Umxholo
- Nibona njani?
- Zama ukubona iintliziyo zabo
- Loyisa njani uloyiko?
- Uqhagamshela njani kwakhona?
- Chitha ixesha ngalinye-nelinye nabo imihla ngemihla
- 2. Dlala ngokudlala nabo
- 3. Bakhumbuze ngokuvakalayo ukuba ngoobani na abakhoyo emehlweni akho
- 4. Bonisa uthando lomzimba
Umbono wakho ngomntwana wakho unamandla okutshintsha yonke into. Njengonyango, eyona nto iphambili kum kukucacisa umbono womzali xa ejongene nomntwana odelelayo okanye ophazamisayo.
Ukulungiswa kokuziphatha kuqala ngaphambi kokuziphatha.
Engcanjini yayo umntwana nomzali bakholelwa malunga naloo mntwana. Amaxesha ngamaxesha, kuye kufuneke kubekho UTSHINTSHO. Olu tshintsho lwembono lunokutshintsha into enokuba "yinyani" ngalo mzuzu ngokuziphatha komntwana, iye kwiNYANISO enzulu yokuba umntwana ungubani ngokwenyani.
Nibona njani?
Masiyihlolisise loo nto. Ngokubanzi, abantwana ababonisa ukungaziphathi ngendlela yokuziphatha banokunqunyanyiswa ngokweemvakalelo kubazali babo. Nangona kunjalo, ayizukuvakala ingcinga yokugxeka abazali kolu nqamlezo. Kuyirhafu ukuhlala uxakekile ngokweemvakalelo kumntwana owenza umonakalo kwindlu.
Utyekelo olulula kukuqhawula imvakalelo kunye nokuzikhupha. Kodwa, umbono wakho ngomntwana wakho, nokuba ngowona mzuzu wokuphosa umsindo, kufuneka uhambelane nombono wokuba ngubani onethemba lokuba baya kuhlala bekhona.
Xa uphulukana nokubamba ukuba ngubani umntwana wakho, ezantsi ezantsi, baya kuphulukana nokubamba naye. Baqala ukuba yile nto woyika ukuba baya kuba yiyo. Xa ukholelwa ukuba embindini wabo, banemvukelo kwaye abanaluthando, uya kubona ezo zenzo zilandela ngokukhawuleza.
Zama ukubona iintliziyo zabo
Abantwana bafuna ulwakhiwo, okulindelweyo kunye neziphumo. Ngokubanzi, nangona kunjalo, ukungahloneli akubangelwa kukusilela kweziphumo, kodwa endaweni yoko, kwenzeka xa ulwakhiwo kunye noqeqesho lubekwa phambili ngexesha elifanelekileyo nomntwana.
Oku kubangela ukunqongophala kokuncamathiselwa, kwaye ngenxa yoko kunqamke iimvakalelo kunye nokudelela.
Indlela ozibona ngayo umntwana wakho ayiyiyo intliziyo yakhe. Ukuchasa abakubonisa kona ayisiyiyo indlela abafuna ukukuphatha ngayo. Umntwana wakho akaze aluphale kakhulu okanye abe nomsindo kakhulu ukuba angadibana nawe kwakhona. Le yinyaniso epheleleyo ebomini.
Abantwana nabazali benzelwe ukunxibelelana.
Sisidingo esakhelwe kwindalo yethu. Umntwana wakho uyakufuna. Umntwana wakho uyakudinga. Umntwana wakho unqwenela ukwazi ukuba ubakhathalele kangakanani na, nkqu nangeyona mihla yakhe inentiyo nengavisisaniyo. Le yimbono yabo wena njengomzali ekufuneka ubambelele kuyo ngobomi obuthandekayo.
Xa uqala ukukholelwa uloyiko, uphulukene nedabi lomntwana wakho.
Loyisa njani uloyiko?
Uloyiko lukuxelela ukuba umntwana wakho akakhathali, kwaye abasafuni okanye bafuna uthando lwakho nothando.
Kuyakhwaza ukuba ekuphela kwendlela yokubona utshintsho yimithetho engaphezulu, ukohlwaywa okungakumbi, kunye nokuqhawula imvakalelo ukugcina usizi lwentliziyo yakho kwintlungu nakwaliwa. Uloyiko luxoka kuwe. Nokuba yintoni enokuthi izive iyinyani ngalo mzuzu (ngelixa umntwana wakho ekuphosela ubundlobongela obunqabileyo behlabathi kwaye akuqhushumbise ngenxa yeligumbi lokufa), kufuneka ubambelele kwinyani engaguqukiyo efunwa ngumntwana wakho kwaye uyakuthanda.
Bahlala benazo. Ziza kuhlala zikhona. Kuya kufuneka ungoyena uqhubeke nokudibanisa kwakhona, ngaphandle kwentlungu abayenzayo.
Uqhagamshela njani kwakhona?
Ukuze uphinde unxibelelane nomntwana wakho, khetha izinto ezibonisa umdla kubo -
Chitha ixesha ngalinye-nelinye nabo imihla ngemihla
Nokuba yimizuzu elishumi elinesihlanu kuphela ebusuku, zinikele kwelo xesha. Kule mizuzu ilishumi elinesihlanu, yonke enye into iyema. Bafumana ingqalelo yakho engafaniyo.
Oku kubabonisa ukuba baxabiseke kangakanani kuwe, kwaye xa baziva bexabisekile, benza ngokufanelekileyo.
2. Dlala ngokudlala nabo
- Dlala umdlalo webhodi
- Ukulwa
- Thatha uhambo
- Cula kunye
- Yakha ingubo yokulala kwigumbi lokuhlala.
Ukuba kunzima ukuba usebenze ngokwasemzimbeni, yinyama ngexesha lemihla ngemihla, imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla. Umzekelo, hlala ecaleni kwabo ngelixa ubukele umabonwakude endaweni yokuhlala kwisofa eyahlukileyo.
3. Bakhumbuze ngokuvakalayo ukuba ngoobani na abakhoyo emehlweni akho
Kufuneka bayive, kodwa oku kuyanceda ukukhumbuza ukuba iyinyani! Baxelele ukuba bayathandwa kwaye bahlukile. Bakhumbuze ukuba babalulekile kuwe. Bancome. Bancome nanini na xa besenza into entle.
Abantwana bafuna ingqalelo. Ukuba kuphela kwexesha othetha nabo ukulungisa ukuziphatha kwabo kakubi, balambile ngokomoya. Gcwalisa iindlebe zabo ngeempawu ezintle kunye nokuzazisa.
4. Bonisa uthando lomzimba
Oku kulula kubantwana abancinci, kodwa rhoqo njengoko kufuneka kulutsha. Bakhumbuze ngokubaluleka kwabo ngokuphatha njengokwangana, ukwanga, ukukrwitsha, ukubetha emqolo, ukubambana ngezandla, ukuhlala ecaleni kwabo, okanye ukurabha umqolo ngexesha lokulala.
Le misebenzi ayinakuyilungisa kwangoko indlela abaziphethe ngayo, kodwa zizibhloko zokwakha ezenza ezinye iindlela zokuguqula indlela yokuziphatha zibe luncedo kude. Umbono wakho ngabo uya kubonisa indlela abazijonga ngayo.
Bambelela kwimbono yokuba zilungile, zixabisekile, kwaye ziya kuhlala zikudinga. Bamba ithemba.