Umxholo
Masijongane nayo; Ukwabelana ngesondo kunokufumana into encinci ngamanye amaxesha. Nje ukuba i-oxytocin kunye ne-pheromones zinxibe izinto esakha sazenza njengabantu abatshatileyo azisenamdla njengangaphambili. Oko okanye asiziva sinxibelelene kwaye asibanga nesondo. Kwenzeka kweyona nto intle kuthi. Abanye abantu bamkela inkqubo yesondo, ngelixa abanye bekhetha iintlobo ezahlukeneyo. Ndiyakholelwa ukuba zombini ziyinyani ngaxeshanye.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uziva ngathi wena neqabane lakho nikwindlela yesondo Nazi izinto ezintlanu onokuzenza ukuphucula ubomi bakho ngokwesondo.
1) Thetha ngayo
Amaxesha amaninzi izibini zinengxaki yokuthetha ngeemvakalelo zazo malunga nokwabelana ngesondo. Kunokuba nzima nokuba ngumkhombandlela kwaye uxelele iqabane lethu into esiyithandayo. Sonke siyazi ukuba amaqabane ethu ayingabo abafundi bengqondo ngaxeshanye sihlala sicinga ukuba bayayazi indlela esivakalelwa ngayo okanye xa kukho into okanye engasebenziyo kuthi. Nokuba yeyiphi na inkxalabo yakho (frequency, yesiqhelo, ixhala lokusebenza, njl.) Kunokuba luncedo ukwabelana ngoku kunye neqabane lakho.
Okona kuncinci, baya kuba nokuqonda okungcono apho ukhoyo kunye nezinto ohlangabezana nazo. Kunzima ukufumana into oyifunayo ukuba iqabane lakho alazi ukuba yintoni leyo.
Khumbula ukuba unxibelelwano luhamba ngeendlela ezimbini. Nobabini kufuneka nithethe kwaye nimamele. Abantu bahlala bendixelela ukuba baziphepha njani iincoko eziyimfuneko nabantu kuba "abafuni ukukhathaza iimvakalelo zabo". Gcina ukhumbula ukuphepha ukujongana nemicimbi ebalulekileyo echaphazela ulwalamano lwakho kunokuba yingozi ngaphezu kokunyaniseka malunga nayo.
Ngokwenyani, siyabuthintela ubunzima bokuhlala nempendulo yomntu esimthandayo. Le ayisiyonto ilula ukuyenza. Oko kuthethiweyo, ukuthula kwenza umonakalo omkhulu kwaye umba awusoze usonjululwe.
2) Sebenzani kunye
Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ezona zibini zisempilweni zenza izinto kakuhle kunye kunye nangokuzimela. Oko kuthethiweyo, emva kokuba uthethe malunga nokuba yintoni inkxalabo yesini / umba / injongo, ukusebenza njengeqela ukuyilungisa kuluncedo.
Eli nyathelo lihamba kunye nesinyathelo sokugqibela. Ngokwesiqhelo, xa umntu omnye ebeka yonke imizamo ngelixa elinye iqabane liyiphapha okanye ukuhamba nokuhamba ufumana iziphumo ezibi. Oku kushiya nendawo yokuba ingqumbo ikhule. Yiza nezimvo kwaye wabelane ngazo nabanye. Zama ukuzisa umdlalo othile kwinkqubo. Ukwabelana ngesondo kufuneka kube mnandi.
Kuyavunywa kwakhona ukuba ezinye izibini zinokubetha umqobo xa zizama ukufumana iindlela zokujongana nemicimbi ebalulekileyo (okanye nokuthetha ngayo). Oku akusoloko kubonisa iziphumo ezingalunganga kodwa inkqubo inokuncediswa ukuba ufuna isibini okanye ugqirha wezesondo.
Oku kunokukunceda ufumane umhlaba oqhelekileyo kwaye udibanise nayiphi na inkcaso kwinkqubo ezayo. Nokuba asonwabanga kunokuba nzima ukuqala ukwenza utshintsho oluyimfuneko ukuze sive ngcono. Inkxaso eyongezelelweyo inokuba luncedo ngale mizuzu.
3) Yamkela ukuvuma
Ngamanye amaxesha kuyenzeka ukuba zombini iinjini zesini samaqabane zingavuseleli amandla afanayo. Ukuba le yimeko yobudlelwane bakho kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba ugxothwe ukuze ube namava ezesondo kunye neqabane lakho. Kuphela kufuneka uzimisele. Abantu abasoloko beqala kwindawo enye. Elinye iqabane linokuhlala likulungele ukuya ngelixa elinye lithatha ixesha elininzi kwiinjini zabo zishushubezile.
Njengesibini, ninokuza neekhowudi ezahlukeneyo ukubonisa ukuthanda kwabo ukuba sondelelene. Unokuza nenkqubo yakho kunye, ebonisa isitayile sakho. Eminye imizekelo ingaba lula njengebhodi yokucima owomileyo onokuthi ubhale kuyo "okanye" ucime "kuyo okanye ufumane ubuchule obungakumbi. Inokuba luncedo ukunika iqabane lakho izimvo malunga nendlela yokwenza ukuba uvulwe ngakumbi kwaye ukulungele ukuzibandakanya nabo.
Mhlawumbi kufuneka uthethe ngendlela ethile okanye ufuna ukuziva unqwenela iqabane lakho. Ukuba unokubaxelela ngeendlela ongathanda ukuba ziboniswe ngazo kunokubanceda bahlangabezane neemfuno zakho ngcono.
Kwangelo xesha, ukuba iqabane lakho liyathetha abanamdla wokuba basondele kubalulekile ukuba uyihloniphe le nto kwaye uphephe ukuzama ukubanyanzela. Ukucinezelwa kwabo kuhlala kongeza kwiyantlukwano kunokuyivala. Nokuba utshatile okanye benikunye kunye kangangeminyaka, imvume yinto eyimfuneko kubomi besondo obuphilileyo.
4) Yiya kuhambo lwentsimi
Esi sihloko sinokuvakala singaqhelekanga kodwa ndiyacebisa ukuba uhambe nohambo ukuze ubuchopho bakho besini buhambe. Nokuba uya kubaleka ngempelaveki okanye uchitha iiyure ezimbalwa kwigumbi lasehotele elinomtsalane ngamanye amaxesha utshintsho lwendawo entle lunokubangela uchulumanco. Ayisoloko ikukukhetha ukubaleka kodwa nokutshintsha indawo olala nayo kungenza umohluko.
Zama igumbi elahlukileyo endlwini. Ukuba unabantwana, cinga ngokufumana umntu oza kubagcina ngorhatya ukuze ube nokuzifihla ngakumbi kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuphonononga iindawo ezahlukeneyo zekhaya lakho ezinokuthi zibe yindawo engaziwayo kwindawo yakho yesondo.
Olunye uluvo iya kuba kukusebenzisa iiapps ezikuvumela ukuba ufumane igumbi elihle lehotele iiyure ezimbalwa. Oku kukunika indawo entsha kwaye uyakwenza ukuba elo xesha libe nenjongo kodwa awuyi kubulala isipaji sakho. Unokubandakanya ukudlala indima ethile ngokuqala kwi-bar yehotele kwaye wenze njengobabini nidibana okokuqala.
Oku kunokubonelela ngesantya esithile sokuba uyile ngakumbi malunga nendlela ocinga ngayo ngobomi bakho ngokwesondo kunye neqabane lakho. Sisoloko sinengxaki yokucinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi xa sele siqhele ukuhlala kuyo. Kuya kufuneka wenze uphando ukuze ulungelelanise uhambo lwakho lwentsimi ukuze luhambelane neemfuno zakho.
5) Fumana izixhobo
Kunokuba luncedo ukuya kwivenkile yesini yasekuhlaleni kwaye ujonge iithoyi ezahlukeneyo abanazo apho. Oku kunokuba yindlela ebalulekileyo yokuphonononga izinto ezintsha ongathanda ukuzizama ongazange uziqwalasele. Olunye ukhetho kukubhalisela inkonzo ekuthumelela ukutshabalalisa iimveliso ezinabantu abadala. Oku kungagcina izinto zinomdla ngokongeza ii-twist ezintsha kwaye ninokukhetha zombini into enifuna ukuyifaka ngokuhlwa (okanye kusasa okanye emva kwemini).
Ukuyila iimenyu zesondo sisixhobo esihle. Oku kubandakanya inani elisetiweyo lezinto ofuna ukuzizama. Unokwenza oku ngeendlela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Umntu ngamnye uza neendidi ezinjengezibheno, i-entrees, kunye neidyuli. Oku kuya kuhambelana nomdlalo ongaphambili, umsitho ophambili, nasemva komdlalo. Njengesibini, yabelana ngemenyu yakho kwaye ukhethe izinto kuyo nganye ukuzama okanye ukumothusa iqabane lakho ngento engekho kwimenyu yabo.
Enye inguqulelo yoku kukuhamba ngokuluhlaza, tyheli kunye nobomvu imisebenzi. Uluhlaza iya kuba zizinto ofuna ukuzizama, tyheli zizinto ovulekileyo ukuba uzizame, kwaye bomvu ziya kugcinelwa izinto ongazifuniyo ukuthatha inxaxheba kuzo. nganye.
Oku kunokukhanyisela izibini. Unokuba nemibono ethile malunga nezinto eziza kuba kuluhlu lweqabane lakho. Le misebenzi inokunceda ukucacisa izinto. Ukuba iimenyu zakho zahluke kakhulu kunokuba luncedo ngokutshintshana ngokukhetha kuluhlu lomnye. Awunyanzelekanga ukuba wenze konke ngexesha elinye. Injongo kukuziva unxibelelana ngakumbi omnye komnye. Gcina ukhumbula ukuba ukuziva unxibelelene kunokuthetha izinto ezahlukeneyo kubantu abohlukeneyo.
Hlaziya ubomi bakho ngokwesondo kwaye wakhe ulwalamano olufanelekileyo
Sonke sidinga ukuvuselelwa kancinci kwizikripthi zethu zesini amaxesha ngamaxesha njengeemfuno zethu zesondo kwaye sifuna utshintsho. Qiniseka ukuba ungena kunye nabanye endleleni. Yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yenkqubo yokukhula kobudlelwane. Khumbula ukufikelela kuncedo kwisibini okanye kwingcali yezesondo ukuba uyabambeka okanye ubethe isnag. Esi sisixhobo sokugcina kwibhokisi yezixhobo zakho. Ndiyathemba ukuba la manyathelo anokukukhokela ekufumaneni uthando, uthando kunye nolwalamano olufanelekileyo!