Umxholo
- Kuyintoni ukugcinwa komzimba womntwana?
- Amalungelo okundwendwela
- Ukubambisana kwabazali
- Izinto eziluncedo malunga nokugcinwa ngokwasemzimbeni
- Iingxaki zokugcinwa komzimba
EUnited States, ukugcinwa komntwana kwahlulwahlulwa ngokwamacandelo amabini aphambili, okt ilungelo lokugcina ngokwasemzimbeni nangokomthetho. Ukugcinwa ngokwasemzimbeni lilungelo elinikwe umzali lokuhlala nomntwana wakhe emva koqhawulo-mtshato okanye ngokwahlukana. Oku kunokuba ngokudibeneyo okanye kuphela.
Kuyintoni ukugcinwa komzimba womntwana?
Kukho iindidi ezimbini zokugcinwa kwabantwana-
1. Yintoni oyena ndoqo wokugcina umntwana?
Njengoko igama lisitsho, ilungelo elilodwa lokugcina okanye lokugcina libandakanya kuphela umzali ongenaqabane oya kuba ngumzali ogcina umntwana.
2. Yintoni ulwabiwo olwabiwa kunye?
Kwelinye icala, ngokudibeneyo okanye ekwabelaneni ngokugcina kuthetha ukuba bobabini abazali banikwe ilungelo lokuchitha ixesha behlala nomntwana, bobabini abazali bekwabelana ngoxanduva olulinganayo kukhathalelo lomzimba womntwana wabo.
Amalungelo okundwendwela
Umzali ongagcinanga kubantwana oselugcinweni lwabantwana akanakho ukunikwa ilungelo lokuhlala nomntwana / nabantwana kodwa avumelekile amalungelo okundwendwela. “Ngokundwendwela,” umntwana angabelwa ishedyuli, o.k.t. ngeempelaveki, ukuhlala nomzali ongamgcinanga umntwana. Uninzi lwezibini ezidumileyo eziye zadlula okanye eziya kuqhawulo-mtshato zinolu seto. Umzekelo olungileyo kunye wakutshanje nguBrad Pitt kunye no-Angelina Jolie, apho abaphambili banikwa kuphela amalungelo abekiweyo okundwendwela abantwana babo. Ukugcinwa komzimba kukodwa kunikwa umama wabantwana.
Ukubambisana kwabazali
Iinkundla zisengqiqweni ekunikezeleni ngamalungelo okundwendwela kwaye zinengqondo evulekileyo malunga nabazali abafuna ukutyelelwa "ngokukhululekileyo" okanye nokuba babelane ngokuba ngumzali. Le yokugqibela idume kakhulu kule mihla, ekwabizwa ngokuba ngumzali osebenza kunye. Nangona kunjalo, ukukhulisa abantwana ngokubambisana kuvunyelwene kakhulu phakathi kwababini abatshatileyo ngaphandle kokuya kwiinkqubo zomthetho okanye kumatyala okugcina abantwana.
Uninzi lwezibini ezitshatileyo eziqhawule umtshato zabelwa ekukhuliseni kunye okanye kubazali bobabini. Abanye babo baquka uBen Affleck noJennifer Garner, uDemi Moore noBruce Willis, uReese Witherspoon noRyan Philippe, uCourtney Cox noDavid Arquette, uJennifer Lopez noMarc Anthony, uKourtney Cox noScott Disick kunye noRob Kardashian noBlac Chyna, ukubiza igama zimbalwa. Bakholelwa ukuba ukwenza oku kokona kulungileyo komntwana / kwabantwana.
Umgcini-mntu ugcina indawo ahlala kuyo umntwana kunye nobude bexesha. Ikwaxela ukuba ngubani oya kuba nelungelo noxanduva lokuthatha isigqibo somntwana kwimicimbi efana nentlalontle kunye nemisebenzi yemihla ngemihla.
Ukugcina umntwana ngokudibeneyo, nangona kusoloko kubhekiswa kuye njengokugcina umntwana, bekungasoloko kuthetha ukuba abazali baya kwabelana ngexesha elilinganayo ngokuhlala nomntwana. Endaweni yoko, abazali banokubeka isikhokelo esicacileyo kunye neshedyuli xa umntwana eza kuba nomzali ngamnye. Nangona kunjalo, iindleko ezibandakanyekayo ekukhuliseni umntwana zihlala zabelwana ngokwamandla omntu ngamnye.
Okwangoku, iinkundla ziye zatshintshela ekunikezelweni kwelungelo lokuhlala kunye rhoqo nomdla womntwana engqondweni. Kungenxa yokuba zininzi izibonelelo ezinxulumene nolu lungiselelo.
Izinto eziluncedo malunga nokugcinwa ngokwasemzimbeni
- Umzali ngamnye uya kuba nefuthe kumntwana wakhe ngelixa esakhula;
- Unxibelelwano nabazali bobabini luya kusekwa;
- Omnye umzali akazukuziva engaphantsi kunomnye;
- Iindleko ziya kwabelwana ngazo, oko ke kuvumela umzali ngamnye ukuba akhululeke ngakumbi kwimali;
- Akukho mfuneko yokuba umntwana athathe icala ukuba bobabini abazali bakho;
Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba kukho izibonelelo, kusenokubakho nokungahambi kakuhle.
Iingxaki zokugcinwa komzimba
- Ukuba uhlala emakhayeni amabini, umntwana unokufuna ixesha lokuziqhelanisa ngaphambi kokuba akhululeke kwimeko;
- Kwimeko apho la makhaya mabini aqelelene, umntwana usenokuba nobunzima emzimbeni ukusuka kwindlu enye ukuya kwenye. Ixesha elichithwe kuhambo nokubuya linokusetyenziselwa eminye imisebenzi ebalulekileyo;
- Ukutshintshiselana ngokugcina abantwana kunokubangela imeko ephazamisayo kunye noxinzelelo emntwaneni;
- Kumntwana onabazali abaphikisanayo, olo ngquzulwano lunokuphakanyiswa xa kutshintshiswana ngokugcina umntwana, ngaloo ndlela kuchaphazela umntwana kakubi.
Abazali bakwimeko entle yokwazi okona kulungileyo emntwaneni wabo emva kokulinganisa izibonelelo zolondolozo lomzimba oludibeneyo kunye noluphambili. Ekuqhubeni inkqubo yokugcinwa komntwana ke ngoko, kufuneka bayigcine intlalo-ntle yomntwana wabo engqondweni ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na enye into.