Umxholo
- Izizathu ezinokubakho kunye neempawu zokulumkisa malunga nokuthandana ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukujongana nokukrokrela ukukopela emtshatweni
Ukungcatsha ngesondo kunqumle nzulu emphefumlweni womtshato. Kukwaphula umthetho okusondeleyo.
Nangona kunjalo, uphando kunye nabaxumi bam babonisa ukuba ubudlelwane obungatshatanga nomntu ongatshatanga naye bunokwenzakalisa nangakumbi. Ngoba?
Khawufane ucinge nje: Ukukhohlisa ngesondo emtshatweni kuhlala kuthintelwe kulwaphulo-mthetho lokuthanda. Umlingane owonileyo usenakho ukubanga ukuba umtshato wabo unezinye izibophelelo ezininzi
Kodwa ubudlelwane obungaphandle komtshato bunokwanda ngakumbi kuba iqabane eliqhathayo litsala umntu wonke.
Olu hlobo lokukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni kuhlala kubizwa ngokuba yi-Emotional Affair. Umlingane owonileyo ngoku uyazibuza: "Ngaba iqabane lam liyandithanda, liyandihlonipha, kwaye liyandifuna?"
Umcimbi wokukopela ngokweemvakalelo kubudlelwane udala imibuzo emininzi, kodwa eyona mibini ixhaphakileyo yile:
- Zeziphi ezinye iimpawu ezinokuba sisilumkiso sokungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo?
- Ungajongana njani nokuthandana ngokweemvakalelo?
Nazi ezinye zeengcinga malunga nale mibuzo.
Izizathu ezinokubakho kunye neempawu zokulumkisa malunga nokuthandana ngokweemvakalelo
Rhoqo, obu buqhetseba obungeyomzimba emtshatweni buyenzeka emsebenzini. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, iqabane lakho mhlawumbi linamathuba amaninzi okuba nala mntu usebenza naye.
Aba babini banokuba besebenza kwiprojekthi enye okanye bebaleka rhoqo kwilifti okanye kwivenkile yekofu ekufuphi, okanye ukuya kwiintlanganiso ngokubanzi nakwiminyhadala yeofisi.
Kwaye ubungakanani bokusebenza kwiprojekthi kunye bonyusa imeko yonxibelelwano kunye nokusebenzisana.
Umzekelo, baziva benokwabelana amaxabiso kunye neembono ezifanayo. Baxhasa izimvo zomnye nomnye ezintlanganisweni, bathoba ixhala lomnye, kwaye bayavuya omnye komnye.
Ewe, uninzi loogxa bakho bayawazi umahluko phakathi kwabahlobo bosebenza nabo basebenza nabo emphefumlweni, kodwa uyayibona indlela ekunokuba lula ngayo kwabanye abantu ukuwela loo mgceni — ngakumbi xa kukho iingxaki emtshatweni.
Iimpawu zokulumkisa zomsebenzi kunye nezingasebenziyo ziyafana kodwa azifani.
Nalu uluhlu olukhawulezayo lokuziphatha ukuze uziqwalasele zombini ezi meko.
- Iqabane lakho lichitha ixesha elongezelelekileyo emsebenzini. Okanye, ukuba uthando olutsha alungosebenza naye, iqabane lakho linokuchaza ukuba "kufuneka lihlale ixesha elide emsebenzini." Umkhohlisi unokongeza ukuba kukho ityala elikhulu okanye iprojekthi efuna ixesha elongezelelweyo.
- Umlingane wakho uhlala enuka utywala xa efika ekhaya — kwaye kunqabile ukuba abe notywala xa ephefumla — ngaphandle kwaxa kukho amatheko eofisi. Ukuphefumla okuphinda-phindeneyo kunokuba ngumqondiso woxinzelelo-okanye iintlanganiso zasemva kwexesha lomsebenzi nalo mntu uthathe ingqalelo yeqabane lakho, intliziyo-kwaye mhlawumbi nomzimba.
- Ngokufanayo, iqabane lakho liza ekhaya rhoqo emva kwexesha kwisidlo sangokuhlwa-Okanye angalambi (kuba sele esidlile nalo mntu mtsha.)
- Iqabane lakho lichitha ixesha elininzi kunesiqhelo emnxebeni okanye kwikhompyuter-Kwaye uyenza emfihlakalweni okanye uyacaphuka okanye unqabile xa ungena egumbini.
- Iqabane lakho ngokukhawuleza liqwalasele ngakumbi ukuzilungisa kwakhe, impahla kunye neenwele. Ngequbuliso ubonakala enomdla ngakumbi ekujongeni imfashini ngakumbi. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba uye wenza nezinto ezintsha azithengileyo- zona bazichaza njengezidinga “isiketi okanye ihempe entsha.
- Iqabane lakho libonisa umdla okhawulezileyo nomangalisayo wokubukela iinkqubo ezahlukeneyo zikamabonwakude okanye iimuvi- okanye ezinye izinto (kuba ezo yiminqweno yalo mntu mtsha.)
- Iqabane lakho libonakala Umdla omncinci kwisini (kuba amandla akhe ezesondo ngulo mntu mtsha). Okanye, ngequbuliso ufuna ukuzama indlela entsha yokuziphatha ngokwesondo angazange azame okanye athethe ngayo (kuba uzama ukubuyisela umtsalane kuye kuwe.)
Jonga kwakhona: Impembelelo kunye neziphumo zento ehambelana neemvakalelo.
Ukujongana nokukrokrela ukukopela emtshatweni
Unokhetho oluninzi.
Sukuqala ukukrokra, ukutyhola, ukuphosa izinto, ukugrogrisa uqhawulo-mtshato, ukuthandana, okanye ukungalawuleki ngokweemvakalelo. Endaweni yoko, zama ezinye iindlela ezinobuchule.
- Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uzenze zonke ezi zimvo. Kuyaqondakala ukuba, nganye nganye inokukwenza uzive ungonwabanga. Cinga nganye nganye-kwaye xa ungathandabuzeki, zifune ukucetyiswa.
- Xelela iqabane lakho ukuba uziva ngathi uyakhukuliseka mva nje. Buza ukuba naye uziva ngendlela efanayo na.
- Cebisa ukwenza izinto ezintsha okhe waxoxa ngokwenza ngaphambili—Kodwa zange athabathe manyathelo.
- Xelela iqabane lakho ukuba nithanda ukuba nobabini nenze uluhlu lwezinto eninokuzenza kunye.
- Nikezela ngokudibana isidlo sasemini okanye isidlo sangokuhlwa ngexesha leveki yokusebenza. (Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakukhalazela oku — okanye likubekel 'amangomso — buza ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni emsebenzini.)
- Bhala inqaku lothando kwiqabane lakho kwaye zibandakanye izinto ozithandayo nizihloniphayo kwaye nizikhathalele ngaye. Cela iqabane lakho ukuba lenze okufanayo. (Ukuba iqabane lakho lenza izizathu, libuze ukuba kutheni lingafuni ukuyenza loo nto.)
- Xelela iqabane lakho ukuba uyamkhumbula. Okanye, isini eso asibonakali sifezekisa mva nje, kwaye ufuna ukwazi ukuba kutheni-kwaye yintoni enye efunwa liqabane lakho. (Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakugxotha, libuze ukuba kutheni.)
- Ukuba akukho nanye kwezi ngcebiso ephucula ubudlelwane-okanye ukuba iimpendulo zeqabane lakho zikwandisa ukukrokrela kwakho, ungabuza ukuba ingaba unemvakalelo komnye umntu na. Ukuba iqabane lakho liyavuma, sukuya kwisiphelo esinzulu! Endaweni yoko, yenza nayiphi na okanye zonke ezi zinto zilandelayo:
- Mcele ukuba baye kwiingcebiso kunye
- Mcele akuxelele lonke ibali nenyaniso
- Mcele akuxelele ukuba ufuna ntoni kubudlelwane bakho.
- Nika omabini ixesha lakho lokufunda, ukuphilisa kunye nokukhula konxibelelwano olomeleleyo.
Ukukopa ngokweemvakalelo emtshatweni kunokukhohlisa, kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha ade umntu lowo ukukopa emtshatweni kunokungaziboni iimpawu zokungathembeki.
Kananjalo, ngenxa yokuba kungekho buhlobo basemzimbeni, yenza kube nzima ngakumbi ukubona imiqondiso yokulumkisa ngokukhohlisa emtshatweni.
Ke, ukuba unokrokra olukhulayo lokuba iqabane lakho linokukhohlisa emtshatweni, ungalisebenzisa eli nqaku njengesikhokelo sokuqonda indlela elitshintsha ngayo iqabane lakho, kwaye ukuba unetyala, ungaqala uhambo lwakho lokubuyela kwimeko yakho yeemvakalelo.