Umxholo
- Xa ubuzali bujika bube ngumnqweno
- Iindidi ezahlukeneyo zendlela yokukhulisa abantwana
- Nxibelelana nabantwana bakho nangaliphi na ubudala
- Ukukhusela abantwana bakho nakuphi na ukuzifihla
Ukuba ngumzali osebenzayo ayingomsebenzi nje kuphela, kwaye kufuna okungaphezulu kunoko.
Ifuna uqeqesho olunzulu ukwenza imisebenzi evela kuthando kunye noqeqesho kukhathalelo, ukupakisha i-tiffin yesikolo, ukubonelela ngemithombo yolonwabo, kunye nezinye ezininzi.
Ngaphambi kokuba ube nabantwana, usenokungacingi ukuba ngenye imini ungaziphilela ekufundeni ezi zakhono zobuzali, kwaye nokuba ubuzilungiselele, ukufumana ezi zakhono zobuzali kungathatha ixesha.
Ke, ungaba njani ngumzali olungileyo, kunye nendlela yokuphucula izakhono zakho zokuba ngumzali?
Kuya kufuneka usebenzise ulwazi lwakho lokuba ngumzali kunye namava ukudibanisa uthando lwakho kunye nokuzikhuthaza ukuba usebenze njengoko uba ngumzali.
Maninzi amathuba apho ungafunda khona iingcebiso zokuba ngumzali zokuphucula izakhono zakho zokuba ngumzali kwaye wenze ukukhulisa umntwana kube lula ngakumbi kwaye kube lula.
Akukho khuphiswano kubuzali nothando kunye nokukhathalela umntwana wakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka wenze okona kulungileyo okufundileyo kunye nento ofuna ukuyenza.
Xa ubuzali bujika bube ngumnqweno
Ukufumana impumelelo kunye nokugxila kunokunceda abantu bakhe ubuzali babo ngakumbi nangakumbi ngaphandle kwawo nawuphi na umcimbi.
Ukusuka kwimiba yabakwishumi elivisayo ukuya ekukhuliseni abantwana abathanda ngamandla, ilitye lesitshixo linokukunceda ukuba ube ziingcali kwaye unxibelelane nabantwana bakho.
Maninzi kakhulu amathuba okuphucula izakhono zakho zokuba ngumzali, kodwa ukuba ngumzali yinto apho ungenako ukuvavanya izakhono zakho.
Yinkalo yolwazi olusebenzayo oluya kubonelela kugxilwe kwezona zisombululo zibalaseleyo zokusombulula iingxaki zabantwana bakho kunye nokufumanisa ubuchule bakho.
Apha unokukhetha iziko ekugxilwe kulo elingasekelwanga kwimiceli mngeni yobuzali, kodwa ifuna ingqalelo yakho kangangeentsuku ezithile.
Kwilizwe lanamhlanje ledijithali, abantwana bachitha ixesha elininzi kude nabazali babo ngelixa bafunda kwizixeko ezahlukeneyo okanye kumazwe; Unxibelelwano lunokwenzeka kuphela kwizixhobo ze-elektroniki.
Kodwa abazali abanomdla babakhathalele ngononophelo umntwana wabo ukuze aqonde imeko kunye neemeko zabo, eziphaphile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ziqonde umhlaba wabantwana bazo.
Uya kuphumelela ukuba ukuthanda kwakho kuya kubandakanya ukuhlonipha abantwana kunye nawe.
Bukela uBarbara Coloso, umbhali othengisa kakhulu kwiinkalo zobuzali, ukufundisa kunye noqeqesho lwesikolo kunye nombhali we "Parenting through Crisis" uthetha ngokubaluleka kokumamela abantwana ngelixa ubangumzali ngenzondelelo:
Iindidi ezahlukeneyo zendlela yokukhulisa abantwana
Iitoni zezinto ezahlukeneyo kwiindlela zokuba ngumzali zibandakanya izinto ezininzi ezinjengokukhulisa umntwana omncinci kunye nokuphakamisa iimfuno zomntwana wakho, nokuba umntwana ngowakho okanye ungumntwana owamkelweyo.
Nangona kunjalo, iinkcukacha kunye neengcinga zinokuba mxinwa okanye zibanzi phantsi kwesambulela sobuzali ngelixa ufezekisa iinjongo zakho.
Nxibelelana nabantwana bakho nangaliphi na ubudala
Ngamanye amaxesha indlela engaqhelekanga yokukhulisa abantwana bakho inokukunceda ufumane ukuzibophelela ekuqhubekeni nezakhono zobuzali zokuphuhlisa iqonga elihle lokukhula kwabantwana bakho.
Njengabazali, niya kwenjenjalo bajongane nemiceli mngeni eliqela ngokukhula kwabantwana bakho, ezinokubandakanya lonke ixesha abantwana bakho bethatha izisombululo ezahlukeneyo zokusombulula iingxaki zabo.
Kodwa kufuneka ulumke kwaye uziqonde iimfuno kunye nomdla womntwana wakho. Ngale ndlela, ibali lakho lokuba ngumzali linokukhokela abantwana bakho ukuba baphile ngamava akhuthazayo.
Ukukhusela abantwana bakho nakuphi na ukuzifihla
Izinto ezithethwa ngabantu kunye nemikhwa yabo ichaphazela nobomi bomntwana.
Inyani yile yokuba ukuba ngumzali kuyabacaphukisa izinto ezintsha kunye neengcinga ezinxulumene nabantu kunye namasiko.
Ke kubalulekile ukuba unike abanye izimvo eziqaqambileyo ngale nto uyithethayo kwaye ufuna ukwabelana ngayo.
Njengomzali, unokwabelana ngemicimbi yakho yobuqu okanye eqhelekileyo ukunceda abantwana bakho ukuba basombulule iingxaki zabo.
Ixhobisa ukuqonda kwamalungu eentsapho, nokuba ngabadala okanye ngabaselula.
Njengabazali, kuya kufuneka ubandakanye amabali obuqu kunye neemvakalelo kuphela xa unomdla wokubonisa.
Ukuthathwa okuhlekisayo kunokujikwa kwindlela ophila ngayo kunye neziseko kunye nentumekelelo yokwamkela izinto njengezintle kubo bobabini abazali nabantwana.