Umxholo
- 1. Nxibelelana
- 2. Musa ukumthatha ngokungakhathali
- 3. Mxabise
- 4. Mothusa
- 5. Sukuzenzela izigqibo zakhe
- 6. Musa ukumdelela ngokujonga abanye abantu basetyhini
- 7. Nyaniseka, kodwa unganyaniseki ngenkohlakalo
- 8. Thatha inxaxheba kwizimbo zomzimba zothando
- 9. Yiba yindoda ngokungahambi kude neengxaki
Uninzi lwabafana lunzima kakhulu ukukholisa abafazi. Kungenxa yokuba bayala ukuyamkela into yokuba amadoda nabafazi bahluke kakhulu. Kwaye ngaphezulu kwelo, lonke inenekazi lahlukile kwaye lifuna, lilindele kwaye lifuna izinto ezahlukeneyo.
Kungenxa yoko le nto uninzi lwamadoda luphela lukhangela olona lwalamano luhle lwamadoda ukuze anyange abafazi babo kwaye amenze aneliseke.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba uninzi lwabasetyhini kunye nabesilisa baneemfuno ezizodwa. Ukuze ukwazi ukunika umfazi wakho oko akufunayo, kuya kufuneka umqonde. Nje ukuba umqonde, ungonelisa umntu obhinqileyo onobudlelwane naye.
Ke zeziphi iingcebiso zobudlelwane ezilungileyo ekufuneka amadoda azi ngazo?
1. Nxibelelana
Nangona kunokubonakala kunzima kakhulu ukuba umazise ngento eqhubeka ngaphakathi entlokweni yakho kodwa oku kubaluleke kakhulu.
Thetha naye malunga neemvakalelo zakho kunye nokudideka okuya entlokweni yakho; mhambe ngenzondo efihliweyo oyibhotile ngenxa yobudlelwane bakho.
Oku kuya kunceda ekusebenzeni kubudlelwane obuphilileyo.
2. Musa ukumthatha ngokungakhathali
Sukuthatha iqabane lakho ngokungakhathali.
Gcina ukhumbula ukuba abanatyala ukuba bakwenzele into. Ukuba ukupheka okanye ukucoca, sukumthatha kancinci kwaye ucinge ukuba ukukhathalela ngumsebenzi wakhe.
Yiyo ayiyo! Uyenza kuba engafuni kuba kufuneka.
3. Mxabise
Uyawathanda amabhinqa akho, kwaye uyinxalenye ebaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho kodwa kutheni unzima ukumxelela loo nto. Kutheni ungabonakalisi indlela oziva ngayo rhoqo?
Wonke umntu wasetyhini ufuna uxabiso ngoko funda ukumxabisa ngamazwi akho amnandi kwaye umonwabise.
4. Mothusa
Wonke umfazi uthanda ukumangaliswa. Ayisiyiyo nje kuphela eyokumsusa kodwa imenza onwabe ngendlela engathethekiyo.
Ukuba awuyikothusa intombi yakho kwakhona, kuya kufuneka uqale uyenze. Ukumangaliswa akuthethi ukuba ubucwebe bexabiso eliphezulu okanye uhambo oluya kwindawo ethile; ungamothusa ngokufika ekhaya kwangethuba, ukuthenga iintyatyambo, ukufumana iikeyiki azithandayo nokunye.
5. Sukuzenzela izigqibo zakhe
Le yimpazamo uninzi lwabantu olwenza xa kubudlelwane.
Ngokuqinisekileyo uzibophelele, kwaye ngowakho wonke, uqinisekile ukuba uhlawula amatyala kwaye unendima enkulu yemali, kodwa akukho nto ikunika ilungelo lokwenza isigqibo somfazi wakho ngokwakho. Kuya kufuneka uyikhumbule le nto.
Awunalo iqabane lakho, kwaye akufuneki uthathe izigqibo ngaphandle kokubonisana naye ucele uluvo lwakhe.
Ukuba umcimbi ufika apho wena nenkosikazi yakho ningavumelani khona hlalani phantsi, nixoxe kwaye nigqibe kwisigqibo esidibeneyo.
6. Musa ukumdelela ngokujonga abanye abantu basetyhini
Xa kwindawo enabantu abaninzi, kuphephe ukujonga amanye amantombazana kunye nentombazana yakho.
Ukuba ugxotha amanye amantombazana, kuyathuka kwaye kuyadelela. Oku kudala ukungakhuseleki kubudlelwane kwaye kungekudala kuzala imicimbi yokuthemba. Endaweni yokonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho, gcina amehlo akho kubafazi bakho kwaye uvumele izinto zihambe ukusuka apho.
7. Nyaniseka, kodwa unganyaniseki ngenkohlakalo
Ewe kubalulekile ukuba uthembeke kakhulu kubudlelwane bakho kodwa unganyaniseki ngokukhohlakeleyo.
Abasetyhini banokufumana uvakalelo kakhulu ekugxekweni ukuze ushukela amagama akho kwaye udlulise umyalezo.
Kuhlala kunendlela echubekileyo yokuthetha into embi, sebenzisa le ndlela endaweni yokuba uthethe nje.
8. Thatha inxaxheba kwizimbo zomzimba zothando
Ngenxa yokuba ekunye nawe kwaye umoyisile akuthethi ukuba kuya kufuneka uyeke ukumcenga. Nokuba benikhe nabaneminyaka omnye nomnye nizingenise kwizimbo zomzimba zothando, ke into ekhethekileyo rhoqo.
Hlela isidlo sangokuhlwa sekhandlela, ube nobusuku bemovie okanye uye epikinikini. Yenza into eza kwenza intombi yakho incume.
9. Yiba yindoda ngokungahambi kude neengxaki
Musa ukubudida ubudoda kunye nokubonakala kwamehlo.
Ezi zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo- ubudoda ziimpawu ezintle emntwini ezinje ngokuthatha isigqibo, ukuzithemba, isimilo, ukunyaniseka, ukuthembeka, ukuzibamba, njl. kubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuhamba.
Nangona wonke umntu wasetyhini eneemfuno ezahlukeneyo, bonke bafuna uthando, inkathalo, intlonipho kunye nokuqwalaselwa. Ezi ziziseko ulwalamano lwakho ekufuneka lumi kuzo. Abafazi abanzima ukukholisa, konke okufuneka ukwenze kukuwahlamba ngothando, ubaxabise, ungabathathi lula kwaye baya kuba ngabakho bonke.
Ukuba emva kweminyaka ulandele iinyawo zikaHomer Simpson ufikile kweli nqaku, buza umfazi wakho ukuba ngaba zizinto azifunayo ezi, uya kumangaliswa yimpendulo yakhe.