngokufihlakeleyo, kwiintloni, kunye nokwahlukana komtshato. Iqabane lihlala lidinwa ngamanye amaxesha, lihlala lishiya ubungqina kwiselfowuni okanye kwidesktop yekhompyuter. Kungenzeka ukuba oku kuziphatha kude kwenzeke ngenxa yesilayidi esingaqondakaliyo kwisithukuthezi esingavunyelwanga liqela. Esi sibini sinokuya kunyango lomtshato kodwa kwezinye iimeko, bayadibana ngokushiya iimvakalelo zabo zokwenyani. Oku kugcina umtshato "ngokungathi" kodwa bobabini amaqela ngasese bahlala bengonelisekanga.
2. NGOKUCHASANA NAYO
Njengoko unokucinga, esi sicwangciso siphinda sisebenzise ubundlongondlongo, kokubini ngamazwi nangokwasemzimbeni. Endaweni yokurhoxa ususe iziphazamiso kunye neziyobisi, elinye okanye omabini amaqabane abaxambulisana. Banokulindela ngenkuthalo oko omnye aza kukuthetha okanye bakuthethe "rhoqo" kwaye "soze" izityholo ezigxeka ugxa wabo. Endaweni yokuba neemvakalelo kwesi sicwangciso-qhinga sigxibha enye njengotshaba olusenyongweni, ukulawulwa nokulawulwa.
Imicimbi yomsindo inyanzelekile ukuba ivele kumtshato oqaqambileyo / wokuthobela ongalungelelananga. Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kotywala kunokubangela ubundlongondlongo, ngamanye amaxesha kukhokelele ekunyukeni komzimba, imiba yezomthetho, kwaye ekugqibeleni, uqhawulo-mtshato. Ukucacisa nje, ayisiyindoda kuphela eyaphula umthetho kwesi sicwangciso. Ndinamatyala amaninzi apho umntu obhinqileyo eqhuba umyeni wakhe ngokuhlanya ngezikhalazo rhoqo kwaye abe ngumqokeleli wokungekho sikweni weziphoso ezidlulileyo.
3. NGOKUYA
Esi sicwangciso-qhinga sithe cwaka ngakumbi kwaye kubandakanya ukuxhomekeka kakhulu kwelinye iqela kwelinye. Oku kuhamba ngaphaya kokuzikhethela ukuya kwinqanaba apho elinye iqabane lifunxa igazi lobomi kumlingane walo, lihlala libandakanyeka ekudalweni kweengxaki, ingqalelo ekuziphatheni, kunye neemfuno zobudlelwane obusenyongweni obuyityeshela iminqweno yomnye. Ngalo lonke eli xesha, esi sicwangciso sikhokelela ekuziphatheni, nasekuhlukaniseni, ubukhulu becala kukothuka kweqabane elixhomekekileyo elimbona njengothandekayo nothando. Ukuba iqabane elizimeleyo ngokwalo aliphindisi, umzekelo, ngezicatshulwa, izipho, imali, okanye isondo, iqabane elixhomekekileyo linokubandakanya kwisicwangciso esichaseneyo.
Konke oku kubonakala kungathandeki. Ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, sonke siyabandakanyeka kwezi zicwangciso, kwaye ngokucacileyo, ngumcimbi wokuzibaxa izinto. Ukuba wena kunye / okanye iqabane lakho libonisa nayiphi na kwezi ndlela zokuziphatha rhoqo kuya kufuneka nifune unyango emtshatweni. Unyango luyakunceda uqaphele kwaye uvume ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ukuze uzitshintshe kwaye iimfuno zeqela ngalinye ziyafezekiswa ngamanye amaxesha.