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- Umthetho emehlweni omthetho kuyo yonke indawo kubandakanya amazwe alondolozayo
- Ukwabelana ngamalungelo afanayo kumalungelo njengabanye abemi abatshatileyo
- Kwiflipside, kukho intaba yamaphepha kunye netape ebomvu
- Utshintsho olukhulu lweparadigm yokwamkelwa kwemitshato yabantu besini esifanayo
Ngaphezulu kwamazwe amabini kwihlabathi jikelele abhalise umtshato wabantu besini esinye, kwaye elinye iqela "liyawamkela" umtshato wesini esifanayo. Kodwa yintoni umtshato wesini esifanayo, kwaye "ukuqonda" kuthetha ntoni? Indawo enempikiswano ibisezindabeni mva nje, ke makhe sijonge ukuba oku kuthetha ntoni. Siqokelele iqela labantu abawaziyo umtshato wesini esifanayo ukunceda ukucacisa kancinci malunga nembali kunye nemeko yangoku yale ndawo intsha yomtshato ukuze wazi konke malunga nokuba umtshato wesini esifanayo yintoni.
Okokuqala, umtshato wesini esifanayo yiyo kanye loo nto ivakala ngathi: umtshato osemthethweni phakathi kwabantu ababini besini esinye. Inkundla ePhakamileyo yase-United States yagweba ngo-2015 ukuba umtshato wesini esifanayo wawulilungelo lomgaqo-siseko, ke ngoko kusemthethweni kuwo onke amazwe angamashumi amahlanu. Ngaphambi ko-2015, amanye amazwe ayewusemthethweni, kodwa xa iNkundla ePhakamileyo yenza isigqibo sayo esingokwembali, yaba ngumthetho welizwe.
Umphengululi wezomthetho owaziwayo, u-Eric Brown, ngenzondelelo usikhumbule eso sigqibo, “Andisoze ndiyilibale loo mini ka-Okthobha. Kwakungokwembali kwaye kwakubalulekile isigqibo njengaso nasiphi na isigqibo seLungelo loLuntu kwiNkundla yoLuntu. Ngokwenza ilungelo, abantu abatshatileyo abesini esifanayo banamalungelo afanayo namanye amaqabane atshatileyo. Ngoku banelungelo lokufumana izibonelelo zomtshato emsebenzini, ukhuseleko lwentlalo, i-inshurensi naxa kufayilwa irhafu yengeniso. Ngokusemthethweni, abantu abathandana besini esinye banokuba "sisalamane" xa kufikwa kumba wokugcwalisa iifom ezisemthethweni kunye nokwenza izigqibo zonyango. Yonke le nto yatshintsha ngenxa yesigwebo esibaluleke kakhulu seNkundla Ephakamileyo. ”
Umthetho emehlweni omthetho kuyo yonke indawo kubandakanya amazwe alondolozayo
UPeter Granston, umbhali wencwadi yesifundo okwiminyaka yama-40, wayehlala neqabane lakhe, uRichard Livingston, ugqirha wotyando lwemiphunga, isithuba esingaphezu kweminyaka elishumi. UPeter uxelele umtshato.com, “Ndalila. Ndilile nyani xa ndisiva isigqibo seNkundla ePhakamileyo. Mna noRichard sasikhe saya saza satshata ngo-2014 eMassachusetts, kodwa umtshato wethu wawungaqatshelwa kwikhaya lethu. Ngequbuliso sasisemthethweni emehlweni omthetho kuyo yonke indawo kubandakanya ilizwe lethu elilondolozayo. Ngokukhawuleza ndaqala ukucwangcisa umsitho omkhulu womtshato kwiklabhu yendawo.
Ngale ndlela wonke umntu – osebenza naye emsebenzini, abahlobo bendawo yobomi bakhe bonke, usapho, wonke umntu angaya kwelona theko lihle. ” Uqhubeke ngomdlandla, “Kwaye ibiyimini enjani yona. Sichithe intywenka encinci kuba le ibikhe yasisiganeko sobomi bonke. Sifuna wonke umntu owayeyinxalenye yobomi bethu ukuba abhiyozele umtshato wethu osemthethweni kunye nathi. Sikhuphe zonke iindawo zokumisa: umthombo we-champagne, i-caviar kunye ne-blinis, iqela eliphilayo. Sidanise kwade kwavela ilanga. ”
Ukwabelana ngamalungelo afanayo kumalungelo njengabanye abemi abatshatileyo
UGloria Hunter, 32, yinyani enebala eliluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka osebenza njengomqhubi wenqwelomoya. “Andizange ndiwucinge kangako umtshato, kuba imfundo noqeqesho lwam lwalugxininisa kwindlela yokucinga epholileyo. Ndazi ukuba umtshato wawungenakwenzeka, ke ngoko ndawugqala njengenye yezinto ezingenakwenzeka ebomini, njengento enokonwatyelwa ngabanye, kodwa ayindim okoko iqabane lam leminyaka esibhozo, uMichelle, lingumfazi. Akuzange kusikhathaze oko de ndenzakala kwingozi yokuntywila emanzini, ndilele esibhedlele, kwaye uMichelle wayengavunyelwa ukuba andibone ngenxa yokuba imigaqo yesibhedlele yayingavumi ukuba kungabikho mntu ngaphandle kwamalungu osapho asondeleyo. Wathetha ngokunyanzela, “UMichelle wayenomsindo. Khange ndibenamalungu osapho ngaphakathi kweekhilomitha ezingamawaka amabini, kwaye uthando lobomi bam alunakukwazi nokundwendwela?
Ngethamsanqa, ndakhululwa kwiintsuku nje ezimbalwa, kodwa ngelaxesha ndandilele kuloo bhedi yasesibhedlele, ndaqonda ukuba kwelinye ilizwe singatshata, kwaye ngekhe ndiphinde ndijongane nolu hlobo lokucalulwa esibhedlele kwakhona. Encumile ngokubanzi, uGloria uqhubeke wathi, “Sijonge kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo zemitshato apho umtshato wasesini esinye uvumelekile, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezithile asizange sivumelane.
Phakathi ekuzameni kwethu ukufumana indawo, isigqibo seNkundla ePhakamileyo senziwa. Makhe ndikuxelele ngomtshato wethu: satshata elunxwemeni kunye ne-150 yabahlobo bethu kunye nosapho ababekho, kwaye sachitha iholide yethu yomtshato kwi-olwandle ezintathu ezahlukeneyo. Ngelixa oko kwakumnandi, eyona nto ilunge ngakumbi kum, nakubo bonke abemi, kukuba ngoku sabelana ngamalungelo afanayo kulonwabo lomtshato kunye namalungelo afana nokutyelelwa esibhedlele, njengabo bonke abemi abatshatileyo. Kukulingana kwenene oko. ”
Kwiflipside, kukho intaba yamaphepha kunye netape ebomvu
Ukutshata kwabantu besini esinye, ewe, ayililo ilungelo lehlabathi, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa elinye iqabane lingummi waseMelika kwaye elinye iqabane alikho? Kwixesha elidlulileyo, kwakungekho ithuba lomtshato wesini esifanayo, kodwa ngoku sinokwenziwa. Ewe kunjalo, kukho intaba yamaphepha kunye netape ebomvu. UBruce Hoffmeister, 36, wadibana neqabane lakhe ekudala likho, uLuis Ecargon, 50, kwisikolo sokufunda iSpanish eCuernavaca, eMexico. UBruce wahleka xa ebalisa ngqo indlela abadibana ngayo. “Ndicelwe ngutitshala wam ukuba ndiye e-ofisini ndiyokulungiselela ukubekwa kwinqanaba elisezantsi kuba andinakuqonda igama elithethiweyo. ULuis wayengumlawuli ophetheyo kwaye akundiva ndizama ukuthetha ngeSpanish, wandibeka kwelona zinga lisezantsi. Ndichithe iinyanga ezintathu ndizama ukufunda, kwaye ekugqibeleni, ndandilungile. U-Luis wayekulo msitho wokugqitywa, weza kuvuyisana nam kwaye wakhankanya ukuba uzakuba seLos Angeles kwinyanga elandelayo. Ndamcela ukuba anditsalele umnxeba xa eza kuba se-LA, kwaye enye yimbali.
Siye sahamba sobabini phakathi kwamazwe iminyaka ngenxa yezithintelo zevisa. ” U-Luis wongeze wathi, “iimayile ezihamba rhoqo esasizibamba ngelo xesha zahlawulwa kwiholide yethu yangokuhlwa jikelele! Amaphepha am ngoku afakwa kuMthetho wokuFudukela kwelinye ilizwe kwaye ndinokusebenza ngokusemthethweni apha. ” Ummi wase-U.S. Angafaka isicelo semvume yokuhlala (ebizwa ngokuba “likhadi eliluhlaza” kwiqabane lakhe langaphandle ngoku. Oku kuchaza inkqubo neefom.
Utshintsho olukhulu lweparadigm yokwamkelwa kwemitshato yabantu besini esifanayo
Umtshato wesini esifanayo usenempikiswano kwezinye izangqa. Nangona kunjalo, phantse isibini kwisithathu sabantu baseMelika abaphikisani nayo. Ubomi, inkululeko kunye nokufuna ukonwaba ngamagama afunyenwe kwiSibhengezo senkululeko, umtshato kubo bonke abantu baseMelika ngaphandle kokuzibandakanya kwezesondo ngoku lilungelo loluntu elisisiseko.