Umxholo
- Wazi njani ukuba uku ubudlelwane obudibeneyo?
- Abantu banqwenela unxibelelwano
- Ayilotyala labo ngokupheleleyo
- Yeyiphi indlela ebasempilweni yokuba kubudlelwane?
- Xhomekeka komnye umntu
- Iimpawu zobudlelwane obuxhomekekileyo
- Iimpawu zonxibelelwano oluxhomekeke kwelinye
- Utyala ityala lokuba wonwabe
Abantu bayilwe ngendlela esinqwenela ukunxibelelana nabantu; ngekhe sihlale sedwa, sidinga abanye ukuba, ukuba akukho nto iyenye, khona apho ubasilungiselele.
Ngumnqweno osisiseko, ongokwenyama. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu abaxhaphaza le mfuno.
Sibona abantu kubomi bethu bemihla ngemihla abaxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo okanye amaqabane abo, okanye bafuna inkululeko epheleleyo kumaqabane abo. Nokuba yeyiphi na imeko, ayisiyompilo kulo naliphi na iqela.
Wazi njani ukuba uku ubudlelwane obudibeneyo?
Ukuba kuphela impumelelo yeqabane lakho kukuba liqabane lakho; ukuba akukho nto bayiphumeleleyo ebomini babo; ukuba bathathe ithuba lokuphumelela kwakho kwaye bayala ukwenza nantoni na ngokwabo; ke zixhomekeke kwikhowudi.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba iqabane lakho liyala ukwamkela impumelelo yakho kwaye likutsalele emhlabeni (isikweko) kwaye ayikuvumeli uphakame ngaphezulu, yenza enye into ngobomi bakho, ukuba konke abakufunayo kukuba uzenzele inkqubo ngokweemfuno zabo kunye nemfuno, emva koko lixesha lokuba uphinde uphonononge ubudlelwane bakho.
Nokuba imeko iyintoni na, ubudlelwane buya kuqala ukuba nobutyhefu.
Abantu banqwenela unxibelelwano
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe ngaphambili, abantu banqwenela ubudlelwane kunye nokunxibelelana; abanakuphila ngaphandle kwayo. Ngoba? Kuba ukuhlala, ngamanye amaxesha, kungadinisa, abantu banokudinwa yindlela yabo yesiqhelo, okanye into yasemsebenzini, ubudlelwane, ubomi ngokubanzi.
Nanini na xa eli nqaku lifika ebomini bethu liqabane lethu elisivuyisayo, bayasinceda, basikhokele, kwaye babekhona nje kuthi.
Benza nantoni na efunekayo ukuze sime ngeenyawo. Nangona kunjalo, bekuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba iqabane lakho lixhomekeke kuwe kangangokuba alinakuphila lodwa okanye lingakufumana inkxaso, intuthuzelo, okanye uncedo olufunekayo?
Ayilotyala labo ngokupheleleyo
Ukuba umntu uza kutshona nzulu ngokwaneleyo, baya kufumanisa ukuba uninzi lwabantu abaxhomekeke kwikhowudi benzelwe ukuba babe kule ndlela ukususela ebuntwaneni, bayasika kwaye basike kwaye bafunde ukwenza okuhle ngokwaneleyo kubazali babo, kubahlobo, kuluntu.
Kungoko baya kwamkelwa ngabantu ababathandayo.
Lo mnqweno usekwe nzulu kubo kwaye uqiniswa kuphela lixesha kunye nexesha. Ke, ngokwendalo, xa abo bantu bengena kubudlelwane, ukuzixabisa kwabo kuyancipha, kwaye ekuphela kwento abayifunayo kukuxelelwa ukuba mabenze ntoni, baphile njani njengoko izakhono zabo zokwenza izigqibo zingazange ziphoswe kwaye banikwe ithuba lokukhula.
Ezi meko zichazwe apha ngasentla kukuxhomekeka kubudlelwane, okungaphilanga.
Yeyiphi indlela ebasempilweni yokuba kubudlelwane?
Abantu abaninzi bayala ukubana nabuphi na ubudlelwane kwaye kungenxa yokuba abafuni kuphulukana nabo, bafuna ukuhlala bezimele.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka oku? Ngaba abantu banokuba kubudlelwane ngelixa begcina ukuxhomekeka kwabo?
Xhomekeka komnye umntu
Phakathi kwezinto ezibaxekileyo: ukuxhomekeka ngokubambisana kunye nokuzimeleyo, kukho umhlaba ophakathi apho ubudlelwane babantu bunokuphumelela khona, okt ukuxhomekeka.
Abantu abaxhomekekileyo ngabo bazithembileyo ngokwaneleyo ukuba babe kubudlelwane ngalo lonke ixesha begcina umhlaba wabo.
Kulapho abantu bafunde khona ibhalansi elungileyo kwaye banakho ukunikela ngokwaneleyo ukuze babekhona ukuxhasa amaqabane abo ngexesha lokudinga kwabo kwaye bomelele kwaye bazimele ngokwaneleyo ukuze bangathathwa njengabantu abazingcayo abangakwaziyo ukudlala kakuhle nabanye.
Ukuxhomekeka kwindawo enye kungwevu apho ukulingana okugqibeleleyo kunokufezekiswa.
Iimpawu zobudlelwane obuxhomekekileyo
- Ukunganyaniseki
- Ukuncipha kwezazisi
- Ukukhanyela
- Imfuneko enyanzelekileyo yokuba kufutshane okanye neqabane lakho ngalo lonke ixesha
- Akunakulinganiswa
Iimpawu zonxibelelwano oluxhomekeke kwelinye
- Ukunyaniseka
- Izazisi ezahlukileyo
- Ukwamkelwa
- Ukunikezelana igumbi lokuphefumla
- Iyahambelana kwaye iyaxelwa kwangaphambili
Utyala ityala lokuba wonwabe
Akukho mntu ugqibeleleyo kwaye sonke asiveli kwimvelaphi egqibeleleyo, ngelixa sisebudlelwaneni luxanduva lwethu ukunceda amaqabane ethu akhule kwaye abakhokele nanini na xa bedinga uncedo, nangona kunjalo, yonke into ethethwayo neyenziweyo, ufanele ukuvuya kwaye ube noxolo lwengqondo.
Awungekhe wenze into elungileyo nakubani na ngokuba kubudlelwane obunetyhefu. Ukuba uzifumana ukwimeko efanayo, cinga emva, kuvavanye, kwaye uhlalutye sele ukwenzile konke onakho? Ukuba impendulo yakho nguewe, mhlawumbi, lifikile ixesha lokuqubuda. Unetyala elingaka kuwe.