I-40% yemitshato yaqala njengobuhlobo obucocekileyo. Esi sibini sinokudibana esikolweni, emsebenzini, okanye sibe yinxalenye yesangqa esifanayo sabahlobo. Babengenangxaki yothando phakathi kwabo ekuqaleni, kodwa njengoko bachitha ixesha kunye, ngaxa lithile kubudlelwane omnye okanye bobabini baqonda ukuba kunokubakho enye into, into evakalelwa ngathi luthando lothando, kobu buhlobo.
Ezinye izibini ezaziwayo eziqale njengabahlobo
Awudingi ukujonga kude ukuze ufumane ukuba kukho abantu abaninzi abadumileyo ababengabahlobo nje ngaphambi kokuba uCupid ababethe ngotolo:
- USheryl Sandberg, i-COO kaFacebook, wayenabahlobo nomyeni wakhe ongasekhoyo uDave iminyaka emithandathu ngaphambi kokuba izinto zithandane.
- UMila Kunis noAshton Kutcher babengabahlobo kwi-sitcom "That 70s Show" kwiminyaka elishumi elinesine ngaphambi kokuba bahlangane kwaye babophe iqhina.
- UBlake Lively kunye noRyan Reynolds ekuqaleni babetha ubuhlobo kwiseti yefilimu ethi "The Green Lantern". Malunga nonyaka kamva babenosuku oluphindwe kabini, ngamnye eneqabane elahlukileyo, kwaye baqonda ukuba kufuneka babe kunye.
- U-Beyonce noJay Z babenobuhlobo obungqongqo beplato kunyaka omnye ngaphambi kokuba babone intsingiselo yothando eyayikulungele ukutshiswa phakathi kwabo.
- UKate Middleton kunye neNkosana uWilliam babekwiqela labahlobo elinye, baya eyunivesithi kunye, kwaye bahlala nje kunye iminyaka ngaphambi kokuba bathandane kwaye batshate.
Xa uqaphela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zobuhlobo zinokugcina enye into
Ube ngumhlobo wakho nomhlobo-we-wakho-ochasene nesithandathu ixesha elide. Mhlawumbi umazi ukusukela kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo. Mhlawumbi ngumntu oye wasebenza ecaleni kwelinye emsebenzini wakho wokuqala kwaye usengabahlobo kunye naye, kwiminyaka kamva. Nobabini nihambe ubudlelwane obuninzi kwaye nisebenzisana njengeebhodi zokukhala xa ninemicimbi yobudlelwane. Ngoku anitshatanga. Kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ngequbuliso ujonge umhlobo wakho ngamehlo amatsha.
- Ubonakala ekhule ngakumbi kwaye ethembekile kunabahlobo obukhe wathandana
- Awuzange uqaphele ukuba mhle kangakanani kude kube kutshanje
- Uyayithanda indlela eninokuthetha ngayo ngayo yonke into
- Uyayithanda indlela onokuba yendalo ngayo macala onke. Akukho sidingo sokufumana konke ukuqaqamba; Ungeza endaweni yakhe unxibe ibhlukhwe kunye nesikipa sakho sasekholejini kwaye akagxeki iimpahla zakho
- Uyamjonga kwaye kwenzeka kuwe ukuba ungoyena mntu ulungileyo omaziyo
- Unomona xa umbona ethandana nenye intombazana; usenokude ngobuqhetseba ugxeke amantombazana abonakalisa umdla kuwo
- Nicinga kakhulu ngaye, kwaye nimkhumbula xa ningekho kunye
- Uyavuya xa usazi ukuba uza kumbona
- Xa ucinga ngaye ufumana amabhabhathane esiswini sakho
Ukuba nencoko- ngaba uziva ngendlela efanayo ngawe?
Sele ungenile ngokulula: wena kwaye uthetha ngokulula. Nangona kusenokukwenza ube noloyiko lokuthetha ngalo mbandela, zxelele ukuba iziphumo — ukuba naye uziva ngendlela efanayo — ziya kukunceda oko. Cwangcisa ukuyivula incoko xa nobabini niziva nikhululekile. Yibani kwindawo eniyonwabelayo nobabini, njengevenkile oyithandayo yekofu okanye ipaki enithanda ukungena kuyo.
Iqinisekisiwe! Uziva ngendlela efanayo nawe!
Uye kulwalamano olukhulu. Iingcali ezifunda ngokuphila ixesha elide kunye nolonwabo kwizibini ezitshatileyo zisixelela ukuba bubunyulu nobunyani bobuhlobo obunika isiseko esiqinileyo kwezo zibini ziqala ukuba ngabahlobo kwaye ziphele njengezithandani.
Ubuhlobo kubudlelwane obusondeleyo-yintoni eyenza ukuba ezi zibini zibhengeze?
Xa uqala njengabahlobo, ikunika ithuba lokubona oyena mntu ulikho naye iqabane, ngaphandle kwesondo esigqume ngaso esihlala sikumfamekisa kwezinye izinto ezingathandekiyo zalo mntu. Ukuqala njengabahlobo nako kukunika umda ngenxa yokuba "ungazenzisi" unokuba yinto ongeyiyo, ukuvusa umdla womnye umntu kuwe. Sonke siyazi ukuba umhlobo owenza inkohliso kwimidlalo yebhola ekhatywayo ukuze amkholise, akunjalo? Ayenzeki nje xa isibini siqala njengabahlobo kuba akuyomfuneko. Omnye akazami "ukubamba" omnye. Iimvakalelo phakathi kwabo zezendalo kwaye ziyinyani.
Kutheni le nto ubudlelwane phakathi kwabahlobo nothanda kunokwenzeka ukuba bunyamezele?
Abantu abathandanayo ababengabahlobo ngaphambi kokuba babelane ngesondo bahlala ixesha elide kwaye banolwalamano olunzulu kunabantu abathandanayo abaqala ukuba neentlobano zesini. Isizathu soku sicacile: ukwenzela ukuba ubudlelwane buhambe ixesha elide, kufuneka lubandakanye isiseko esihle sobuhlobo kunye nokuhambelana, kwaye ingapheleli nje ekusekweni komtsalane wesini. Yiyo loo nto izibini ezitsibela ngqo ebhedini phezu kwentlanganiso kunqabile ukuba zihlale-yakuba inkanuko iphele ukuba akukho siseko sokwaneliseka apho, isithukuthezi siyangena.
Ukuba ususa ubuhlobo bakho ngaphandle kwendawo yomhlobo kwaye uyangena kwindawo yothando, ngethamsanqa! Ubomi bufutshane, kwaye ulungile, uthando olusempilweni kufanelekile ukuthatha umngcipheko.