Umxholo
- Yonke into ingaba yimpazamo yakho?
- Iimpawu ezibandakanyekileyo kunye narcissist:
- AmaNarcissist abangela umonakalo omkhulu ngokweemvakalelo
- Ukwaziswa kubalulekile njengoko uzula zula ebomini ufuna iqabane
Ukwazi ukuba ngubani omele ungene emnyango sisifundo esifundwe ngokuzama kunye nephutha. Xa kusenziwa ukuthandana, ukufumana iqabane elifanelekileyo lokuphila ngokonwaba-emva koko sisiselo esinencasa sonke esifuna isiselo.
Sinombono ezintlokweni zethu, ngakumbi emva kokubona ICinderella amaxesha angama-zillion, ukuba iPrince Charming iyathandeka, iyasithanda ngokupheleleyo kwaye iya kuhlala izinikele kuthi ngonaphakade.
Zimbalwa kakhulu iintsomi ezinikezela ngenxalenye yesibini.
Akukho mntu ufuna ukuva okwenzekileyo emva kokuba inqwelomoya ibuye yathanga yaza yanyamalala intsomi.
Kungenxa yokuba ngoku ithathelwe indawo ziitawuli ezimanzi kumgangatho wenqaba, akukho zicaka zibonakalayo kwaye bavela phi abo babazala?
Enye into ekungafunekiyo ukuhoywa kukuba azikho iimpuku ezintle onokuthi uthethe nazo, ke uqala ukuthandabuza ubunyulu bakho.
Ngaba loo ngxabano yahamba ngendlela athi ihamba ngayo?
Ngaba ndimtyhole ngokungekho sikweni ndaza ndamkhathaza?
Mhlawumbi ndenze into ngomsindo?
Mhlawumbi wayehlekisa nje phambi kwabahlobo bakhe ... Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, wandixelela ukuba uyayithanda ilokhwe yam.
Ngaba oku kuyavakala njengawe?
Mhlawumbi oku kuvakala ngathi uphindwe kaliwaka.
Kwakudala ngaphambi kokuba iringi ityibiliselwe emnweni wakho, ukuxhathisa kwakho kwakusele phantsi kwaye inqanaba lakho lokunyamezelana lalisele liphezulu, ngoncedo lomtsalane kunye nokudumisa.
Sele ubanjiwe ngumnxibelelanisi.
Yile ndlela ubuzisonge ngayo kubomi bakho bangoku; eyaziwa njenge yakhe ubomi.
Wayemnandi, ezinikele, enomtsalane kunye nenyoka ejikeleze intamo yakho. Isiselo esinencasa enetyhefu osiphuze kancinane ngexesha ekugqibeleni sasinetyhefu.
Uziva ukuba kufuneka urekhode, mhlawumbi irekhodi levidiyo, yonke incoko kunye neqabane lakho ukuze uzibonakalise ukuba awulahlekanga ngengqondo.
Yonke into ingaba yimpazamo yakho?
AmaNarcissist ayinkosi yokukhohlisa. Baza kukukholelwa ukuba uvusa isimilo sabo esibi kwaye kuya kufuneka ubulele ukuba bakuxolele ngalo lonke ixesha usabela ngomsindo.
Ukwazi imiqondiso ye-narcissism kunokuthintela umhlaba wentlungu kunye nokungonwabi, imibimbi kunye nokhilimu wamehlo.
Akukho mntu ufuna ukuvalelwa amehlo, aphulukane nesazisi sakhe, athandabuze ubungqongqo bakhe okanye abuzwe ubuntu babo ngendlela engacacanga kangangokuba khange babone ukuba basikiwe nje kwaye bacocwa de babone ukuba iintliziyo zabo ziziingceba, zisasazeke kwimfumba ecocekileyo umphantsi.
Ukwazisa ngoyena ndoqo ngexesha lenkqubo yokuthandana
Iimpawu ezibandakanyekileyo kunye narcissist:
- Iqabane lakho likratshi ngovelwano oluncinci okanye akukho.
- Iqabane lakho libonisa indlela yokuziphatha.
- I-80% yento ethethwa liqabane lakho bubuxoki kwaye enye i-20% bubuxoki obumhlophe.
- Iqabane lakho linemfuno engapheliyo yokuziva ungaphezulu ngalo lonke ixesha.
- Iqabane lakho ligxeka wonke umntu kwaye alize livume iimpazamo zalo. Awusoze uphendule umbuzo ngqo.
- Umlingane wakho ungumxhaphazi kwaye usebenzisa ukuxhaphaza ngamazwi ngokulula.
- Umlingane wakho akayiboni imida kwaye akabambeleli kuyo.
- Iqabane lakho lidlala neemvakalelo zakho. Umtsalane, ukuLukuhla. Yiba Nenkohlakalo. Phinda.
- Umlingane wakho akaze aqinisekise iimvakalelo zakho. Bazilahla ngokulula nangaphandle kwengcinga.
- Umlingane wakho akaze anike nantoni na ngokuzithandela ngaphandle kokucinga. Ingcinga yindlela abanokukukhohlisa ngayo ukuze ube sematyaleni kubo.
- Umlingane wakho unebali eloyikekayo malunga nomntu wabo wakudala. Uphambene.
- Iqabane lakho likucaphukisa emva koko likutyhole ngempendulo yakho.
AmaNarcissist abangela umonakalo omkhulu ngokweemvakalelo
AbakwaNarcissists bathanda abantu abambalwa kwaye akukho namnye umntu ongaphezulu kwesibuko esipilini. Abasoze bakuxabise kuba baxakeke kakhulu balindele ukuba ube nombulelo ngeliwonga lokundwendwela ubomi babo. Baza kukuphanga ngokweemvakalelo, ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasengqondweni nangokwezimali kwaye bakugculele ngoncumo oziva ngathi wophukile.
Ukwaziswa kubalulekile njengoko uzula zula ebomini ufuna iqabane
Ukwazi ixabiso lakho kwaye ulindele ukuba kuqinisekiswe kufuneka kube ngumthetho wegolide kwilizwe lokuthandana.
Sine-radar yeemvakalelo eyakhelwe ngaphakathi, eyethu iGPS. Ukujongwa kakuhle kweQabane.
Kukwi-limbic system yengqondo. Isivumela ukuba sibe zizidalwa esineemvakalelo kwaye ubungqongqo bengqondo busivumela ukuba sibe neempendulo kwiimvakalelo kwaye sisebenzise izakhono zokucinga ezinzulu.
Ezi ndawo zimbini zingangcono kunenkonzo yophando. Uzazi ngcono kunaye nabani na. Ukuba ayiziva ilungile, ingqondo yakho iya kukwazisa, leyo yinxalenye yeemvakalelo. Kuya kufuneka uvulelwe ukumamela ngaphandle kokuwela kwi “Uzakutshintsha umgibe.” Leyo yinxalenye yokucinga ebalulekileyo emsebenzini.
Ungayihoyi!
AmaNarcissist akatshintshi.
Ke ukuba ubudlelwane bukushiya ukhathazekile, kukushiya ungathandabuzi, kuvusa iimvakalelo ezinje ngokudideka, ukudinwa, ukudana, ukungoneliseki, ukuthotywa, ukudana okanye uxinzelelo, lixesha lokuba ufumane enye inqaba. Ngokukodwa enye ineempuku eziphekayo nezicocekileyo.