Umxholo
- Isizathu # 1 Xa ungazi ukuba ungajongana njani nezihloko ezinzima
- Isizathu # 2 Xa ufuna ukufikelela kwiphepha elinye malunga nekamva lakho
- Isizathu # 3 Xa kukho into ofuna ukuyisusa esifubeni sakho
- Isizathu #4 Xa iziko lakho lenkolo lifuna oko
- Isizathu # 5 Xa uphikisana ngezinto ezifanayo amaxesha ngamaxesha
- Isizathu # 6 Xa umtshato uzisa uxinzelelo kuthethathethwano lwakho
- Isizathu # 7 Xa ufuna ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nomnye
- Ixesha ngoku
Ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato yindlela elungileyo yokuqinisa ubudlelwane bakho kunye neqabane lakho kwaye nikhule njengesiqabane ngaphambi kokubopha iqhina. Ukuqonda okungcono kunye neziphumo, ngokukhawuleza ikhosi iqalisiwe ibangcono. Iikhosi ngokwazo azinantsingiselo iiyure ezimbalwa kodwa ixesha lokugqitywa liyahluka ngokuxhomekeka kwishedyuli yakho ke kuyavakala ukuba ungayiqali ngeentsuku okanye iiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ungene.
Abantu abatshatileyo okanye abo bacinga ngokutshata banokucinga malunga noku becinga ngezi zibonelelo zekhosi yangaphambi komtshato kwi-Intanethi:
- Inceda uqonde ukulungela kwakho umtshato
- Ininceda ukuba nisebenze kwiiyantlukwano zenu njengesibini
- Ukwenza ukuba uphucule izakhono zonxibelelwano ezingcono
- Ukuxhobisa ukuba ukwazi ukucwangcisa ikamva
- Ikuvumela ukuba ulawule izinto ozilindeleyo kwiqabane lakho ngendlela engcono
- Inceda uqonde iziseko zomtshato
- Ilungiselela indlela eya phambili
- Inceda ukuba wakhe ukuhambelana okungcono neqabane lakho
Ukuthatha ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato kuya kukunceda uye emtshatweni wakho ukwazi ukujongana nemiceli mngeni evela kwiminyaka yomtshato. Ezi nkqubo zokuzihambela zikwavumela amaqabane ukuba afunde kwisifundo ngasinye ngexesha lawo lokuzonwabisa.
Bukela le vidiyo ukuze ufunde ngakumbi:
Ukuba uyazibuza, ‘Ngaba ndifanele ndenze iikhosi zangaphambi komtshato ngaphambi kokubopha iqhina?‘Ke ezi zezinye zezizathu zokuthathelwa ingqalelo:
Isizathu # 1 Xa ungazi ukuba ungajongana njani nezihloko ezinzima
Kwingxelo epapashwe ngumcebisi wotyalo mali u-Acorn, Iipesenti ezingama-68 zezibini kuvavanywe ukuba bangathanda ukuvuma ukuba banobunzima obungakanani kunokuba baxelele amaqabane abo ukuba ingakanani imali abanayo yokonga.
Olu pho nonongo lubonisa ukuba kungakhathaliseki ukuba umthanda kangakanani umntu, kukho izihloko ezithile ongeke uzive ukhululekile ukuthetha ngazo.
Ezinye izihloko ezikhohlisayo zibandakanya:
- Uza kuyiphatha njani imicimbi yemali wakube utshatile
- Imizabalazo yempilo yengqondo
- Ukwabelana ngesondo
- Okulindelweyo
- Imida
Ukuthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kuzisa nini iingxoxo malunga nezihloko ezinje kwaye kufuneka ukuba kuxoxwe ngantoni, kwaye indlela ekufuneka yenziwe ngayo ifuna izakhono zonxibelelwano ezifanelekileyo.
Ayizizo zonke izibini ezinolwazi olufanelekileyo kubugcisa bonxibelelwano.
Ukanti unxibelelwano ngumqolo womtshato ophumelelayo!
Kulapho izifundo ze-Intanethi zangaphambi komtshato zidlala khona.
Ngokuthatha ikhosi ekwi-intanethi, wena neqabane lakho niza kufunda iindlela ngeendlela zokunxibelelana eziya kuba luncedo kuwo wonke umtshato wakho.
Isizathu # 2 Xa ufuna ukufikelela kwiphepha elinye malunga nekamva lakho
Umtshato ubambiswano, kwaye ubuqabane buhamba ngcono xa uneenjongo ezifanayo engqondweni. Izinto ekuza kuxoxwa ngazo zibandakanya:
- Uzohlala phi
- Imicimbi yemali efana nokwabelana ngeakhawunti yebhanki, ukwenza ityala, okanye ukuthenga ikhaya
- Ukuya kwiziko lenkolo
- Izicwangciso zexesha elide kunye nomsebenzi olinganayo
- Ukuqala usapho
- Uceba ukuzisingatha njani iingxabano
- Luhlobo luni lwabazali ofuna ukuba lulo
- Ngabahlobo kunye nosapho baya kuwujonga njani umtshato
Zonke ezi yimixholo ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uxoxe ngayo ngaphambi kokuba wenze umtshato wakho ube semthethweni. Ngokuvula imizila yonxibelelwano ngekhosi yangaphambi komtshato, uya kuba kwiphepha elifanayo malunga nezi ziganeko zexesha elizayo kwaye uzise uxolo kubudlelwane bakho.
Isizathu # 3 Xa kukho into ofuna ukuyisusa esifubeni sakho
Olunye uphawu lokuba kufuneka uthathe iiklasi zomtshato ngaphambi kokuba umkhuhlane ubethe ukuba unento ofuna ukuyithetha neqabane lakho. Inokuba malunga nolwalamano lwangaphambili, into malunga nexabiso losapho lwakho, okanye imfihlo ethile obukade uyigcina.
Ukuthatha ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato kuvula imizila yonxibelelwano ukukunceda wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuba nibe novelwano kunanini na ngaphambili. Oku kuyakwenza kube lula ukuxelela iqabane lakho nantoni na oyifunayo ukuze usuke esifubeni sakho.
Isizathu esilandelayo sibeka ixesha kwimpendulo yombuzo- "Ndifanele ndenze nini izifundo zangaphambi komtshato" kuba ngokucacileyo ifuna ukuba uqale ubuncinci iiveki ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba umtshato wenziwe.
Isizathu #4 Xa iziko lakho lenkolo lifuna oko
Ukuba wena kunye neqabane lakho niyinxalenye yeziko lenkolo, kunokucetyiswa ukuba wenze uhlobo oluthile lwenkqubela ngaphambi komtshato ngokwakho okanye uye ePre-Kana, yona ingcebiso ngaphambi komtshato efunwa yicawa yamaKatolika.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze iPre-Kana, kodwa kuhlala kukhethwa kwizibini ezinqwenela ukusebenzisa indawo yokunqula njengendawo yabo yomsitho.
Isizathu # 5 Xa uphikisana ngezinto ezifanayo amaxesha ngamaxesha
Ngaba wena neqabane lakho nihlala ninokungavisisani?
Kuqhelekile ukuba izibini zixabane rhoqo, kodwa ukuba ibiyinto eqhelekileyo kubudlelwane bakho, nanjengoko ucinga ngomtshato kwaye usazibuza, "Ndifanele ndenze nini ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato?" - Ngoku lixesha!
Ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato inceda izibini ukuba zichonge izinto, zisombulule ukungavisisani, kwaye zivakalise ngendlela ehloniphekileyo ngexesha lokungavisisani.
Bhalisa kwikhosi yangaphambi komtshato namhlanje ukwakha ubudlelwane ophuphe ubuphupha!
Isizathu # 6 Xa umtshato uzisa uxinzelelo kuthethathethwano lwakho
Umtshato wakho kufuneka ube yinto ojonge phambili kuyo, hayi into eyoyikisayo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukucwangcisa umtshato kunokuba luxinzelelo kwabanye-ngakumbi umtshakazi. Kukho useto lwasentlalweni, ukubhukisha indawo, iindlela zokukhetha, kunye nemali ekufuneka uyiqwalasele.
Akumangalisi ke ngoko ukuba kuvavanyo lwakutsha nje kubonise ukuba izibini ezi-6 kwezili-10 zithathela ingqalelo ngokungathi zibaleka uxinzelelo malunga nomtshato wazo.
Ukuba ukucwangciswa komtshato kuthathe ulonwabo kubudlelwane bakho, ngoku lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthatha ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato.
Ikhosi iya kukunceda wena kunye neqabane lakho ukuba uphinde ubeke ingqalelo yakho ekusebenziseni ixesha elifanelekileyo kunye. Iya kukufundisa ukuba eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ayingomtshato, kodwa ngumtshato emva koko.
Ngoku makhe sijonge esinye isizathu esibalulekileyo esiphendula lo mbuzo- "Ndifanele ndithathe nini ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato?"
Isizathu # 7 Xa ufuna ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nomnye
Ukuba uyatshata, oko akuthethi ukuba sele nisazana kakuhle?
Ewe nohayi.
UNjingalwazi wezonyango kwezengqondo, uRobert Waldinger, wapapasha isifundo apho abantu abatshatileyo bacelwa ukuba babukele ividiyo yabo bephikisana.
Emva kokuba ividiyo igqityiwe, umntu ngamnye wabuzwa ukuba bakholelwa kweliphi iqabane ukuba bacinga ntoni ngexesha lengxabano. Ixesha elide esi sibini besithandana, mancinci amathuba okuba bafumane impendulo ngokuchanekileyo.
Ngoba?
Kuba bayekile ukuthatha ixesha lokwazi amaqabane abo.
Awuyeki ukwazana nomntu kuba nje ubophe iqhina. Abantu bayaqhubeka nokukhula kwaye bayatshintsha, kwaye izibini kufuneka zigcine iintlantsi ziphila ngokuhlala zifuna ukwazi malunga nomnye.
Ngokuthatha ukuba sele umazi ukuba ngubani iqabane lakho, niyaziphangela ithuba lokuqhubeka nokwazana.
Ukuthatha ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato kuyanceda wena kunye neqabane lakho nijongane kunye kwaye nenze ubudlelwane obuluqilima.
Ukufunda okuhambelana: Ixabisa malini ikhosi engaphambi komtshato?
Ixesha ngoku
Ukuba ubuza, "Ndifanele ndenze nini ikhosi yangaphambi komtshato?" Iziphumo, lixesha!
Nokuba izibini ezonwabileyo, izibini ezingakhathazeki, okanye abo bangakholelwayo kubudlelwane babo bafuna naluphi na uhlengahlengiso olukhulu banokufumana ukuphuculwa kwangoko kumgangatho wobudlelwane ngokuthatha ikhosi.
Ngokuthatha ikhosi, uya kufunda indlela yokunxibelelana, ukusombulula imiba, kunye nokuphuhlisa uvelwano emtshatweni wakho.
Khumbula ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buya kukhula ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo emva komtshato. Inokukunceda kuphela ngokuthatha ikhosi ngaphambi komtshato kwi-Intanethi kuba iimpembelelo zezinto ozifundayo azihlali thuba lide.