Umxholo
- Wonke umntu unqwenela ukuphinda atshate wonke umntu
- Ukungabikho kobudlelwane emtshatweni kunokuba sisizathu sokwahlukana komtshato
- Into ephambili emva kokwala komfazi ubudlelwane bomtshato
- Fumana iimpendulo kwenye imfundiso eGemora
- Ukuhlazisa umyeni ngaphandle kokufuna umtshato
- Esinye isisombululo
- Umyalelo kaTora
Kutheni le nto kuqhawulwa umtshato?
Abantu abahambelani ngezizathu ezininzi ezihlala zizisa uqhawulo-mtshato. Ke ngoko, kufuneka sibuyele kumbuzo olandelayo kwisihloko sethu- Yintoni elandelayo?
Uqhawulo-mtshato luyintlekele, kodwa lunye olunokulungiswa.
Umntu angaphinda atshate. Kodwa, into ebuhlungu namhlanje kukuba abantu abaqhawula umtshato bahlala benqaba ukuphinda batshate. Abagcini ngokwala ukuphinda batshate, kodwa baphosa ngokungekho mthethweni nabanye abasoloko bengenanjongo zokuphinda batshate.
Wonke umntu unqwenela ukuphinda atshate wonke umntu
Abantu banqwenela ukutshata abantu kwaye bavelise iinkqubo ezibizayo zokuba abantu behle badibane nomntu abanokutshata naye.
Bayadibana, bayathetha, bayahamba-hamba, baqhube imoto, okanye bade baye kwivenkile yokutyela emnandi, mhlawumbi imovie emnandi, kunqabile ukuba batshate kwakhona.
Urabi obandakanyeka kakhulu kule micimbi wandixelela ukuba namaJuda obuOthodoki aqhawule umtshato akoyiswa ngokulula ukuba aphinde atshate, kwaye, ngelishwa, baphela besona, uHaShem Yerachem.
Makhe sithethe ngale nto kancinci.
Ukungabikho kobudlelwane emtshatweni kunokuba sisizathu sokwahlukana komtshato
Umntu uyatshata, ayisebenzi, kwaye mhlawumbi, indoda nomfazi abanalo ubudlelwane bomtshato. Inokwenzeka into enjalo kwaye kuxoxwa ngayo kwiincwadi zonqulo ngomtshato.
Enye incwadi enomdla icebisa ukuba ukuba umfazi uhlala endlwini nendoda yakhe etshatileyo, kodwa uphulukana nomdla wokuba nobudlelwane bomtshato kunye naye, kwaye yena uhlala endlwini egcina abantwana kwaye esebenza endlini ngokubanzi, ngaphandle kokwala kwakhe ukuba nomtshato. ubudlelwane, le nto ifuna oorabhi basekuhlaleni ukuba bayiqonde.
Kwenzekani? Kutheni le nto umfazi enze ngale ndlela? Ngaba umyeni uziphethe kakuhle? Konakele phi?
Into ephambili emva kokwala komfazi ubudlelwane bomtshato
Ngaba umfazi uyala ukwala komtshato kuba efuna uqhawulo-mtshato, oko kukuthi, ufuna ukukhululeka kuyo yonke indoda, kwaye mhlawumbi atshate kwakhona? Okanye akafuni ukushiya indlu, kodwa uya kuqhubeka nokuhlala apho, kunye nomyeni kwindlu enye yokuhlala, kodwa uyala ukuba neentlobano naye.
Fumana iimpendulo kwenye imfundiso eGemora
Kubonakala ngathi ngela xesha umfazi owayefuna uqhawulo-mtshato kumyeni wakhe kwaye achaze nesizathu sokuba afune uqhawulo-mtshato, wayekholelwa jikelele.
Kuloo minyaka yokuqala, abafazi babesaziwa ngokunyaniseka kwaye bangaxoki ngamadoda abo.
Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, orabi baqaphela ukuba abanye abantu basetyhini babexoka ngamadoda abo kuba bekhetha umntu owahlukileyo ukuba abe ngumyeni wabo.
Amabali malunga nomyeni wakhe wangoku ngokuqinisekileyo ayengeyonyani, emva koko oorabhi bagweba ukuba abafazi abanakunyanzela indoda ukuba ibanike uqhawulo-mtshato.
Ukuhlazisa umyeni ngaphandle kokufuna umtshato
Ungathini ukuba akafuni mtshato, kwaye engakhankanyi magama athi "ndifuna uqhawulo-mtshato," kodwa angatsho into ayifunayo ngomyeni malunga nokwala kwakhe ukuba neentlobano zesini naye?
Kwimeko enjalo, kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba inyathelo elilandelayo kukuba oorabhi abakhulu bathethe nomyeni.
Ngaba umphatha kakuhle umfazi wakhe, okanye akunjalo?
Oorabi banika umyeni isixa esithile sexesha sokulungisa izinto endlwini kunye nenkosikazi yakhe. Ukuba iyasebenza, kulungile, umtshato ubuyile kwisitayile kuloo ndlu.
Esinye isisombululo
Kodwa ukuba ayisebenzi, kwaye umfazi akayifuni i-GET, oorabhi banokuthatha isigqibo sokunyanzela umyeni ukuba anike i-GET.
Ngoku, inyani yokuba umfazi acele i-GET kuthetha ukuba asimnyanzeli umyeni.
Asimthembi lo mfazi kuba mhlawumbi ucela i-GET hayi kuba izikhalazo zakhe ziyinyani, kodwa kungenxa yokuba angathanda indoda eyahlukileyo kumyeni wakhe.
Kodwa ukuba oorabhi banokuzibonela ngokwabo ukuba umyeni wenze izinto ezibangela usizi kumfazi ngendlela enokuthi izise i-GET enyanzelekileyo, ukuze umfazi angabi nguye othetha izinto ezimbi ngomyeni kodwa ngoorabhi ngokuzimeleyo uyakuqonda oku, oko kunokubangela i-GET enyanzelekileyo.
Oku kukhankanyiwe kwi-Shulchan Aruch xa oorabi beqonda ukuba indoda ithathe umsebenzi ofuna ukuba ifumane ivumba elibi kakhulu ekungekho mfazi unokulinyamezela, kusenokwenzeka, anyanzelwe ukuba aqhawule umtshato nenkosikazi yakhe.
Jonga kwakhona: 7 Izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuqhawula umtshato
Umyalelo kaTora
ITora iyalela indoda ukuba itshate kwaye ibe nabantwana, inkwenkwe nentombazana. Ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka aqhubeke nokuba nabantwana abaninzi.
Kwakukho imeko apho umntu wayenamakhwenkwe amaninzi kwaye engenamantombazana.
Urabi wacebisa ukuba aqhawule umtshato nenkosikazi yakhe kuba engakwazanga ukufeza umthetho wokuba nonyana nentombi. Kodwa urabi omkhulu welo xesha, uRav Yosef Shalom Elyashev, walumkisa ubulumko.
Akukho mtshato.
Ewe abanye bathi abafazi ababalulekanga kunamadoda kwaye amadoda amabini anokulingana indoda nomfazi.
Kuyinyani ukuba iTalmud ithi uHaShem uyabahlonipha abantu ababhinqileyo kunamadoda kwaye ubathembile mhlawumbi ngaphezulu kwamadoda, kodwa xa kufikwa ekunyanzelweni kwendoda ukuba iqhawule umtshato nomfazi wayo ngenxa yokuba inamakhwenkwe amabini kwaye kungekho mantombazana, oko kuphambene nomkhondo.
Kodwa, xa isibini sisala nje ukuba neentlobano zomtshato, kwaye singakhange sibe nabo nabantwana babini, oku kuyingozi. Ngaba oorabhi bayangenelela kwaye banyanzele uqhawulo-mtshato? Ngaba banyanzela ukusondelelana?
Le yimicimbi eyahlukeneyo, kodwa inomdla kakhulu kubantu ababandakanyekayo.
Ngamanye amagama, xa umtshato ungasebenzi, kwaye abantu bengaqhawuli mtshato, sineengxaki ezinkulu, mhlawumbi iingxaki ezingenasisombululo sisebenzekayo.
Kwaye kuthekani ngabantu abangenabo ubudlelwane kodwa bangaqhawuli mtshato? Ngaba siyaboyikisa?
Andizivezi apha izisombululo kwezi ngxaki zoyikekayo, ezenzekayo, nditsho nje ukuba ezi zizinto ezinokwenzeka emtshatweni, kwaye ziyenzeka.
Into esinokuzama ukuyenza kukufumana indlela yokusombulula iingxaki, ngethemba, ngaphandle koqhawulo-mtshato, kodwa ukuba akukho sisombululo siyavela, yintoni enye enokwenziwa?