Umxholo
- Funda ukwenza utshintsho
- Phinda wenze ikhemistri yesondo
- Guqula kwindlela yesiqhelo
- Iingcinga malunga nekamva
- Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukuzonwabisa kunye
- Funda ukubeka omnye komnye kuqala
Ukuwa eluthandweni kwakhona emva kwesigaba sokwahlukana emtshatweni yeyona nto ilungileyo kuye nabani na kubudlelwane obunengxaki onokuba nethemba layo. Iindaba ezimnandi? Xa kwenziwe kakuhle, ukwahlukana kuvuselela uthando emtshatweni. Ngaba le ngxelo iyintsomi? Hayi akunjalo! Nokuba owona mtshato womeleleyo unokuhlaselwa ngumona, ukungathembeki, iinjongo ezahlukileyo, kunye nokungabikho kothando omnye komnye. Le miqobo ingenza izibini zive ngathi ukulungisa ubudlelwane bazo yinjongo engenathemba. Inyani yile yokuba izibini ezahlulayo ngamanye amaxesha ziye zifumanise ukuba zitsalelekile emva kunye kwaye zikulungele ngakumbi kunangaphambili ukulungisa imicimbi yazo kwaye zizama ukubeka omnye nomnye kuqala emtshatweni. Nantsi indlela ukwahlula okunokuthi kuvuselele uthando kwimanyano yomtshato.
Funda ukwenza utshintsho
Kuthatha amabini ukuphelisa ubudlelwane. Ngexesha lokwahlukana iimvakalelo ziphezulu kwaye kunzima ukuthatha uxanduva malunga nokungahambi kakuhle emtshatweni. Kodwa, ukufunda ukwenza utshintsho kubalulekile ekuvuseleleni uthando kumtshato wakho.
Ukwahlukana neqabane lakho, wakwazi ukuthatha ixesha lakho kwaye wafunda ukuyeka uxinzelelo, unxunguphalo kunye nomsindo owawuziva ngomtshato wakho. Ngamanye amaxesha umgama ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni omnye komnye unokudala ukuphola okugqibeleleyo kwexesha enikudinga kakhulu nobabini. Oku kukuvumela ukuba ubuye kunye neentloko ezicacileyo kwaye uphonononge ubudlelwane bakho kwakhona, wenze utshintsho olufanelekileyo
Phinda wenze ikhemistri yesondo
Uhlala ufuna into ongenakuba nayo. Ngexesha lokwahlukana kwakho, ulangazelela unxibelelwano ngesondo. Mhlawumbi hayi neqabane lakho ekuqaleni, kodwa njengoko uqala ukuthetha kunye nokusebenza kubudlelwane bakho umdla wakho wesondo kwiqabane lakho ngokukhawuleza uqala kwakhona. Njengokuba uqala ukuthandana, ngequbuliso ukubrasha isandla sakho ngokuchasene naye okanye ukukhankanywa nje ngesondo uye waziva unomdla wokulangazelela, ulindelo kunye nolonwabo ngokwesondo. Izibini ezininzi zisebenzisa eli nqanaba limnandi kunye nelithandekayo lokuthandana ukuze bahlole indlela entsha yokuziphatha ngokwesondo kunye.
Ukuvuselela ikhemistri yakho yesini kukwathetha ukuthetha ngesondo. Ufuna kangakanani, ngendlela ofuna ukuba yenziwe ngayo, yintoni esebenzayo emtshatweni wakho ngaphambili kwaye zeziphi iindawo ezifuna ukusebenza. Gxila kwizinto ezintle zobomi bakho besini esidala kwaye ujonge ngolangazelelo kwizinto ezizayo ezizayo.
Guqula kwindlela yesiqhelo
Njengesibini esitshatileyo, nicinga ukuba niyicingele yonke into. Ubunesiqhelo sakho saphakathi evekini osicwangcisele ezantsi kwiimenyu zokutya kunye nakwimovie yakho yangoLwesihlanu ebusuku.Abanye abantu balufumana olu hlobo lobomi buneenkcukacha luyathuthuzela kwaye lunomvuzo, kodwa abanye balufumanisa luyinto eqhelekileyo. Ukwahlukana kuvuselela uthando emtshatweni ngenxa yenyani yokuba yinto entsha leyo.
Ngokwahlula-hlula uphose isitshixo kubomi bakho obucwangciswe ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye ucoce izinto phezulu, nokuba ngaba kukwindleko yolonwabo lwakho lomtshato. Ukususwa kweendlela ezimfiliba kunokuzinyikimisa izinto kwaye kwenze ukuba nolwalamano lwakho, unxibelelane kwakhona neqabane lakho, kwaye nisebenze emtshatweni obusoloko uphupha ukuziva unomdla.
Iingcinga malunga nekamva
Ukungatshati kusenokubonakala kumnandi ekuqaleni, ngakumbi xa ubuhlekwa okanye ungcatshwa liqabane lakho. Nangona kunjalo, uninzi olungenangqondo ngokukhawuleza lufumanisa ukuba ukucwangcisa ikamva lodwa solo akufezekisi njengoko bebecinga njalo. Ukucinga ngekamva leeholide ezinesizungu, ukuba ngumzali ngokwahlukeneyo, kunye nembono yokuqalisa ngokutsha nomntu omtsha ngoku kubonakala ngathi ngumceli mngeni otyhafisayo. Ezi ngcinga zikwenza ucinge ngamaxesha amahle kunye neqabane lakho kwaye zikuncede ujonge kwiimpawu ezintle zomtshato wakho. Oku kwahlukana kuvuselela uthando emtshatweni kwaye kubangela ukuba nobabini nijolise kwiindlela eninokubuyela ngazo kunye kwaye nilungise iimpazamo ezenzekileyo ngexesha lobudlelwane benu.
Ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo
Ukwahlukana kuvuselela uthando emtshatweni ikakhulu ngenxa yotshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha. Ngexesha lokwahlukana ungaqala ukuthandana kwakhona, uphathana ngendlela enakha nenza ngayo ukuqala kwenu ukudibana. Isidlo sasemini esimangazayo, izidlo zothando, inkanuko kunye nolindelo lwezesondo lunokuphinda lube namandla, kodwa eyona nto ibalulekileyo 'yokuthandana' kukuba uphinde waqalisa ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuba nobucala, amaxesha amnandi kunye kunye nokwabelana ngencoko enzulu kuya kukunceda ufunde ukuba sesichengeni kwakhona, ukwabelana ngamava anentsingiselo, ukuhleka kunye nokonwaba njengesibini kwakhona. Ezi mvakalelo zinegalelo kulonwabo olupheleleyo nakwimpilo yomtshato wakho ukuya phambili.
Ukuzonwabisa kunye
Ubudlelwane kufuneka bube mnandi. Xa abantu ababini bezama ukwenza ubudlelwane babo obaphukileyo, bafuna ukushiya umbono omkhulu kwi-ex yabo xa befumana ithuba lokuchitha ixesha kunye. Ukudala amava amatsha, ukuthatha izinto zokuzonwabisa ezifanayo, kunye nokucwangcisa imisebenzi yosapho kuthetha ukuba zonke iintlanganiso zakho kunye ziyonwabisa kwaye zinomvuzo. Ewe uyazi ukuba ubomi bemihla ngemihla abuzukupakishwa kwi-brim ngamava amatsha kunye nemihla eqhubekayo, kodwa la mava alungileyo aya kukunceda ukutshintsha umbono wakho malunga nokuba ubudlelwane bakho bunokuba njani ukuba ndiphinde ndadibana ne ex yakho.
Ukuthatha uhambo lwangeempelaveki, ukucwangcisa ubusuku bemini, kubandakanya abantwana bakho kubusuku bosapho, kunye nemihla yekofu emangazayo ikunika izimvo ezintle zokuqhubeka nokonakala xa nibuyelana. Ezi ndlela zokuziphatha zikwagxininisa ukubaluleka kokuqhubeka nokuba "noMhla woBusuku" emva kokudibana kwakho.
Funda ukubeka omnye komnye kuqala
Ukwahlukana kuvuselela uthando emtshatweni kuba nobabini niqonda ukuba kufuneka nibeke phambili omnye komnye ukuze umtshato wenu uphumelele okwesibini. Ukuba semngciphekweni ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokunyaniseka kunokuba kusilela kakhulu kulwalamano lwakho. Ukuba nabo kwisigaba esitsha sobudlelwane bakho kunokukunceda unxibelelane omnye nomnye kumanqanaba ongazange wazi ukuba kunokwenzeka ngaphambili. Ngoku ufunda ukunxibelelana, uphonononga ikhemistri yakho yesini. Kuya kufuneka ngoku nichithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, kwaye niyonwabele imbandezelo yomhla wokuqala njengangaphambili. Le yindlela efanelekileyo yokuvuselela uthando kumtshato wakho owaphukileyo.