Umxholo
- Ndazi njani xa sele bevavanye ngokupheleleyo?
- Ngaba ikhona into endinokuyenza? Ndiva ngathi ndizamile yonke into.
- Ke ndenza ntoni okwangoku?
Ukutsala ubunzima obufayo kuyadina. Ndiyathemba ukuba awuzange uhambise isidumbu sokwenyani. Kodwa mhlawumbi uyakhumbula okokugqibela xa umntwana wakho omncinci wayenomsindo opheleleyo kwaye kwafuneka ubarhuqe, okanye okokugqibela umntu elele kwindawo engeyiyo. Kunzima kakhulu kunokuhambisa ifanitshala okanye ukutya. Uninzi lwezibini endizibonayo ubuncinci kwinqanaba elithile lizinikele kutshintsho, kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa umntu omnye engekho?
Ndazi njani xa sele bevavanye ngokupheleleyo?
Ubusoloko ucela utshintsho, nokuba kungokufihlakeleyo okanye ngqo. Ubuzibuza, 'Ndingenza ntoni ukuze ndibenze bonwabe ngakumbi?' Kudala uzama ukuba liqabane elingcono nelingcono. Kwaye konke oku kuye kwayifumana impendulo encinci kwiqabane lakho. Rhoqo izinto ezincinci, ezintle ababedla ngokuzenza ukukubonisa uthando lwabo ziyekile. Okona kubi nangakumbi, baqalisile ukwenza izinto ezimbi, ezenzakalisayo kwaye abaziphenduli izicelo zakho zokuyeka. Ngokwesiqhelo eli nqanaba lithatha unyaka okanye nangaphezulu ngaphambi kokuba uqonde ukuba kubonakala ngathi abakhathalelanga indlela oziva ngayo.Udikiwe kukulila, ukungqiba, kunye nokudana.
Ngaba ikhona into endinokuyenza? Ndiva ngathi ndizamile yonke into.
Okokuqala, njengomcebisi, ndingathi ukuba awukabikho, kuya kufuneka ucele ukuba nobabini nifumane ingcali yokukunceda ukulungisa ubudlelwane. Ukuba bayala, ke ndicebisa ukuba ubekho kuwe! Uhambe ixesha elide leemvakalelo ezinzima, kwaye ufuna umntu oza kukunceda ulungelelanise iimvakalelo zakho, iimfuno zakho, kunye nendlela yokuphatha ubomi kunye neqabane eliphumileyo.
Nokuba uwedwa, okanye nomsebenzi oyingcali, zibuze le mibuzo:
1. Ngaba ndibazisile ngokucacileyo indlela endivakalelwa ngayo? Amaxesha amaninzi abantu bacinga ukuba, 'KUFANELE BAYAZI indlela endivakalelwa ngayo!,' Kodwa bandithembe, abanokwazi ukuba lingakanani izinga leemvakalelo zakho. Ngamanye amaxesha bafuna ukwazi ukuba uqala ukucinga ngegama le-D.
2. Ngaba kukho iibhloko zokuqhubela phambili? Ukuba imali ixinene, kunokuba nengqondo ukuba uMhla woBusuku awunakwenzeka, nokuba ufuna kangakanani. Sebenzisa ezinye izinto ezinokukunceda ukuba ususe ulwamvila ekusebenzeni kwabo.
3. Ndiziva njani ngale nto? Amaxesha amaninzi, amaxesha amaninzi ndibabonile abantu abaphendula nje ukwaliwa (ngesiqhelo kukuhlukumezeka okudlulileyo nabanye), kwaye hayi ngothando lokwenene kumaqabane abo. Kwakhona, ingcali inokukunceda uqonde ukuba ubathanda nyhani kwaye ufuna ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho, okanye ukuba unengxaki yokulahla.
Njengoko usebenza ngeempendulo, ungafika kwinqanaba lokuqonda ukuba kuya kufuneka uzamkele izinto ongenakukwazi ukuzitshintsha, ukuba awukulungelanga ukwahlukana. Kwaye kulungile. Kulungile ukuyeka ukungqiba nokuzama, kwaye ulinde ubone ukuba utshintsho lunokwenzeka ngokwakho. Njengomcebisi, ndikubonile oku kusenzeka ngaphandle kweblue.
Ke ndenza ntoni okwangoku?
Qonda ukuba uphoxekile kwaye wenzakele. Zibuze, yintoni ongayikhathalelanga yona, ngokugxila ekwenzeni ukuba batshintshe? Njengoko omnye wabathengi bam beso eyibeka kakuhle, "Ndilahlekelwe yeyona nguqulelo yam izama ukonwabisa omnye umntu." Ndikhe ndababona abathengi abaye bayekisa ukuqeshwa kwezamayeza kunye namazinyo! Gxila kukhula kwakho kunye nokukhula. Kananjalo, ngawaphi amava owadlulisileyo ngenxa yokuba iqabane lakho belingafuni ukujoyina nawe? Yiya kwikhonsathi, kuloo movie, kuloo ndawo yokutyela. Thatha isifundo se-skiing, ukuba iholide, loo adventure. Izinto oziphosileyo ziyakucaphukisa, kwaye akuncedi nto ukulungisa izinto.
Anditsho ukuba kufuneka uncame iqabane lakho, ndithetha nje ukuba ekupheleni kosuku usenoxanduva lolonwabo lwakho, ke ungazilahli kwinkqubo!