Umxholo
- 1. Yonke into ayizukugqibelela
- 2. Nxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo
- 3. Sukuba noxinzelelo ngezinto ezincinci
Abantu bahlala befuna iimfihlelo zobudlelwane obuhle, nokuba ngumtshato okanye luthando nje, kodwa inyani yile: akukho nto yomlingo, yokufihla, yokunyanga-konke ukulungisa okuya kuqinisekisa ukuba umtshato wakho uya kuhlala ngonaphakade okanye uthando lwakho alunakuze luphele.
Uthando nomtshato yinto ekufuneka niyenze ngokubambisana kunye neqabane lakho.
Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buyaphela, kuya kuthatha kuphela zimbalwa iingcebiso ezilungileyo zokuphucula ubomi bakho bothando. Nangona kunjalo, kuthatha inkathalo enkulu kunye noqwalaselo ukubuyisela ubudlelwane bakho kuthando kunye nokuncoma obefudula unakho.
Icala elingentla koku lelokuba ixesha elininzi kunye nomzamo owubekayo ekufezekiseni ubomi obungcono bothando, kokukhona uthando lwakho luya kuba nalo.
Ngombulelo, awuzukusebenza wedwa: kuninzi kakhulu ubudlelwane obuqinileyo nothando ngobomi beengcebiso okanye iingcebiso ngobomi nothando phaya ukukunceda uqonde indlela yokuphucula ubomi bakho bothando.
Oku kulandelayo zezinye iingcebiso eziphambili zothando kuye kunye nokonwabela ubomi obukhulu bothando:
1. Yonke into ayizukugqibelela
Akukho nto ifezekileyo, ngakumbi hayi ubudlelwane. Lonke ubudlelwane bunengxaki, imithwalo, amahla ndenyuka; le yinto abantu bahlala beyilibala xa bengena kubudlelwane.
Ukubeka iqabane lakho kunye neqabane lakho kwisiseko kunokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu kwiqabane lakho ekufuneka liphile kulindelo lwakho kwaye likwenze uxinzelelo kuwe xa lisilele ukuhlangabezana nalo.
Ithuku lokunqula, ukuyalela, ukulungisa okanye ukugxeka iqabane lakho linokuba yingozi kakhulu kwaye lonakalise ubudlelwane bakho.
Ukwamkela iimpazamo zeqabane lakho kwaye ubabonise ukuba uyaqonda ukuba banako ukwenza iimpazamo kubalulekile ukuba uzive uqhagamshelene neqabane lakho. Ukubonisa uvelwano kunye nokudelela okuncinci kuko konke ulwalamano olufunekayo ukuze luhlale lomelele.
Ngelishwa, ukulibala le nto ibalulekileyo kuhlala kukhokelela ekuzibetheni ngokwakho xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle!
Kodwa inyani yomcimbi yile: uthando nomtshato ziya kuhlala zinokungafezeki, nokuba ukwindawo entle kubudlelwane bakho. Inkqubo ye- into ebalulekileyo kukuba uqaphele ukuba iziphene ziqhelekile, kwaye uqhubeke.
2. Nxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo
Unxibelelwano sisiseko sabo bonke ubudlelwane. Ngaphandle konxibelelwano, ubudlelwane bugqityelwe ekubeni busilele. Umtshato ophumeleleyo okanye ubuqabane kufuneka busekwe kunxibelelwano, apho omabini amaqabane anxibelelana ngaphandle kokuthandabuza omnye komnye.
Enye yezona zininzi imiba ebalulekileyo yonxibelelwano olusebenzayo ukumamela.
Iimpazamo zokumamela eziqhelekileyo ezenziwa zizibini ezitshatileyo zezi:
- ukungabikho kwincoko nasekuphupheni ngento ethile
- ukucinga kakhulu malunga nento oza kuyithetha ngokulandelayo,
- ukugweba iqabane labo xa ubamamele, kwaye
- ukumamela ngengcinga esele ikho kunye nenjongo ethile.
Kwelinye icala, ukubonisa umdla wokwenyani kunye nomnqweno wokudibanisa ngaphandle kwesigwebo okanye isiphumo engqondweni kunokukhokelela kwisiphumo esihle ngakumbi kwincoko.
Ukuphucula ubomi bakho bothando kunye nokwenza ngcono indlela onxibelelana ngayo neqabane lakho, landela ezi ngcebiso zothando kuye nakuye:
- Mamaxesha amaninzi Iimvakalelo ezifihlakeleyo zinokukhula zize zibe yityhefu ngakumbi. Qinisekisa ukuba uvakalisa iimvakalelo zakho neengcinga zakho ngendlela engagwebiyo.
- Ngelixa ugxeka kakubi, kubalulekile ukuba kwabelwane ngako ngendlela eyakhayo. Oku kunokuba kukwazisa iqabane lakho ngemikhwa yabo emibi okanye ecaphukisayo; konke ngendlela ebakhuthazayo ukuba babonakalise iinguqu kwaye benze inkqubela kwezo ndawo.
– Nika ingqalelo kwinto ethethwa liqabane lakho, zama ukudibana namehlo, sebenzisa izijekulo ezingezizo ezomlomo ukuhambisa injongo yakho yokumamela, kwaye ungayibhalisi into oyibonileyo itolikwa.
Unxibelelwano oluqinisekileyo lunokuba zizinto ezifana nokwazisa iqabane lakho ukuba uyalixabisa, isimilo esisondeleyo njengokuncamisana nokubambana, yonke indlela ukuya ezinto ezilula njengokuncoma izakhono zokupheka zeqabane lakho.
3. Sukuba noxinzelelo ngezinto ezincinci
Nokuba ungathandana kangakanani neqabane lakho, uya kuzifumana Ukuxabana nokuphikisana ngezinto ezithile ezingenangqondo nezingabalulekanga.
Uxinzelelo malunga nezinto ezincinci ezingabalulekanga ayisiyondlela elungileyo kwaye zihlala zivela kubudlelwane kubo bobabini ubuqabane kunye nezo zinto zincinci.
Izibini zivelisa ezazo iingxaki kunye nokuba zithini kumaqabane abo, ezinokuthi zibe noxinzelelo kubudlelwane. Ukuhlambalaza malunga nemicimbi engazukubaluleka kwiminyaka eyi-10 akunantsingiselo.
Umzekelo, masithi iqabane lakho lilibale ukwenza umthwalo wokuhlamba iimpahla. Isisombululo soku sinokwenza umthwalo olandelayo kunye! Okanye masithi iqabane lakho liyala ukubeka isihlalo sangasese phantsi-yenza uphawu oluyimfeketho kwaye ulincamathisele kwindlu yangasese.
Ukuzivumela ukuba uhlekise kwaye uyeke izinto ezincinci kuya kukhokelela kubudlelwane obungenaxinzelelo. Nangona kunjalo, Ukuziva uzolile kwaye ungazikhathazi ngezinto ezincinci kunokuba lutshintsho kuwe kunye neqabane lakho nanjengoko kungokwemvelo okuye kwahlengahlengiswa ekuhambeni kwexesha okanye kwaba sisiphumo sengozi ethile abajamelana nayo.
Ukufunda ukulawula uxinzelelo kunokukunceda ukuphucula ubomi bakho bothando kunye nolwalamano lwakho. Nazi izinto ezithile onokuzenza ukuzikhathaza ngokwakho kolo xinzelelo.
-Iindlela zokuphumla
Rhoqo qhelanisa neendlela zokuphumla ezinje ngeyoga kunye nokucamngca ukuze ufumane imeko yengqondo yokuphumla. Ayisiyi kuthanda kuphela ezi ndlela zikunceda ukuba ufezekise ingqondo engaxinananga kodwa iphinde ihlaziye umzimba wakho kwaye inyuse ukuqonda kokuphila kakuhle.
- Mamela kwaye unxibelelane
Ukungakwazi kwabantu abathandanayo ukumamela kunye nokunxibelelana kubudlelwane babo sesinye sezona zizathu zibalulekileyo zobomi bothando obuzaliswe luxinzelelo. Ukujongana nalo mbandela kunye nokuchonga iindlela zokuphucula unxibelelwano kubudlelwane kunokukunceda ukuphucula ubomi bakho bothando.
-Ukungafezeki okanye ukulibazisa
Iingxaki zokuzama ukwanelisa iqabane lakho zinokushiya nabani na ediniwe kwaye enoxinzelelo. Uninzi lwayo nantoni na alunakulunga, kufuneka uziphucule ngokulunga kwakho hayi kumaqabane akho.
Ukuhlala ngokufanayo kufanelekile njengokuhlengahlengisa ulwalamano. Umahluko kukuqonda ukuba uzityhale nini kwaye ungafanele.
Ngokufanayo, sukuthatha iminqweno kunye nolindelo lweqabane lakho ngokungakhathali kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba bayakuqonda nokuba ungalibazisa kangakanani. Nditsho nesibhambathiso sokudibana ebunzimeni nasebubini sinomda.