Umxholo
- Ndifanele ndohlukane naye?
- Xa kunyanzelekile ukuba wohlukane nesithandwa sakho
- Ukwahlukana nesoka lakho- iimeko ezi-4 ezinzima
- 1.Ungahlukana njani nomfana okuthandayo
- 2.Ukohlukana njani nendoda oyithandayo
- 3. Ukwahlukana xa nisathandana
- 4. Indlela yokwahlukana nesithandwa sexesha elide
- Ndohlukene nesithandwa sam - ngoku yintoni?
Xa ucinga ngendlela yokwahlukana nesithandwa sakho, umbuzo otshisayo ngulo- ibiyintoni ubudlelwane bakho beDynamics?
Ngamanye amazwi, benivana njani? Benithandana? Nisathandana? Konakele phi?
Zonke ezi zinto ziya kuchaphazela indlela oza kuhlukana ngayo nesoka lakho, njengoko siza kukubonisa kweli nqaku.
Ndifanele ndohlukane naye?
Abasetyhini abaninzi phaya bahamba malunga neentsuku zabo njengesiqhelo, ngelixa umbuzo ophikisayo usahleli ezingqondweni zabo- ngaba ndifanele ndohlukane naye? Kodwa, ukwahlukana nesoka lexesha elide akukho lula njengoko kuvakala.
Umntu unokulindela ukuba icace gca njengomhla wokwahlukana nesithandwa sakho. Kodwa kuhlala kungenjalo. Nazi iimeko ezininzi ezahlukeneyo xa u Andiqinisekanga ukwahlukana nesoka lakho.
Ukuba ulwalamano lwexesha elide oluhamba kakuhle, nangona iimvakalelo zomile, unokuziva ukuba ukwahlukana nesoka lakho kunokuba sisenzo sokungakhathali.
Kukho nobudlelwane obufakwe eluthandweni nasekuthandeni, kodwa izinto zangaphandleyenza kubo ayinakwenzeka. Okanye, usenokuba kubudlelwane obuhlukumezayo kwaye awazi ukuba ungashiya njani isoka lakho likhuselekile.
Xa kunyanzelekile ukuba wohlukane nesithandwa sakho
Nokuba ithini na imeko yakho, kukho imiqondiso ethile ekufuneka uyiqhawule kunye nesoka lakho.
Njengoko uRandi Gunther wePsychology namhlanje ebeka, ubudlelwane obuninzi kufanele iphela nyani.
Ukulandela uluhlu oluchanekileyo lwezikhombisi-
- Omabini amaqabane azamile yonke into,
- Abazi ukuba kutheni kungahambi kakuhle, kwaye
- Badiniwe kukuzama.
Kwityala, nkqu nini usathanda umfana wakho, wena kufuneka yohlukane naye. Nangona unokuba mathidala ukwenza intlungu kuye nakuwe, ukwehlukana Ingaba i into elungileyo ukuyenza, njengoko iya kunikhulula nobabini nilandele uthando nolonwabo kwenye indawo.
Ke, kweli nqanaba, kunjalo ixesha lokucinga ngeendlela Ukwahlukana nesoka lakho ngendlela enembeko nenobubele.
Ukwahlukana nesoka lakho- iimeko ezi-4 ezinzima
1.Ungahlukana njani nomfana okuthandayo
Le yimeko enokubangela ukuba uzive unetyala kakhulu.
Kodwa, ukuba wenze ukucinga kwakho kwaye wagqiba kwelokuba uyafuna ukuphuma kulwalamano, into elungileyo ekufuneka uyenzile kukwenza yazisa isoka lakho eyakho isigqibo ngokukhawuleza.
Into ephambili kukusebenzisa iingxelo "Ndi". Oku kwenzelwe menze aqonde lonto wena nangoku mhlonele kwaye umxabise, kodwa nguwe ofuna ukudlulela phambili.
Zilungiselele ukuphendula konke yemibuzo yakhe (ehlala ingonwabisi) kwaye uyenze ngokunyaniseka kodwa hayi ngqwabalala.
2.Ukohlukana njani nendoda oyithandayo
Ukuqhawula umtshato xa usathandana nomfana kunokuba yiyo eyona nto inzima ukwenza. Kodwa siyayiqonda loo nto zininzi izizathu yeso sigqibo.
Ukuba wenze isigqibo, lixesha lokuba usike ekuleqeni.
Ungayishiya njani indoda oyithandayo? Ngendlela efanayo yokususa i-band-aid. Kwenze ngokuzimisela, Ndiyazi ukuba yeyona nto intle ukuyenza, kwaye Ungaze ujonge ngasemva. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba ungafikeleli kuye kwakhona emva kokuba uyiqhawule.
3. Ukwahlukana xa nisathandana
Ukwahlukana xa nisathandana kukudibana kwezi meko zimbini zinzima zangaphambili.
Kuhlala kunjalo kubudlelwane obukude, okanye kwiimeko xa omnye wenu etshatile, okanye malunga nendlela eyahlukileyo eyahlukileyo ebomini. Ngayiphi na imeko, thobela kuyo yonke into ethethwe ngaphambili, kwaye Lungela ixesha lobunzima kuzo zombini.
Yiba nokuqonda yeemvakalelo zakhe, iimpendulo ezahlukileyo, kodwa zikhuphele kuwe ngokwakho ukuba ube lilitye eliza kukhokela inkqubo ekuphilisweni.
4. Indlela yokwahlukana nesithandwa sexesha elide
Ukwahlukana nomntu othandana naye ixesha elide kuhlala kuyinto Isiphumo sokufa ngokweemvakalelo kwaye isithukuthezi kulwalamano.
Ayisiyonto yokuziva unetyala ngayo.
Amaqabane amaninzi exesha elide aphuma nje ngokwahlukeneyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ke lixesha lokuba uqhubeke.
Isicwangciso sokuya kukwenza isicwangciso sendlela yokuyilahla yonke imikhwa enxulumene nolwalamano kunye nokwakha ubomi obutsha, obahlukileyo.
Ndohlukene nesithandwa sam - ngoku yintoni?
Nokuba lithini ibali lakho kunye nomgangatho wobudlelwane bakho (okanye ukusilela kwawo), uhlala uhlala hlukala kunye nesithandwa sakho ngentlonipho. Ngoba? Kuba imele wena, hayi ubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba uphumile kubudlelwane nesitayile, unga venture ivuliwe ebomini bakho obutsha ngokuzingca nobabalo. Ke, zinike ixesha lokuphilisa, emva koko uvule umnyango wakho kuyo nantoni na elandelayo ebomini bakho!