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Umxholo
- 1. Yamkela iqabane lakho njengoko linjalo, kubo bonke ubuntu babo obumangalisayo
- 2. Khumbula indlela owawunxibelelana ngayo kunyaka wokuqala nithandana
- 3. Thatha ixesha veki nganye ukuba nengxoxo eyiyo
- 4. Gcina izinto zinomtsalane
- 5. Gcina isondo kwi-radar yakho
- 6. Umlo olungileyo
- 7. Yithi uxolo
- 8. Iimpawu ezincinci zothando zivuna umvuzo omkhulu
- 9. Akukho buhlobo buthandana nge-100% kwaye bunomdla ngalo lonke ixesha
- 10.Lithande iqabane lakho, uzithande nawe
Ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buhlala bukhulu kuthetha ukuba usebenza ngokugcina izinto zonwabile, zisempilweni kwaye zikhuthaza. Amaqabane angawuhoyanga umsebenzi oyimfuneko ukugcina iintlantsi kunye nokuthanda okwakulula kunyaka wokuqala banokubeka ulwalamano lwabo emngciphekweni ngokuwela kwisiqhelo. Ungayivumeli loo nto yenzeke kubudlelwane bakho!
Ke, zeziphi ezona zinto zilishumi zibaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane obufuna ukuba ubuthathe ingqalelo ukuze ulwalamano lwakho luhlale lutsha, lunomdla kwaye ludlamkile?
1. Yamkela iqabane lakho njengoko linjalo, kubo bonke ubuntu babo obumangalisayo
Kukho ixesha kubudlelwane bonke apho zonke ii-quirks ozifumene zintle kwaye zithandeka kunyaka wakho wokuqala wokuthandana ngaphambi komtshato ziyacaphukisa. Indlela abacoca ngayo umqala wabo okanye kufuneka basasaze ibhotolo yabo "kanye" kwisiqwenga sabo, okanye indlela ekufuneka benxibe ngayo ecaleni, bangaze ngqo kwisaladi yabo.
Ukwamkelwa kwezi zinto kubalulekile kubudlelwane bexesha elide. Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo, kodwa ngethemba lokuba zonke izinto ezintle malunga neqabane lakho zingaphezulu kokumangalisayo, kungenjalo ngekhe ubenabo, akunjalo?
Ke xa iqabane lakho liqala ukukubonisa ukuba banjani abantu, qhubeka ubathande ngokungathandabuzekiyo.
2. Khumbula indlela owawunxibelelana ngayo kunyaka wokuqala nithandana
Thatha isifundo kuloo nto kwaye ubandakanye ezinye zeendlela zokuziphatha ezikhohlisayo kunxibelelwano lwakho neqabane lakho. Ukuba ngoku uqhele ukutyibilika ukubila kunye nesikipa esidala, esinamabala eyunivesithi umzuzu ofika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini, cinga kabini ngaloo nto.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ikhululekile. Kodwa ayizukuba mnandi into yokuba iqabane lakho lize ekhaya kumntu owawunguye kwiinyanga zokuqala zobudlelwane?
Ngaba yingubo entle, into yokuhombisa entle, isiqholo esihle sesiqholo? Asitsho ukuba kufanele ukuba ube nguStepford Wife, kodwa ukuzenzela kancinci kuya kukwenza uzive ungcono ngawe kwaye ubonise iqabane lakho ukuba uyakhathala ngendlela akujonga ngayo naye.
Ugqibele nini ukuya kumhla okhethekileyo ofana nomhla? Bhukisha indawo yokutyela entle, nxiba ilokhwe encinci emnyama, kwaye udibane neqabane lakho apho, njengaxa niqala ukudibana.
3. Thatha ixesha veki nganye ukuba nengxoxo eyiyo
Ngokuqinisekileyo, nobabini niyathetha ngemini yenu xa nibonana ngokuhlwa. Impendulo ihlala ithi "Yonke into ibilungile." Oko akuncedi ukunxibelelana kwinqanaba elinzulu, akunjalo?
Elinye lamaqhosha okugcina ubudlelwane obukhulu yincoko emnandi, uhlobo apho utshintshiselana ngezimvo, okanye uliphinda ilizwe, okanye umamele nje imibono eyahlukileyo yeembono, uvuma enye indlela yokubona nokuqonda.
Ukuncokola okunentsingiselo-malunga nezopolitiko, imicimbi yangoku, okanye incwadi oyifundayo-kuya kuqinisa ulwalamano lwakho kwaye kukukhumbuze ukuba iqabane lakho linomdla kwaye likrelekrele kangakanani.
4. Gcina izinto zinomtsalane
Asithethi ngendawo yokulala apha. (Siza kufika kamsinya!). Sithetha ngazo zonke izinto ezincinci onokuzenza ukugcina izinto ezithandekayo (kwaye uyeke ukwenza izinto ezingafunekiyo) kubudlelwane.
Thatha incam kubafazi baseFrance, abangaze bavumele iqabane labo libabone bexubha amazinyo. Izinto ezingathandekiyo ezenziwa zizibini ezitshatileyo kuba “zidlulisile ixesha lokulingwa”, njengokuhambisa igesi ngokukhululekileyo, okanye ukusika iinzipho zabo ngelixa ubukele iTV? Unsexy.
Kulungile kwaye enyanisweni kulungile kubudlelwane bokuba wenze izinto ezithile ngasese.
5. Gcina isondo kwi-radar yakho
Ukuba isondo liyancipha okanye alikho, zibuze ukuba kutheni? Kunokubakho isizathu esisemthethweni sokungabikho kothando.
Kodwa ukuba akukho sizathu sithile sokuba kutheni bekudala ukususela oko nina nobabini nenza i-boogie ethe tye, nikela ingqalelo. Izibini ezonwabileyo zixela ukuba zenza isondo phambili. Nokuba enye okanye enye ayiyiyo imood, bayayenza into yokuganga kunye nokuchukumisa-kwaye ihlala ikhokelela ekwenziweni kothando.
Unxibelelwano olusenyongweni olunikezelwa kukwenza uthando lubalulekile kwimpilo yolwalamano lwakho ke ungahambi ixesha elide ungenawo. Ukuba kufuneka ucwangcise isondo kwikhalenda, makube njalo.
6. Umlo olungileyo
Izibini ezikhulu ziyalwa, kodwa zilwa zilungile. Ithetha ntoni le nto? Oko kuthetha ukuba banika ixesha lomoya kubo bobabini ababandakanyekayo, ukuvumela umntu ngamnye ukuba aveze izimvo kunye nezimvo zakhe. Abaphazamisi, kwaye bamamela ngenyameko, bebonisa oku ngokunqwala okanye besithi 'Ndiyayiqonda le nto uyithethayo'. Injongo yabo kukufumana ulungelelwaniso okanye isisombululo esamkelekileyo, esamkelekileyo kuwo omabini amaqela.
Iinjongo zabo ayikokuhlazisa omnye umntu, okanye ukuzisa izikhalazo ezidlulileyo, okanye ukuthetha ngokungenantlonelo kubo. Kwaye sukuyenza impazamo yokucinga ukuba iimfazwe azikho kubudlelwane obukhulu.
Ukuba awusoze walwa, ngokucacileyo awuthethi ngokwaneleyo.
7. Yithi uxolo
Ngaba uyawazi amandla ala magama mabini athi “ndiyaxolisa” yenye yezona zinto ziphilisayo emhlabeni? Yiba nesisa kwizinto zakho ezininzi "Uxolo". Idla ngokuba yinto efunekayo ukunqanda ingxabano eshushu ukuba inganyuki. Ikwanamandla okusondeza kunye.
Sukuyilandela ngo “kodwa .....” ndiyaxolisa kwanele, konke kukodwa.
8. Iimpawu ezincinci zothando zivuna umvuzo omkhulu
Nokuba benikunye kunye iminyaka engama-25, iimpawu ezincinci zombulelo wakho kwiqabane lakho zibalulekile.
Ezinye iintyatyambo, iilekese ozithandayo, isacholo esihle osibonileyo kwimarike yoMfama ... yonke le minikelo ixelela iqabane lakho ukuba babesengqondweni yakho ngalo mzuzu kwaye unombulelo ngobukho babo ebomini bakho.
9. Akukho buhlobo buthandana nge-100% kwaye bunomdla ngalo lonke ixesha
Kubalulekile ukuba ubenokwenyani malunga ne-ebbs kunye nokuhamba kobudlelwane kwaye ungatsiba inqanawa okokuqala (okanye i-50th) ixesha olikwelinye lamaxesha asezantsi. Kulapha apho wenziwe khona umsebenzi wokwenyani wokomeleza uthando lwakho.
10.Lithande iqabane lakho, uzithande nawe
Ulwalamano oluhle, olusempilweni lwenziwe ngabantu ababini abalungileyo nabasempilweni. Sukuzicima ukulungiselela ulwalamano, kungenjalo luya kusilela.
Ziqhelanise nokuzikhathalela ukuze ube nokubakho ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane lakho, engqondweni, emzimbeni nasemoyeni.
Ukuzibuza, zeziphi ezona zinto zilishumi zibaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane? Kulungile! Uyifumene impendulo yakho.