Into ekufuneka uyazi malunga noMtshato kunye neMpilo yeNgqondo

Umxholo

• Abantu abasempilweni ngokwengqondo baziva bonwabile ngeziqu zabo
• Abantu abaphilileyo engqondweni bayalonwabela ulwalamano kunye nabo
• Abantu abaphilileyo engqondweni bayazenzela izigqibo
• Abantu abaphilileyo ngokwasengqondweni aboyiswa ziimvakalelo zabo
• Abantu abasempilweni ngokwasengqondweni banoburharha
• Abantu abaphilileyo engqondweni baphatha abanye ngembeko

Umtshato kunye nempilo ziyadibana. Umgangatho womtshato wakho uhambelana kakhulu nomgangatho wempilo yakho.

Impilo yengqondo kunokuba yinto ekunzima ukuyiqonda, ukuyiqonda ngokupheleleyo, okanye nokulinganisa, kuba, ubukhulu becala, ayibonakali kwaye iqhubeka ngaphakathi entlokweni yakho.

Nangona kunjalo, ngokujonga ngononophelo kunye nonxibelelwano, okuninzi kunokufundwa kwaye kufunyanwe malunga nempilo yengqondo, ebantwini nakwizibini ezitshatileyo.

Ubudlelwane phakathi komtshato kunye nempilo yengqondo ngenene inomdla, kwaye kukho imizekelo engenakubalwa yeziphumo ezilungileyo nezingalunganga. Izibonelelo zempilo yomtshato apho omabini amaqabane onwabele impilo entle yengqondo iphindaphindekile.

Eli nqaku liza kujonga ezinye zeempawu zomntu ophilileyo engqondweni kwaye emva koko sixoxe ngendlela umtshato kunye nempilo yengqondo ezinokusebenzisana ngayo.

Makhe siqwalasele iziphumo zomtshato, indima yomtshato kwimpilo yengqondo kunye nezibonelelo eziphambili zomtshato.

Abantu abasempilweni ngokwengqondo baziva bonwabile ngeziqu zabo

Impilo yengqondo inento yokwenza nokuzithemba nokuzithemba, usazi ukuba njengomntu ubalulekile kwaye unegalelo elibalulekileyo kobu bomi.

Xa utshatile wonwabile emntwini okuxabisileyo kwaye okuxabisileyo, oku kuhamba ixesha elide ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho kunye nolwaneliseko, ukumisela isiseko esomeleleyo sokukwazi ukusebenza ngendlela esempilweni, ngokwengqondo nangokweemvakalelo nangokomzimba.

Incoko iyinyani, ukuba iqabane lakho ligxeka kwaye liyakudelela, liyakukujongela phantsi ukuziva kwakho kubalulekile kwaye kuya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukuhlala usempilweni ngokwengqondo kolo hlobo lomtshato.

Abantu abaphilileyo engqondweni bayalonwabela ulwalamano kunye nabo

Ubudlelwane ngokwenene bububomi obu kwaye, umtshato kunye nempilo yengqondo zidityaniswe ngokunzulu. Umtshato kunye nokugula ngengqondo akuhlukanga njengoko umntu ethanda ukukholelwa.

Xa utshatile, iqabane lakho liba lulwalamano lwakho oluphambili, kodwa kusekho uninzi lolwalamano olubalulekileyo olufuna ukugcinwa kunye namalungu osapho kunye nabahlobo.

Abantu abaphilileyo ngokwasengqondweni bayakwazi ukugcina olu lwalamano, benzela abanye ixesha kunye nokubeka amaqabane abo phambili. Xa isibini sijongeka kakhulu ngaphakathi kwaye sinobudlelwane obuncinci, ukuba bukhona, ngaphandle komnye nomnye, oku kunokuba ngumqondiso ongenampilo.

Uxinzelelo kunye neengxaki zomtshato zivela xa elinye lamaqabane liziva linyanzelwe kwaye linyanzelekile emtshatweni.

Ukuba elinye iqabane lihlukanisa elinye iqabane, libangela ukuba bashiye okanye bakhukhumale kubuhlobo obuxabisekileyo bangaphambili, kwanamalungu osapho, oku kunokuba sisibonakaliso esinzulu sokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nomtshato ododobalayo obangela uxinzelelo.

Iziphumo zokungajongani nemicimbi ejikeleze umtshato kunye nempilo yengqondo mibi.

Ukuba uyoyika ukudakumba okukhokelela kuqhawulo mtshato, kuya kuba luncedo ukwazi ukuba uxinzelelo luchaphazela njani umtshato kunye neendlela ezifanelekileyo zokumelana nokudakumba emtshatweni.

Abantu abaphilileyo engqondweni bayazenzela izigqibo

Uhambo oluya ebuntombini lubandakanya ukufunda ukwenza izigqibo zakho kwaye uthathe uxanduva ngeziphumo zezo zigqibo, nokuba zintle okanye zimbi.

Umntu okhulileyo kwaye ophilileyo ngokwengqondo akasayi kufuna okanye alindele ukuba omnye umntu athathe izigqibo ezinzima zobomi endaweni yabo, kuba bayaqonda ukuba lilungelo labo noxanduva lwabo.

Kumtshato olungileyo, iqabane ngalinye linika elinye isithuba sokwenza izigqibo ezizezabo, ngelixa lixoxa ngokunye kunye kwaye lixhasana nokuba sithini na isigqibo esigqibeleleyo.

Indima yomtshato kwimpilo yengqondo inokuthatha into embi xa elinye iqabane lithimbe ilungelo lalo lokuzenzela izigqibo, naxa elinye iqabane linyanzelisa ukuthatha zonke izigqibo.

Abantu abaphilileyo ngokwasengqondweni aboyiswa ziimvakalelo zabo

Amaxesha anzima kunye nokusokola kuza kuthi sonke, kwaye kulungile kwaye kufanelekile ukuveza iimvakalelo zethu zentlungu kunye nomzabalazo, nokuba kungokukhala, umsindo, ixhala okanye ukuziva unetyala.

Nangona kunjalo, xa ezi mvakalelo zisongamela kangangokuba singakwazi ukusebenza ngesiqhelo kubomi bemihla ngemihla, ixesha elide, kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba asiphilanga ngokwasemphefumlweni, sidandathekile emtshatweni okanye sigula ngengqondo.

Iqabane lomtshato linokuba ngumntu ofanelekileyo ukuba eze ecaleni kweqabane elisokolayo kwaye acele uncedo olufanelekileyo kunye noncedo lobungcali.

Ngelishwa, iingxaki ezinxulumene nomtshato kunye nempilo yengqondo zihlala zihoywa okanye zityhalelwa bucala kude kube kufikelele kumanqanaba ayintlekele.

Malunga nomtshato kunye nokugula ngengqondo; kubudlelwane obulungileyo bomtshato, impilo yengqondo ibaluleke kanye njengempilo yomzimba.

Abantu abasempilweni ngokwasengqondweni banoburharha

Kuyinyani ngenene ukuba ukuhleka liyeza elungileyo.

Uburharha emtshatweni bulinganisa imeko yomtshato kunye nempilo yengqondo.

Ukuba wena neqabane lakho ninokuhleka kunye yonke imihla ninobutyebi obuxabisekileyo obufuna ukukhuthazwa nokuxabiswa.

Izibonelelo zomtshato zomtshato zibandakanya intsebenziswano eyonwabisayo kunye neyonwabisayo neqabane lakho, apho unokwenza khona ukukhanya kwezinto kwaye utyhoboze nakwewona maxesha anzima.

Abantu abaphilileyo engqondweni banokuhleka bobabini kunye nabanye.

Ukuba uzimisele kakhulu ukwenza isiqhulo kwaye ucaphuka msinya, uyakufumanisa kunzima ukonwabela ubudlelwane bakho bomtshato.

Kwelinye icala, ukuba “iziqhulo” zeqabane lakho zikhohlakele kwaye ziyathoba isidima, kwaye xa uthe waqubisana nabo malunga naloo nto, bayala ukutshintsha bakutyhole ngokuba "ubukhali kakhulu", mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka ufune uncedo ngokucebisa.

Esi sisicwangciso esaziwa kakuhle ngabantu abangaphilanga kakuhle ngokwengqondo abahlala bewaphula amaqabane abo ngokucinga ukuba "zihlekisa". Uxinzelelo emitshatweni kuqhelekile xa elinye iqabane lihlekiswa liqabane elingakhathaliyo.

Ukuba akukho mntu uhlekayo inokuthi, phofu, ibe kukuxhatshazwa, hayi ukuhlekisa.

Abantu abaphilileyo engqondweni baphatha abanye ngembeko

Ngokunokwenzeka olona phawu lucacileyo lwempilo yengqondo kukukwazi ukuphatha abanye ngentlonipho nangesidima.

Kungenxa yokuba uyakuqonda ukubaluleka kwakho kunye nokuxabiseka kwabo bonke abanye abantu nokuba badala kangakanani, iinkolelo, ubuhlanga, isini okanye inqanaba ebomini.

Nokuba abanye bahluke kakhulu kuwe, uyakwazi ukuziphatha kubo ngokuqonda, ngelixa ugcina eyethu imida yokuziphatha okuhle, nokuba kungokuthetha okanye isenzo.

Umtshato yindawo efanelekileyo yokuziqhelanisa kunye nokukhuthaza olu hlobo lwentlonipho, okokuqala omnye komnye, okwesibini kubantwana bakho, kwaye ekugqibeleni uninzi lwabanye ababalulekileyo ebomini bakho.