Umxholo
- Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzimela kubudlelwane bakho?
- Ngaba ukuzimela geqe kungalonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho?
- A. Kuchaphazela unxibelelwano
- B. Inokuchaphazela ukuzithemba kweqabane lakho
- 6 Amanyathelo okuphumeza ukuxhomekeka
- 1. Qala ngokuthatha ubunini
- 2.Track it to down to its root and deal with it
- 3.Nxibelelana neqabane lakho
- 4. Vula ingqondo yakho kwinto enokuthi ifumaneke
- 5. Thatha isigqibo ngento eyamkelekileyo kulwalamano
- 6. Zisoloko uzikhumbuze ukuba kulungile ukuxhomekeka kwiqabane lakho
- Isiphelo
Ubukhulu becala, wonke umntu uthanda iqabane elizimeleyo; uhlobo oluqhutywa kwaye lukhuthazwe lunengqondo eyeyalo kwaye lunokuzenzela izigqibo, kwaye olunokuthi lubangenele xa lungafumaneki ngokulula.
Nangona sikhetha nje ukuba nolu hlobo lweqabane, lishiya umbuzo obalulekileyo ezingqondweni zabantu abaninzi. "Ngaba ukuzimela kakhulu kubudlelwane bam kunokuba yingxaki kum?"
Nantsi into. Ukuphendula lo mbuzo kusenokungabi lula, kuba kukho amacala aliqela kweli nxaki. Nangona kunjalo, siya kwenza konke okusemandleni ethu ukuvavanya oku kweli nqaku ngononophelo.
Ekugqibeleni, uya kukuqonda ukuba ukuzimela kubudlelwane kuthetha ntoni, kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba wena (okanye iqabane lakho) nizimele kakhulu kubudlelwane.
Siza kuvavanya kwakhona umxholo wokuxhomekeka kubudlelwane kunye nendlela yokwenza oku ukusebenzele.
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuzimela kubudlelwane bakho?
Ukuzimela kubudlelwane bakho yimeko apho ufundile kwaye wakwazi ukuba ngumntu wakho (ukusebenza njengeziko elahlukileyo nelikwaziyo ukuqiqa), nangona usebudlelwaneni nomntu.
Kukukwazi kwakho ukucinga iingcinga zakho, wenze izigqibo zakho, kwaye ugcine nobuntu bakho ngaphandle kokuvumela ezi zinto zingene endleleni yokuthandana kwakho neqabane lakho.
Ngaba ukuzimela geqe kungalonakalisa ulwalamano lwakho?
Nantsi inyani!
Elinye inqanaba lokuzimela liyimfuneko ukuba ufuna ukuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni. Nangona kunjalo, ukuzimela kakhulu kunokwenzakalisa ubudlelwane bakho.
Ke, le yimpendulo elula kumbuzo.
"Ewe. Nangona ukuzimela (ukusa kumkhamo othile) kubalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano olusempilweni, ukuzimela geqe kungalonakalisa ulwalamano lwenu. ”
Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa ekunokwenzeka ngazo oku.
A. Kuchaphazela unxibelelwano
Unxibelelwano lubalulekile kulwalamano ngalunye kwaye ukwenza lo msebenzi, kukho inqanaba lomngcipheko ofunekayo kuwo onke amaqabane. Unxibelelwano olusebenzayo lufuna ukuba uwise ezinye iindonga zakho kwaye uvumele iqabane lakho lingene.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuzimela kakhulu kunokuchaphazela kakhulu oku kuba xa uzimele kakhulu, ungalivala iqabane lakho ngokweemvakalelo.
B. Inokuchaphazela ukuzithemba kweqabane lakho
Xa uzithembile kakhulu, kukho konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ungazinza ngokugqithileyo kwizigqibo zakho kwaye ungalunqaba uncedo oluvela kwiqabane lakho.
Xa, ngaphezulu kwexesha elininzi, usenza izigqibo ezizimeleyo (ngakumbi kwimicimbi echaphazela wena kunye neqabane lakho), kwaye ukufumanisa kunzima ukwamkela inkathalo kunye nengqwalaselo yabo, banokuwutolika umyalezo ngendlela engeyiyo. Oku kunokubeka ingxaki kulwalamano lwakho.
Ngoku siye safumanisa ukuba ukuzimela kakhulu kunokubuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane bakho, unokwenza ntoni ukujongana nayo?
6 Amanyathelo okuphumeza ukuxhomekeka
Ukuxhomekeka (okwabizwa ngokuba kukuxhomekeka) sisisombululo kukuzimela geqe kubudlelwane. Kuqwalaselwa njengomhlaba okhuselekileyo phakathi kokuzimela kakhulu kunye nokuxhomekeka okugqithisileyo / ukunamathela kubudlelwane.
Ukuxhomekeka kuxhomekeke xa kukho ulungelelwaniso phakathi kwakho kunye neqabane labo kubudlelwane. Ubudlelwane obuxhomekeke kubo bobabini apho abantu ababini abomeleleyo nabazimeleyo babandakanyeka kwezothando, kodwa bangazincami kwinkqubo okanye baphulukane nobuntu babo.
Kubudlelwane obuxhomekeke kwabanye, onke amaqabane akholelwa kwiziqu zabo nakwizakhono zabo, kodwa bayazi ukuba umgca kunye nendlela uyibeka njani.
Jonga le vidiyo ichaza uhambo ukusuka kwinkululeko ukuya ekuxhomekekeni:
Ukufezekisa ukuxhomekeka, nantsi inyathelo eli-6 lokulandela.
1. Qala ngokuthatha ubunini
Oku kunokuthetha ukuthatha ubunini kwiimvakalelo zakho, izenzo zakho, kunye nendlela osabela ngayo kwiqabane lakho. Kweli nqanaba lohambo lokuxhomekeka kwelinye ilizwe, ukuzivavanya kuya kuba yimfuneko.
2.Track it to down to its root and deal with it
Umceli mngeni onokuba ujamelana nawo nokuzimela kakhulu unokunxulumana ngokuthe ngqo kwinto eyadlulayo.
Xa ukwenzile oku, kungafuneka usebenzise uxinzelelo kuwe (ngokwasemphefumlweni nasengqondweni) kwaye uzifundise ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokwamkela ukhathalelo kunye noqwalaselo kwiqabane lakho. Kwakhona, ukumamela kwabo ayisiyonto ebonisa ubuthathaka, kodwa amandla.
3.Nxibelelana neqabane lakho
Uhambo ukusuka ekuzimeleni ukuya ekuxhomekekeni kubudlelwane bakho kunokuba yinto enzima, ngakumbi ukuba iqabane lakho alazi ukuba unokuba uhlangabezana nantoni.
Ngaphantsi kwezi meko, enye yezona zinto zibalaseleyo onokuzenza kukubavulela kwaye ubangenise kwimizabalazo onokuba unayo.
Ayisiyi kuphela ukubanceda bakuqonde kwaye bakunqumle kancinci, kodwa inokubonyusa ukuzithemba kwabo kakhulu.
4. Vula ingqondo yakho kwinto enokuthi ifumaneke
Kuba isicwangciso sakho kukuba nobudlelwane obuxhomekekileyo nobusempilweni, ukumisa ingqondo yakho ukuba ikwamkele oku njengenyaniso kubalulekile.Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukuziqhelanisa nombono wakho ukuba ukuhlobo olufanelekileyo lolwalamano olufunayo. Ingcinga yakho iya kudlala indima ephambili kweli nyathelo.
5. Thatha isigqibo ngento eyamkelekileyo kulwalamano
Oku kufuneka kwenziwe neqabane lakho.
Ukuqonda okucacileyo ngento eyamkelekileyo kuni nobabini kubudlelwane kuya kunceda ugcine ulwazi lokuba kukho imida ehlonitshwayo ngawo onke amaqela, nokuba usebenza ngokuzimela geqe kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukongeza, kuya kufuneka uzibophezele ekuyekeni ukuthatha izigqibo ezibalulekileyo uwedwa. Ukuba sisigqibo malunga nento ebalulekileyo, onke amaqela afanele ukubandakanyeka kwinkqubo yokwenza izigqibo.
6. Zisoloko uzikhumbuze ukuba kulungile ukuxhomekeka kwiqabane lakho
Kangangokuba awufuni kuyamkela le nto, udinga isikhumbuzi rhoqo sokuba kulungile ukuxhomekeka kwiqabane lakho kwizinto ezininzi. Kulungile ukukhathalelwa liqabane lakho, ukuba ube semva kokufumana uthando kunye nokuhoywa, kwaye nokuba sesichengeni kunye nabo ayilo phawu lobuthathaka.
Yonke imihla, zikhumbuze ngezi zinto kwaye uzijonge ungothuswa ngumbono wokugcina ukuxhomekeka kubudlelwane bakho.
Isiphelo
Ngelixa uhlala ubomi bakho njengomntu ongatshatanga, kulula ukufikelela kwinqanaba lokuba uzimele geqe kwaye uzimisele kakhulu kulwalamano. Oku kunokuba ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi, kubandakanya uxinzelelo lwentlalo kunye nemeko yokusingqongileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, xa ungena kubudlelwane, kuyafuneka ukuba ufunde indlela yokusebenza kunye neqabane lakho ekwakheni ubudlelwane obuxhomekeke komnye.
Ukuzimela kakhulu kunokubenzakalisa ubudlelwane bakho. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ulandela amanyathelo esixoxe ngawo kweli nqaku, uyakufumana indlela yokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho ngokuvumela iqabane lakho lingene.