Umxholo
- Uluhlu olubanzi
- Rhoqo iindlela zokusondelelana ngaphaya kwesondo ziphelile
- Ukubuyisela ubuhlobo
- Zihlaziye ezinye iziqu zakho
- Jonga
- Umzamo
Xa ndisebenza nabantu abatshatileyo kunzima ukuba bavakalise ezokwabelana ngesondo, ndenza ulwalamano. "Ungayichaza njani le nto?" Ndiyabuza. Rhoqo kungelilo igama lokuqala elithetha omnye okanye bobabini ngesondo. Ewe, isondo sisondelelene. Kodwa masambe nzulu.
Uluhlu olubanzi
Iindidi ezahlukeneyo zesondo, ezinje ngesondo kunye nomlomo, zihlala zinxulunyaniswa nabaxhasi bam ngokusondelelana.
Ngamanye amaxesha isondo kuphela.
Kodwa ukusondelelana luphawu lokuziphatha kunye neemvakalelo. Ukusuka ekubambeni izandla ukuya ekuphuzeni. Ukusuka ekuhlaleni ecaleni kwenye esofeni ubukele imovie ukuya ekumangeni phantsi kwezikhuselo.
Emva kokuba abathengi bam bekhululekile kunye (ngamanye amaxesha abatsha kubo) inkcazo yokusondelana, ndithatha ixesha lokuxoxa ngembali yabo yobudlelwane njengoko inxulumene nolwalamano. Kwakunjani kunyaka wokuqala wobudlelwane bakho?
Iminyaka emihlanu kwi. 10 iminyaka kwi.
Kubazali, emva kokuba unomntwana. Kwaye njalo njalo, usithatha ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Impendulo yesiqhelo neqhelekileyo yile: “Ekuqaleni, besisondele kwaye sisebenza kakhulu kulwalamano lwethu. Kwakubaluleke kakhulu kwaye kwakumnandi. Njengoko iminyaka yayiqhubeka, yaqala ukuphela, kwaye kubazali, sele ilahlekile nje emva kokuba sinabantwana. ” Umlingo awukho kwaye omnye okanye bobabini banokubuza imeko yobudlelwane.
Rhoqo iindlela zokusondelelana ngaphaya kwesondo ziphelile
Ngamanye amaxesha abathengi babona ukubambana ngezandla okanye ukungxola njengezinto ezenziwa ngabantu abancinci, hayi ama-45 eminyaka ubudala. Kwaye xa isondo senzeka, kuyinto eqhelekileyo kwaye ayonwabanga ngokweemvakalelo. Amaxesha amaninzi akukho mnqweno wokuthandana kwaye endaweni yoko, umntu omnye uyahamba nawo "ukuze aphumelele."
Ukubuyisela ubuhlobo
Ngaba likho ithemba? Ndihlala ndinethemba ebomini kwaye ndenza konke okusemandleni am ukunika ithemba kubaxumi bam ukuba liyasilela.
Ezinye iingcebiso endizicebisayo
Zihlaziye ezinye iziqu zakho
Xa uwedwa, ungumntu ozimeleyo.
Unomdla kunye nemisebenzi oyithandayo. Xa usiba sisibini, olunye ulwazi lwakho lomntu lulahlekile njengoko isazisi sithatha indawo. Kubazali, enye okanye ezimbini zinokuphantse zihambe ngokupheleleyo njengoko uzinikele ngokupheleleyo kubuzali.
Ndiyabakhuthaza abathengi ukuba baphinde bavuselele ubuni babo ukuze bafumane ukuzaliseka okungakumbi.
Inokuba yiyo nantoni na ukusuka kwiklabhu yencwadi ukuya kubusuku be-poker. Kwaye kubalulekile ukuba omnye komnye axhase le misebenzi, kungenjalo, ibangela ingqumbo. Njengobabini, nibe nobusuku bomhla. Hee bazali! Fumana ukuhlala kwaye uphume. Awuyi kuba ngumzali ombi ukuba ukude kwi-7 yeminyaka ubudala kwiiyure ezimbalwa.
Jonga
Ngokumalunga nokwabelana ngesondo, ndicebisa ukuba abathengi bazibuze kunye: Uthanda ntoni?
Yintoni ongayithandiyo? Ufunantoni? Kwaye okona kubalulekileyo- Ufuna ntoni? Nibe kunye iminyaka. Mhlawumbi into owawuyithanda kwiminyaka eli-10 eyadlulayo ayibalulekanga kuwe ngoku. Mhlawumbi into obungafuni ukuyenza kwiminyaka eli-10 eyadlulayo unomdla kwaye unomdla wokuzama ngoku.
Umzamo
Ukuseka kwakhona ukusondelelana ngumsebenzi onzima.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo ngumzamo. Ukuba ilungu ngalinye lesibini alizinikeli ekusebenzeni nzima ngaphambili, okanye liyazibophelela kodwa alwenzi umsebenzi onzima, le nkqubo ayinakusebenza. Inokude ibe mandundu ngakumbi imeko. “Iyintoni injongo yethu yokuba siye kunyango lwezibini ukuba awukhathali?”
Unokwenza oku!
Ndiyathemba ukuba eli nqaku beliluncedo kuwe. Khumbula ukuba ukubuyisela ukusondelelana kunokwenzeka. Kufuneka usebenze nzima, uvuleke kwaye uthembeke omnye nomnye, kwaye unethemba lokuba izinto ziya kuba ngcono.