Umxholo
- Ukuqonda yintoni echaza uthando kubudlelwane?
- Umfanekiso oyinyani
- Ukukhumbula iintsuku ezindala ezimnandi
- Ukunyaniseka kuhlala kungumgaqo-nkqubo olungileyo
- 1. Zazi ngcono
- 2. Funda ukonwabela ukuba kunye nabantu bakho
- 3. Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho
- Ukwenza uvakalelo lothando kunye nobudlelwane bezothando
Ithathwa njengenye into yokuba wonke umntu uyindalo ekwakheni nasekugcineni ubudlelwane okanye ukubandakanyeka nakweyiphi na indlela yobudlelwane bezothando. Akukho zifundo zonxibelelwano esikolweni, abazali bethu ngokwabo abanalwazi kwaye umgangatho wokunxibelelana kwethu nabanye ushiywe ngamathuba.
Nangona kunjalo, sonke kufuneka sifunde ukuqondana ngakumbi kwaye sinxibelelane ngcono. Yile ndlela esinokonwabela ngayo ukwabelana ngobomi bethu nabo sibakhathaleleyo kwaye siqonde eyona ntsingiselo yothando kubudlelwane.
Siyimveliso yendlela esikhuliswe ngayo.
Ixabiso lethu lobuzali nelokuhlala lafakwa kuthi ngaphambi kokuba sikhulise ukuqonda nokuzazi. Ke, zonke ziye zangena ngqo zenza ubume bobuntu bethu kunye nokuchonga ukhetho kunye nokuziphatha kwethu.
Ngokwazisa, sinako ukuzenzela izigqibo.
Ke ngoko, akusafuneki ukuba sibe ngoonopopi ekukhuleni kwethu kwaye ngoku sinokukhulisa amandla okwenza ubuntu bethu, indlela esiziphatha ngayo, ubomi bethu ngendlela esikhetha ukuyenza.
Ingqondo, abanye abantu abazibuzi le mibuzo kwaye ke ulwazi lwabo lilinganiselwe kwaye bayaqhubeka nokuziphatha ngaphandle kwemikhwa, baphela ngesiphumo esifanayo kwaye 'Oh! Ndimangalisiwe malunga nayo.
Ukuqonda yintoni echaza uthando kubudlelwane?
Sithatha isigqibo sokwakha ubudlelwane nomntu kuba siyabathanda. Sithanda abantu abafana nathi. Ke siyahlangana kwaye siqhubele phambili kulwalamano silindele ukuba baya kuphuma babe njengathi ngazo zonke iindlela.
Phambi kokuba uyazi, ixesha lihambile, ukunamathela kuphuhlisiwe, kwenziwe izithembiso kwaye kwezinye iimeko, abanye abantu abancinci bazelwe. Ukungavisisani okwenzeka ngamanye amaxesha kwakungaqapheleki kwaye impikiswano yalityalwa emva komzuzwana wokusondelana kunye nothando.
Umfanekiso oyinyani
Kodwa, ubudlelwane bothando abuhlali bungumbhede weeroses. Uyayiqonda into yokuba ubudlelwane bothando buthetha ntoni? Ubudlelwane bunento encinci yothando kunye nenzondo, isivumelwano kunye nokungavumelani, ukuthanda kunye nenzondo edityaniswe kumxube ogqibeleleyo.
Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bothando bunokuphila kumaxesha anzima, ke nina nobabini njengesibini niyityhile ngokucacileyo intsingiselo yothando.
Ke, kudala ngaphambi kokuba uqaphele (okanye ngamanye amaxesha emva kwexesha elide), ulwalamano luyaphela, umlilo wothando uyancipha kulwalamano lwakho lwakudala, kwaye konke okushiyekileyo ngabantu ababini ngoku abona ukungafani okuthe kratya okuvelayo apha nalapho.
Izinto ezincinci ezicaphukisayo zijika zibe zizikhalazo kwaye ngexesha elaneleyo nkqu nengqumbo ayikabikho ngasemva. Yonyuse ngokulindela kwiqabane lakho ukuba nizifezekise izithembiso enizenze nobabini kunye noxinzelelo lwemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla yongeza kuluhlu.
Isiphoso silele kuthi hayi kubudlelwane bethu bothando.
Silindelwe ukuba isimilo seqabane lethu liya kuhlala linjalo ngonaphakade.
Ukukhumbula iintsuku ezindala ezimnandi
Khawukhumbule nje, ingakanani ingcinga eyongezelelweyo kunye nomzamo owubekileyo kuyo yonke imihla ebomini bakho, ngakumbi eyokuqala?
Ngexesha, ukutyabeka okuninzi kuya kuza njengoko uza kubuyela kancinane kwinyani yakho yokwenyani. Kubudlelwane bezothando, eli xesha libizwa ngokuba luthando, ukudada emafini, isigaba senqanawa, njalo njalo.
Nje ukuba utshintshe ubuyele kuwe kwakhona, ngequbuliso ulindelo lweqabane lakho aluyi kuhlangana, iingxabano ziya kulandela, kwaye ingqumbo iyakuthatha indawo yothando-Yithi molo ukudana!
Ukunyaniseka kuhlala kungumgaqo-nkqubo olungileyo
Ke ukuhlala kwakho nakweyiphi na imeko kuya kutsalela abantu abaya kukuthanda ngenxa yento oyiyo hayi ukuba uzama ukuba ngubani. Yiyo loo nto, usoloko 'Wamkela ukunyaniseka' kubudlelwane bakho bothando.
Kananjalo, ukuba wenza lo mzamo ungaphezulu, oko kubonisa ukuba awonwabanga yindlela ohleli ngayo kubudlelwane bakho bothando, okanye unokuziva ngathi 'asonelanga' omnye komnye. Kwaye, ukufihla oku "kukhubazeka", uya kuzama ukubeka isenzo. Kodwa, xa ukhathazekile, ukungaqondani kuya kuvela. Ngabom okanye hayi, uya kugqiba ukukhohlisa omnye umntu.
Ke ulindele ntoni kubudlelwane bakho obunothando kunye neqabane lakho? Ngokucacileyo, uthando kunye nemvisiswano ngonaphakade kanaphakade.
Ngoku uyayiphindaphinda le ntsebenzo ngambini kwaye ishiya igumbi elincinci lokumangaliswa kukuba ubudlelwane abuzukusebenza njengoko ubucwangcisile.
Apha sinokubona indlela ukuthembakala kunye nokunyaniseka okusesichengeni ngayo ngaphambi kokuba udibane nomnye umntu. Kubudlelwane bexesha elide, isimilo esinjalo sibonakalisa umona, ukukopela kunye nokungathembani.
Ingenza ntoni inkwenkwe okanye intombazana?
1. Zazi ngcono
Ukuba awuzazi ukuba ungubani, iimfuno kunye nezinto ozikhethayo, ungazazisa njani komnye? Ukuba awuzonwabisi nawe, ngaba ulindele ukuba omnye umntu onwabele ukuba kunye nawe?
2. Funda ukonwabela ukuba kunye nabantu bakho
Chitha ixesha wedwa kwaye ujonge iinjongo kunye neminqweno yakho.
Sivame ukulinda ukuba umntu okhethekileyo azise okungcono kuthi kwaye asithande ngokungathandabuzekiyo, kodwa konke oko kuthetha ukuba asinakukhathazeka (okanye andazi ukuba singawenza njani) uku-ayina izinto zethu kwaye sifune omnye umntu senzele.
3. Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho
Yakha ukuzithemba ngokwakho, funda ukuyivakalisa kwaye ujonge endaweni yokuba wena kunye nomyalezo wakho nifunyenwe yenye indlela enizimisele ngayo.
Ngasentla, uvula ijelo lonxibelelwano ngaphakathi kwakho kunye nomhla wakho, iqabane lakho, umntwana wakho, kunye nomntu odlulayo ngamanye amaxesha.
Ukwenza uvakalelo lothando kunye nobudlelwane bezothando
Kubudlelwane bexesha elide, xa ukungavisisani kwenzeka, oku kunyaniseka kunye nokukwazi ukuveza izimvo zakho kuya kukuvumela ukuba uchonge umbono wakho ngokukhawuleza kwimeko leyo kwaye uyiqonde eyomlingane wakho.
Ke, uyonwabele imvisiswano kwaye uzive uthandwa kubudlelwane bakho bothando.