Umxholo
- 1. Konakele phi
- 2. Uzimisele kangakanani ekwenzeni umtshato wakho usebenze?
- 3. Imvakalelo yelungelo inokukwenza ukuba utshate phezulu
- 1. Gxila, tune kwaye umamele iqabane lakho
- 2. Thetha ‘no’ endaweni yokuba ‘uthethe’ neqabane lakho
- 3. Yiza nentobeko emtshatweni wakho
- 4. Ukuthi uxolo akwanele, landela ngokwenza
Ke uyatshata okwesithathu, kwaye siqinisekile ukuba ngeli xesha uzimisele ukuwenza umtshato wakho usebenze, ngapha koko, ngubani otshata ngenjongo yoqhawulo mtshato? Akukho mntu!
Siyavuyisana nawe kwimizamo yakho yokufumana iqabane oza kulonwabela ukuchitha ubomi bakho bonke nalo, kunye nokunganikezeli xa abaninzi bebeya kuba nalo. Ukukunceda apha endleleni sikwanayo neengcebiso zomtshato wesithathu eziza kuthi ngethemba zikuncede wenze lo mtshato ube ngulo uhlala uhleli.
1. Konakele phi
Ngaphambi kokuba ungene emtshatweni wakho wesithathu, zibuze oku; Konakele phi kwimitshato yam emibini edlulileyo? Ndenze ntoni? Ndingazitshintsha njani ezi patheni kulo mtshato?
Qiniseka ukuba ubhala phantsi imibuzo kunye neempendulo zakho ukuze ubonakalise kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba uya kuhlala usendleleni ngala maxesha xa uqala ukubuyela kwiindlela zakho zakudala.
Le ngcebiso yomtshato wesithathu yenzelwe ukukukhumbuza ukuba uyivume indima yakho kwiingxaki zemitshato yakho yangaphambili. Nokuba awenzanga nto imbi, okanye ubungenguye unobangela woqhawulo mtshato, zibuze ukuba kutheni ubatsalile abo bantu? Bakufundise ntoni?
Unokuba unabantu abatshatileyo abaye bakopela umzekelo, enyanisweni ayilotyala lakho, kodwa ukuzibuza ukuba yintoni le ikuwe etsala iimeko zokukopela ebomini bakho iya kuzisa ukuqonda. Ukuba uyakwazi ukulungisa le nto, awuzukutsala abantu abakuphatha ngoluhlobo kwixesha elizayo.
2. Uzimisele kangakanani ekwenzeni umtshato wakho usebenze?
Esi siqwenga seengcebiso zomtshato wesithathu yipilisi yothando enzima. Abo bangena bephuma emitshatweni abakulungelanga okanye abakulungelanga ukwenza iinzame kwimitshato yabo, ebangela ukuba bahlukane.
Ukuba nguwe lo, cinga kabini ngaphambi kokuba utshate kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ukulungele ukutyala imali yonke imihla kubudlelwane bakho kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uyaphazama. Ukuba awuzilungiselele, zigcinele imali kunye nobunzima kwaye ujonge nje iqabane lakho.
Omnye wemicimbi esisiseko kule meko kukuba kuhlala kukho iqabane elicinga ukuba lilungile kwaye alingekhe likulungele ukujongela phantsi indleko yolonwabo kunye nokuba sempilweni kwabanye. Nokuba ayilunganga.
3. Imvakalelo yelungelo inokukwenza ukuba utshate phezulu
Ukuba uziva unelungelo nangayiphi na indlela kwaye awuzukujika kuloo nto, uya kuphelela kumtshato ongaphezulu okanye uqhawulo-mtshato. Yinto elula nje leyo.
Le meko ihlala ibonakala (kodwa ayikhethi kuphela) ngakumbi xa elinye iqabane likumtshato wabo wesithathu naxa elinye iqabane linemali eninzi.
Nokuba unemali eninzi, usafanele ukuba nomntu okuthandayo ngenxa yento oyiyo, ungazinzisi kumntu onomdla kuwe ngemali. Kwaye ukuba uzimisele ukutshata ngenxa yezizathu ezingavakaliyo, yazi ukuba nawe uncama uthando lokwenene ngenxa yemali. Kuyafana ngokuthengisa umphefumlo wakho.
Ukuba ungaluvuma olu phawu kwaye usebenze ngalo, uyakufumana utshata ngenxa yazo zonke izizathu ezifanelekileyo-zothando, kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba awusoze uphinde ujongane noqhawulo mtshato kwakhona!
Nalu uluhlu lwezinto ezine onokuzisebenzisa ukuze uqinisekise ukuba ubhiyozela umtshato owonwabileyo nothembekileyo.
1. Gxila, tune kwaye umamele iqabane lakho
Nika ingqalelo kule nto bayithethayo, kwaye xa ukunye nabo, kwaye ufumanisa ukuba ingqondo yakho ibhadula kwezinye izinto, zibuyisele ekuqwalaseleni iqabane lakho. Ukuba uyakwenza oko, uya kukhulisa ukuthembana kunye nokusondelelana, kwaye unxibelelwano lwakho olungazi nto neqabane lakho liya kubazisa ukuba nonke nikho.
2. Thetha ‘no’ endaweni yokuba ‘uthethe’ neqabane lakho
Akukho mntu uthanda ukuthetha 'kodwa' wonke umntu uyayekelela xa bethetha 'naye.' Susa izithintelo ezingabonakaliyo phakathi kwakho ngokuphuhlisa lo mkhwa wonxibelelwano ulula kwaye ujonge utshintsho oluziswa leli qhinga.
3. Yiza nentobeko emtshatweni wakho
Yithi uxolise xa ungalunganga, okanye kwezinye iimeko ukuba izakulungisa izinto. Yithi enkosi kwiqabane lakho - enkosi ngokuba ucinga, ubacingele, wenze uzive ngendlela abaziva ngayo. Yiba nexesha labo, ubamamele, uthobe ukhuseleko lwakho kunye nabo. Yiba sesichengeni. Onke la manyathelo enza ukuba iqabane lakho liziva lithandwa, lifunwa kwaye lixatyisiwe kwaye, emva koko, ziya kukubonisa oko, kwaye uyakwenza umjikelo wothando, kwaye uthembele ngomzamo omncinci!
4. Ukuthi uxolo akwanele, landela ngokwenza
Ukuba uthi uxolo ngento oyenzileyo, sukuphinda impazamo enye - uxolo alunanto ukuba awulandeli ngokwenza kwaye yindlela ekhawulezayo yokuphulukana nentembelo kubudlelwane bakho - sithembe, oku yenye yeengcebiso zomtshato wesithathu ekufuneka uyazi!