Umxholo
Mhlawumbi sele uyazi kumava ngqo ukuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani ngamanye amaxesha ukuziva ngathi ukwiphepha elinye neqabane lakho, ukuba umntu onaye namhlanje isengulaa mntu wathandana naye. Ubudlelwane buyatshintsha kwaye elinye lawona macandelo anzima ligcina iintlantsi zokuqala ziphila ebusweni bokuhamba kwexesha.
Kutheni le nto ukuthanda kuqala kuphela?
Kutheni le nto sivakalelwa kukuba umntu esakha sathandana naye ngoku ubonakala ngathi ungowasemzini okanye umntu esihlala naye?
Omnye wemiceli mngeni ephambili kukuzibandakanya egazini. Sonke siyalahleka kwilizwe lethu kwaye sibambe izinto ngaphakathi xa sisoyika ukonzakala. Ekuqaleni, sinokuba semngciphekweni wokuba sesichengeni kuba kuncinci okusemngciphekweni. Kodwa xa ubudlelwane buqhubekile ixesha elide, kuyothusa ukushukumisa isikhephe. Sixhomekeke ngakumbi kuluvo lweqabane lethu ngathi kwaye sime ngakumbi ukuba siphulukane nokuba sinokwenzakala, kuba akukho lula kangako ukuhamba nje. Kwaye ke siqala ukuvumela izinto zityibilike, sizidlale zikhuselekile ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye sishiyele ecaleni kwimicimbi engasonjululwanga evelisa amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Kodwa ukuthatha umngcipheko ngokweemvakalelo kuko okusisondeza, kwaye uloyiko kunye nokuba sesichengeni kuyimfuneko ekugcineni ulonwabo oluthile luphila. Ukufumanisa izinto ezintsha kunye ezinzulu zomnye nomnye kunika ubudlelwane bexesha elide ingqiqo kunye nokukhanga. Unxibelelwano kufuneka lwenzeke ngokutsha ngokuchasene nemvelaphi yokhuseleko kunye nokuziqhelanisa.
Makhe sijonge isibini kunye.
Thatha uDavid noKathryn. Baphakathi kweminyaka yamashumi amahlanu, batshatile iminyaka engama-25. Bobabini bangabaphathi abaxakekileyo kwaye ixesha lenze umgama phakathi kwabo. UDavid ebefuna ukunxibelelana kwakhona, kodwa uKathryn uqhubeka emtyhalela kude.
Nali icala likaDavide:
Ndiyakucaphukela ukuyithetha, kodwa okwangoku ndivakalelwa ngathi uKathryn kwaye sifana nabantu esihlala nabo kunendoda nomfazi. Nangona sobabini sixakeke kakhulu yimisebenzi yethu, xa ndifika ekhaya ndihamba okanye ndibuya kwiintsuku ezinde eofisini, ndijonge phambili ukumbona kwaye ndilangazelela unxibelelwano. Ndinqwenela ukuba senze into emnandi kunye rhoqo kwaye ndinexhala lokuba ngamnye wethu ubandakanyeke kwiminqweno yethu eyahlukileyo kangangokuba siphulukene nomkhondo wobudlelwane bethu kwaye sawenza ophambili. Ingxaki kukuba uKathryn ubonakala engenamdla kum. Nanini na xa ndisondela kuye okanye ndimcela ukuba siphume kunye kwaye senze into ekuhlaleni okanye nokuba sonwabe phakathi kwethu sobabini, uyandibrasha. Kuvakala ngathi unolu donga kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ndiba nexhala lokuba uyandidika okanye akaphindi andifumane ndinomdla.
UDavid uyoyika ukuxelela uKathryn indlela aziva ngayo. Uyoyika ukwaliwa kwaye ukholelwa ekubeni sele eyazi inyani malunga nokuziphatha kukaKathryn- ukuba uphulukene nomdla. Uloyiko lokuba ukuveza uloyiko lwakhe elubala kuya kuqinisekisa olona loyiko lubi ngaye nangomtshato wakhe; ukuba akasenguye umfana omncinci kwaye onomdla awayefudula ekhona kwaye umfazi wakhe akasamfumani enqweneleka. Kubonakala kulula ukuzigcina kuye iingcinga zakhe zabucala, okanye kungcono, ukunqanda ukubuza uKathryn.
UKathryn unoluvo lwakhe nangona; enye engaziwa nguDavid kuba bobabini abathethi ngayo.
UKathryn uthi:
UDavid uhlala efuna ukuphuma aye kuhlala nabantu kodwa akaqondi ukuba ndiziva ndibi kakhulu ngam, kunzima ukuphuma ngendlela esasiqhele ukwenza ngayo. Ngokunyaniseka, andiziva mnandi ngam. Kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndifumanise ukuba ndiza kunxiba ntoni kusasa xa ndisiya emsebenzini kwaye ndizive ndikhathazekile imini yonke ... xa ndibuya ekhaya ebusuku ndifuna nje ukuba sekhaya kwindawo yam yokuthuthuzela kwaye ndingakhathazeki ngokuba ukunxiba kwaye ubone zonke iimpahla ezisegumbini ezingasalingani. Umama wayesoloko esithi akuyonto intle ukuxelela indoda ukuba awuziva kamnandi ngenkangeleko yakho; ubeka nje uncumo ebusweni bakho kwaye wenza ngathi uziva umhle. Kodwa andiziva mhle kwaphela. Xa ndijonga esipilini kwezi ntsuku, konke endikubonayo ziiponti ezongezelelweyo kunye nemibimbi.
UKathryn woyika ngokulinganayo ukuba ukuthetha ngendlela avakalelwa ngayo ngaye noDavid kuya kutsalela ingqalelo kuphela kwiimpazamo zakhe kwaye aqinisekise iimvakalelo zakhe ezingalunganga ngomzimba wakhe.
Umntu wangaphandle unokubona ngokulula ukuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani kumaqabane ngamanye ukuba angathathi izinto buqu xa bobabini besoyika ukubeka uloyiko lwabo emgceni kwaye bathethe ngento eqhubekayo ngaphakathi, kodwa uDavid noKathryn balahlekile kakhulu iintloko ukuba azenzeki kubo ukuze kubekho enye imbono ngokupheleleyo. Oku kwenza ukuba kube nzima kwesi sibini ukuba sinxibelelane kwakhona kwaye siqinisekise umnqweno waso wenye.
Sukuba sesi sibini!
Awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube ngumcebisi ngemitshato (nangona ngamanye amaxesha inokukunceda ukuba ubambekile!) Ukusombulula olu hlobo lokuphazamiseka; konke malunga nokuthatha umngcipheko kwaye utsho into oyaziyo ukuba iyinyani engqondweni yakho. Kulungile ukuba woyike kodwa isenzo sokuthetha sisabalulekile.
Kungokwemvelo ukuthatha izinto buqu xa sisemngciphekweni omkhulu, kwaye kulula ukucinga nokuvala impendulo. Kodwa ukuba awuzimisele ukuthatha ithuba emtshatweni wakho, ngekhe wazi ukuba ngawaphi amathuba okusondelelana ophulukana nawo!
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