Umxholo
Abantu abaninzi bathandana kwaye bacinga ukuba uthando luya koyisa konke kwaye lukuthabathe iminyaka. Ngelixa uthando luyakuba sesona sithako siphambili kubudlelwane, akufuneki silibale ukuba ezinye izinto zokwenza ubudlelwane baphumelele, lunxibelelwano, ukuthembana kunye nentlonipho.
Xa ucinga ngako, ubuhlobo bunokuhlala njani ngaphandle kwazo naziphi na ezi zithako ezingekhoyo?
Ndisebenze nezibini ezininzi ukuba nangona benesiseko sento enokugcina ubudlelwane, enye yezi ilahlekile nokuba kungenxa yokuba belahlekile, okanye ngenxa yokuba bengazange babenayo.
Ndiyathetha ukuba ucinga ngayo, buya kuhlala ixesha elingakanani ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokunxibelelana, ukuthembana, okanye imbeko.
Ukuba ufunda le nto, kunokwenzeka ukuba usebenzela ekwenzeni ubudlelwane bakho bube ngcono, kwaye ndiyakuncoma ngenxa yokuba abantu abaninzi baziva ukuba emva kokuba neqabane, kulapho iyeka khona, xa uthembeke konke, kulapho iqala khona kuba Ukusebenza kubudlelwane bakho kufanele kube kukuzinikela ubomi bakho bonke.
Abantu akufuneki bayeke ukuzama, ubudlelwane bakho yeyona nto ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho, kwaye ewe kunokuba kunjalo, kuyamangalisa.
Unxibelelwano
Unxibelelwano yeyona nto ibalulekileyo kubudlelwane, masijongane nayo ukuba awunayo, yintoni onayo?
Kubalulekile ukuba nonxibelelwano neqabane lakho, kwaye kufuneka livuleke kwaye lithembeke. Izibini ezininzi zinobunzima bokungafihlisi nokunyaniseka. Ngayiphi na imeko, abaze banyaniseke kubo okanye kwiqabane labo.
Abantu akufuneki babenazo izithintelo ezinokubathintela ekwabelaneni namaqabane abo. Amaxesha amaninzi, abantu bayatshata okanye badibane namaqabane, kwaye baneemvelaphi ezahlukileyo zenkcubeko, okanye bakhuliswe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha.
Ke ngoko, abantu kufuneka bathathe ixesha lokwazana, ekuqaleni kobudlelwane. Chitha ixesha lokwazana, ubuze imibuzo, nichithe ixesha elisemgangathweni kunye, nikhululeke ukuba nincokole nzima, okanye nixoxe ngezihloko ezinzima.
Iingcebiso zonxibelelwano olusempilweni
- Nyaniseka kwaye uvule, ukuba kukho into ekwenza ungonwabi yazisa iqabane lakho, yabelana ukuba kutheni ikwenza uzive ngolu hlobo, jonga iindlela onokuzijonga ngcono xa uxoxa ngemiba ethile okanye izihloko ezithile.
- Buza imibuzo, kwaye ucacise.
- Khetha ixesha losuku oya kulinikezela ukuze uqhelisele unxibelelwano olusebenzayo, ulenze ixesha lakho, nokuba kusesekuseni ngelixa unekofu yakusasa, okanye ebusuku.
- Musa ukuba nezincoko ezingakhiyo phambi kokuba ulale, kwaye ungayi kulala uligqabi ngumsindo kwiqabane lakho.
- Kulungile, ukuvuma ukungavumelani, akusoloko kufuneka uyiphelise incoko bobabini bevumelana nangawo nawuphi na umbandela othile, ungahlala ubuyela kuwo.
- Ukuba umntu uziva engonwabanga, sukunyanzela umba, thabatha incoko ngolunye usuku kunye nexesha ukuba kunokwenzeka.
- Thetha ngendlela ephantsi nentlonipho; akunyanzelekanga ukuba ukhwaze ukuze ufumane ingongoma.
Intlonipho
Ndihlala ndizibuza, kutheni abantu bema okanye bangaze basiphathe esinye isiqingatha sabo ngembeko enkulu. Ngelixa ndihlala ndibona abantu behlonipha abantu ongabaziyo, bahlala besilela ukuhlonipha umntu abaphila kunye naye.
Ndiqinisekile ukuba ayizukulimaza ukuzama, imbeko eqhelekileyo kunye namaqabane abo. Masijongane nayo; abanye abantu abade bathethe kusasa ekuseni omnye komnye. Abatsho ukuba enkosi, kwaye abayibambi iminyango okanye bakhuphe isitulo xa besitya isidlo sangokuhlwa, nangona kunjalo, baya kuyenzela abo basebenza nabo okanye abantu abangabaziyo.
Amaxesha amaninzi, ngelixa ukungavisisani abantu beya kusebenzisa ulwimi olubi nolungenantlonipho, ulwimi abangasoze balusebenzise esidlangalaleni, okanye phambi kwabanye, kutheni belusebenzisa nomntu abamthandayo?
Ithemba
Ukuthembana yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano. Ngaphandle kokuthembana, ubudlelwane bakho buthathaka kwaye buya kufuna umsebenzi.
Ukuthembela yenye yezinto ezinokuthi xa uphulukene nayo, kuya kuba nzima ukuyifumana kwakhona.
Ukuthembana kungalahleka ngezenzo ezahlukileyo, kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha, enye indlela yokuphulukana nokuthenjwa komntu kukunganyaniseki okuphindaphindiweyo, ndithetha ukuba ungamthemba njani umntu oxoka ephindaphinda.
Enye indlela ukuthembana kuyaphule ngokupheleleyo xa kukho ukungathembeki kubudlelwane. Amaxesha amaninzi, le ndlela yokwaphula ukuthembana ayinakulungiswa. Ukuba kukho ukuthembana kubudlelwane, eyona nto intle ayizukulahleka, unxibelelwano lungaphuculwa, imbeko ifumaneke, kodwa ukuthembela kufuneka kufumaneke.
Ngelixa ndisebenze nabantu abaye bafunda ukuthembela kwakhona, yenye yezona zinto zinzima ukubuyisa kwakhona emva kokuba yaphukile.
Yise kude
Intlonipho, ukuthembana kunye nonxibelelwano zihamba kunye. Kukho nabuphi na ubudlelwane, ukungabikho kwezi zinto ekugqibeleni kuya kuba sisizathu sokudilika. Yiyo loo nto ifuna umgudu oqhubekayo. Ke, qinisekisa ukuba unezinto ezisisiseko kubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo ukuze ubugcine busempilweni, buzalisekisile, kwaye ixesha elide.