Umxholo
- Ayisoze ilunge into yokuncama iqabane lakho
- Ukuqonda owona mbandela
- Ukutshintsha isimilo esingafunekiyo kunye
Ndihlala ndifumana lo mbuzo ngalo lonke ixesha-ndimxolele kaninzi-ninzi, kwaye nakwizinto ezifanayo, kwaye andisakwazi ukuwuthatha kwakhona. Lixesha nini lokuyibiza iyayeka kwaye ifayile nje yoqhawulo mtshato okanye ukubiza nini ukuyeka emtshatweni wakho?
Ewe impendulo emfutshane ayisoze. Ayikaze ilunge ukuyibiza iyeke iqabane lakho okanye enye into ebalulekileyo kunokuba ilungile ukuyibiza iyeke umntwana okanye usana.
Ke ukuba ulwa nembono yokuba uza kushiya nini ubudlelwane? nini ixesha lokushiya ubudlelwane? okanye leliphi ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuyibiza ukuba iyayeka kubudlelwane? Masikuncede uphonononge ezo ngcinga kwaye ujongane njani neempawu zokungahloniphi emtshatweni.
Ayisoze ilunge into yokuncama iqabane lakho
Xa abantwana bethu bephazamisekile, ngaba sibanika ithuba elinye lokuba baziphathe kakuhle kwaye bangaze baphinde benze nto iphosakeleyo okanye siza kubanikezela ukuba babamkele? Hayi, akunjalo! Ngaba sinika kuphela iintsana zethu zoboya enye ukuba singagangi imingxunya ngasemva kwendlu ngaphambi kokuba siyilahle?
Hayi, akunjalo! Ke kutheni thina, njengoluntu, sicinga ukuba kulungile ukulahla umntu esimkhethileyo, kwaye abanye, abanyulwe nguThixo ukuba basebenzisane nathi, singabethi nkophe?
Ngaba lixesha langoku lokonwaba esiphila kulo ekuqhubekekiseni imvakalelo yokuba ukuba andiyithandi into ebomini bam, konke endinokukwenza kukuyilahla kwaye ufumane into entsha?
Okanye ngaba kungenxa yenkqubo ethile ngaphakathi kwethu esixelela ukuba lo mntu wonakele kwaye ukuba ndihlala nabo, ndonakele nam? Okanye mhlawumbi yinkolelo yokuba abayi kuze batshintshe kwaye ke kufuneka sishiye ukuzisindisa thina okanye abantwana bethu?
Inyani yomcimbi sihlala sibona kwabanye, ngakumbi abo basondeleyo kuthi, ezo mpawu kunye neempawu esingazithandiyo kuthi.
Anditsho, anditsho ukuba iqabane okanye iqabane lomkhohlisi likwangumkhohlisi, kodwa imeko yesiqhelo kukuba umntu okopelwayo ufuna ukushiya ubudlelwane kuba ebona iqabane lonakele kwaye bacinga ukuba abanakuze babe uhlobo lomntu abafuna ngokwenene ukuba kunye naye, ke kufuneka bahambe.
Babona kwiqabane labo into abayibona ngokwabo kubo, bakhetha ukuyigquma okanye bayityeshele okanye bayikhanyele kwaye basole amaqabane abo.
Ke ukuba uziva ngathi kunjalo ixesha lokuyibiza ukuba iyayeka emtshatweni emva koko jonga kancinci kwaye ubone ukuba yintoni le ikwenza ukuba ubuze malunga namandla omtshato wakho.
Ukuqonda owona mbandela
"Ndandinomntu endithandana naye, kwaye ngoku ufuna ukuqhawula umtshato." Bacinga ukuba umcimbi ngumqondiso wokuba uza kuwubiza nini uyeke emtshatweni wakho xa ingeyiyo.
Ndisebenze nezibini ezininzi ezijamelene nokungathembeki kubo bonke ubuxoki nenkohliso eza nayo, kwaye ndingatsho ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba xa kushukuxwa umba osisiseko, ukungathembeki kuyayeka, ukuxoka kuyayeka; uthando luyabuya kwaye emva komsebenzi othile, ukuthembana kubuyile nako.
Wakhe wophula ithambo? Inzululwazi yezonyango isibonisa ukuba inkqubo yokuphilisa ikhefu kuloo thambo ibangela ukuba indawo yekhefu yomelele ngakumbi! Kukwayimeko efanayo nolwalamano olusenyongweni. Ngaba kulula? Hayi. Kodwa ngaba kufanelekile? NGOKUPHELELEYO!
Enye yezona zinto zokuqala sisebenza kuzo xa isibini sisiza kum sinemicimbi yokuthembela kukuqonda ukuba ingcambu yomcimbi ivelaphi - sithathe siphi isigqibo ngexa elidlulileyo, kwaye singasitshintsha njani isigqibo sibe ngcono ubakhonze?
Xa sigqiba imithambo esetyenziselwa ukoyisa lo mbandela, isibini sinokuqalisa ukubuyela kwindima yaso yokwenyani kubudlelwane kwaye sigxile ekuhlangabezeni iimfuno zabanye ngeendlela ezilungileyo nezonwabisayo endaweni yeendlela ezenzakalisayo nezonakalisayo.
Ngaphambi kokungxama ukuze ufumane ukuba wazi njani nini ukushiya ubudlelwane okanye xa ufuna ukuyibiza ngokuba iyaphuma emtshatweni, kuya kufuneka ufumane oyena nobangela, emva koko ubone ukuba ungamelana njani naloo ngxaki.
Ukutshintsha isimilo esingafunekiyo kunye
Njengokuba abazali besebenza nabantwana ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha engafunekiyo, thina njengamaqabane kufuneka sisebenzisane ukutshintsha indlela yokuziphatha engafunekiyo ngokwakha uninzi lweendlela zabo zokuziphatha ezifunwayo. Ukuba iqabane liyakopela, phantse lihlala lihleli kuba lingaziva libalulekile kwelinye iqabane.
Oku kunokuba ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi ezinje ngo-mthetho-mthetho kunye nokunxibelelana nosapho, abantwana abancinci, ikhondo lomsebenzi, izihlobo, omnye umdla ongaphandle okanye umdlalo, okanye ezinye izizathu ezininzi.
Xa ufika ngokwenyani kunye nawe kwaye uyaqonda ukuba ingcambu yomcimbi ilele kuwe, ngoku uxhobile ngolwazi namandla okuguqula izinto kwaye ubuyele endaweni nokuba ibhetele kunangaphambili (khumbula ithambo elaphukileyo).
Ukugxeka omnye umntu ngemeko yakho, nokuba liqabane lakho elisenyongweni, kufana nokusela ityhefu kwaye ulindele ukuba omnye afe.
Ayisixhobisi kwaphela kwaye inokukhokelela kuphela kukuphazamiseka, intetho, kunye nokuqhawuka kuba unika omnye umntu amandla okufumanisa ulonwabo lwakho, kwaye ayisoze isebenze.
Kufuneka ube neyakho inxaxheba kubudlelwane, kwimiba, nasekulungiseni, kwaye xa iqabane ngalinye lisenza oku, emva koko unyango lwenene luyaqala!
Ukuba elinye okanye omabini amaqabane ayala ukuthatha uxanduva lwamalungu abo kulwalamano, banokuqhawula umtshato, kodwa abanakuze bonwabe ngokwenyani, kwaye bazinikele kubudlelwane kuba khange bajongane nomba wokwenyani ... BABO!
Baza kuphinda baziphathe ngendlela efanayo, batsale imiba efanayo, kwaye babe kwimeko efanayo, kunye namaqabane ahlukeneyo. Khumbula ukuba ukwazi indlela yokulungisa ubudlelwane kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokwazi ukuba ushiye nini okanye ukubiza nini ukuyeka umtshato.
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