Umxholo
- Inyathelo elibuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo
- Izimbo zomntwana
- Wawela engqondweni yam iminyaka kamva
- Iinkumbulo ezikrakra-ezimnandi
- Ukuthatha imicimbi ngesandla sam
- Iziphumo ezingalindelekanga
Ndihleli apha, ndicinga ngomnye wemibuzo enokuxoxwa ngalo lonke ixesha- Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uhlale ungumhlobo ne ex?
Uninzi lwabantu luyakhawuleza ukuthi banokuba ngabahlobo baka-Lord Voldemort kunabalingane babo bangaphambili.
Nokuba oku kungenxa yokwahlukana okungathandekiyo okanye ukungonwabi okukhulu kokuthetha okuncinci malunga nemozulu nomntu obedla ngokubhekisa kuwe njengomphefumlo wabo, akukho nzima ukukholelwa ukuba uninzi lwabantu lunokukhetha ukubiza ii-exes zabo njengenxalenye yabo Ubomi bangaphambili kunokuba "ngumhlobo wakho".
Kulula ngale ndlela, kubangela ukudideka kunye nokwenzakala okuncinci. Kodwa ngaba indlela elula ihlala iyindlela elungileyo?
Inyathelo elibuyela kwixesha elidlulileyo
Ukubuyela ekholejini, isithandwa sam seminyaka emithathu safika kwisigqibo sokuba akafuni ubudlelwane ngelixa eseYunivesithi.
Yayibuhlungu intliziyo yam kodwa ndizimisele ukuhlala ndingabahlobo abasenyongweni naye, kuba lonke uthando endandinalo kulomfana lwalusekhona.
Kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kamva, waphela ethandana kakhulu nentombazana eyayintle kakhulu ngokuchasene nam. Ayisiyo yokuba wayengafuni ubudlelwane, wayengafuni omnye nam.
Ngelo xesha, umnqweno wam wokuhlala ungumhlobo kunye naye wawutshintshile ngokupheleleyo kum ufuna ukwenza ngathi akazange abekho.
Ngumntwana? Ewe- Kodwa indlela yokuziphatha engakhuliyo kulindeleke ngelixa ujongene nentliziyo yakho yokuqala.
Izimbo zomntwana
Ndikhumbula ndingamlandeli kuzo zonke iindlela zosasazo lwentlalo kunye nokususa yonke imifanekiso yethu kunye kuFacebook, kubandakanya imifanekiso emihle yokukhuthaza.
Yayiyinjongo yam ukumcima ebomini bam nakwiinkumbulo zam ngokukhawuleza njengomntu.
Ukuba ndakhe ndambona edlula kwikona yesitrato, bendiya kudada ndizifihle njengomntu okhohlakeleyo kwi-spy flick.
Ndazimisela ukuba ndingaze ndiphinde ndibeke amehlo kuye, hayi ngaphandle kwento ebuhlungu, kodwa ngenxa nje yentlungu endinayo yokwazi ukuba inkwenkwe endandisathandana nayo sele idlulele kwisahluko sayo esilandelayo.
Kwakungekho ndade ndamsusa ebomini bam (ewe, oko kwakuquka imidiya yoluntu), ukuba ndakwazi ukuqhubeka kakuhle.
Wawela engqondweni yam iminyaka kamva
Okwangoku, ndandiphelele kuye, kodwa bendiqala ukufumanisa ukuba kunzima ukuba singabahlobo.
Sasihleli kwiminyhadala eyahlukeneyo yokutshintsha ubomi kunye, mna naye, kwaye besikade singabantu beplatonic kudala ngaphambi kokuba siqale ukuthandana.
Ngandlela thile, kum, ndaziva ndinyanzelekile ukuba siphephe omnye komnye kunokuba sihlale singabahlobo.
Iinkumbulo ezikrakra-ezimnandi
Lo yayingumfana owakhama isandla sam emngcwabeni kamakhulu wam. Ngulomfana endiphulula umqolo phakathi koqhawulo mtshato lwabazali bakhe.
Lo yayingumfana owayendijikelezile ngobusuku beProm kwaye wandibamba ndalala ngaphezu kwewaka.
Ukubangaba ebeyinxalenye enkulu kangaka yobomi bam, kutheni ndingamfuni? Ngaba abahlobo bokwenene ayingabo abantu abakwaziyo ngaphakathi?
Ukuthatha imicimbi ngesandla sam
Ke ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndimthumelele umyalezo. Into elula, kunye nemigca ye: "Hee, bunjani ubomi?"
Oku kukhokelele kwincoko emdaka awayebonakala engafuni ukuba nayo. Ayinyanzelwanga nje kuphela, kodwa kwakucacile ukuba ngokusekwe kwiimpendulo zakhe, wayengenamnqweno wokuvuselela uhlobo oluthile lwebhondi.
Iziphumo ezingalindelekanga
Ndiyayihlonipha into ayikhethileyo. Bekufanele ndi.
Bendingafuni ukumnyanzela ukuba anxibe ii-BFF zoBomi! iihempe, okanye umbambe de asize nokuxhawula ngasese.
Ewe, loo nto intle kakhulu ngokuchasene ngqo nobuhlobo obunempilo.
Ngamanye amaxesha asizukukhetha ukuba siza kuhlala singabahlobo kunye nomntu esasikunye naye.
Ukuba bacacile kwinto yokuba abanamdla wokuba uhlale uyinxalenye yobomi babo, luxanduva lwakho ukuyamkela iminqweno yabo.
Okuncinci unokukwenza, nokuba kunokudana.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubuhlobo obunamacala amabini buyadandatheka ngakumbi kunobuhlobo konke konke.
Ke, ithini impendulo apha? Ngaba kufuneka uhlale ungumhlobo kunye ne-ex yakho, okanye ngaba yonke into inzima kakhulu?
Impendulo igqibelele kwaye ixhomekeke kuwe nakuthando lwakho lwangaphambili. Ukuba nobabini ninakho ukufikelela kwisigqibo sokuhlala kwi-platonic bond, nditsho ngoba kutheni?
Eyona nto ifunekayo kukuyinika ixesha.
Ukuba awuniki amanxeba akho umoya ofunekayo wokuphefumla, ubuhlobo buya kutshabalala. Ukanti ukuba iminyaka idlulile kwaye nobabini ninoyolo ngayo, inokuba yimisebenzi yobudlelwane obuhle.
Ingaba ucinga ntoni? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uhlale ungumhlobo kunye ne-ex yakho?