Umxholo
- 1. Uninzi luphazamisa iimfuno zempilo yengqondo nobuthathaka
- 2. Imiba yezoqoqosho iyenza nzima imicimbi
- 3. Ukutshintsha kweenkqubo zosapho kukhokelela ekuphelelweni lithemba
- 4. Amadoda anokungaziboni iimpawu
- 5. Basenokungazi ukuba mabalufune phi uncedo
- Ukukhanya ekukhanyeni kwimicimbi yezempilo yengqondo yamadoda
Leliphi ixesha elingcono lokuvula incoko malunga nempilo yengqondo yamadoda kunangoJuni, iNyanga yezeMpilo yaMadoda kunye nenyanga yoSuku lukaTata?
Amadoda aneengxaki zokugula ngengqondo kumaqondo afanayo nalawo asetyhini, kodwa mancinci amathuba okuba afune uncedo. Iziphumo zokuyivumela ukuba inganyangwa zinokuba zibi.
Zininzi izizathu ezingaziwayo zokuba kutheni amadoda engathethi ngempilo yengqondo kwaye ade athandabuze ukufuna uncedo akhoyo xa eziva edandathekile, enexhala okanye kungenjalo kungenjalo. Ezinye zivela kulindelo lwenkcubeko olujikeleze oko kuthetha ukuba yindoda, ngelixa ezinye zibangelwa kukuswela kwemali okanye i-inshurensi yezempilo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, amadoda awaziboni iimpawu zokuba kukho into engalunganga okanye ayazi ukuba angalufumana phi uncedo xa esenza njalo.
Nazi izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba kutheni amadoda engaceli uncedo lwezempilo yengqondo.
1. Uninzi luphazamisa iimfuno zempilo yengqondo nobuthathaka
Ingqondo yakho lilungu, kwaye njengayo nayiphi na enye into, inokugula.
Nangona kunjalo, amadoda axelelwa ukuba "awumunce" xa kuziwa kwiintlungu zomzimba. Ngaba ayimangalisi into yokuba ukuba bayazibona iimpawu zokugula ngengqondo kubo, bayala ukufuna uncedo?
Ibinzana elithi "ubudoda obunetyhefu" libhekisa kwindlela uluntu lwethu olunyanzelisa iingcinga ezomeleleyo malunga nendoda ekufuneka iziphathe ngayo. Amadoda axelelwe ukuba kufuneka agcine isimilo se-stoic kwanaxa ejongene neemeko ezixineneyo. Amakhwenkwe akhula ebukela imovie apho amaqhawe aphathwa ngamalungu aphukileyo kunye nokunye ukwenzakala, hayi ngeenyembezi zentlungu, kodwa ngobulumko noncumo.
Bafunda kwangoko ukuba ukuvuma iintlungu kufana nobuthathaka.
Ukutshintsha olu hlobo lwentetho kuya kuthatha ixesha, kodwa ukuba woyika indoda oyithandayo inokuba nesifo sengqondo, qiniseka ukuba unengxoxo.
- Baqinisekise ukuba bacela uncedo kubonisa amandla, hayi ubuthathaka.
- Yabelana ngamabali abantu abaziwayo abanzima njengoDwayne "Iliwa" uJohnson, osandula ukunikezela ngomzabalazo woxinzelelo esidlangalaleni, njalo njalo.
2. Imiba yezoqoqosho iyenza nzima imicimbi
Kwinkqubo yosapho yendabuko, amadoda aphuma ayokufumana umvuzo ngelixa abafazi behlala ekhaya bekhulisa usapho.
Nangona kunjalo, amashumi eminyaka yokuma komvuzo kuye kwenza kwaba nzima ukuba abantu baphile ngomvuzo omnye kuphela. Amadoda azalwe kwiminyaka engama-40 eyadlulayo akhulele kwilizwe apho ooyise babenakho ukuthenga indlu nokuba khange baphumelele kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, into encinci kakhulu kubantu abadala abancinci banako ukuyilawula ngaphandle kokuba bevela kwimvelaphi yelungelo kwaye bafumana njengelifa.
Abaphandi bafumene unxibelelwano ngqo phakathi kwamanqanaba entlupheko kunye namazinga okuzibulala.
Ukuzibulala kukhule kwaba yinto exhaphakileyo kangangokuba ababoneleli ngezempilo kufuneka baqhubeke nokuhlaziya uvavanyo lomngcipheko ukuze bavavanye umbono. Ukuba woyika indoda oyithandayo ucinga ngokuzibulala, ngakumbi ukuba basandula ukuphulukana nomsebenzi okanye bafumana elinye ilishwa, funda imiqondiso kwaye ubancede ekufumaneni uncedo.
3. Ukutshintsha kweenkqubo zosapho kukhokelela ekuphelelweni lithemba
Amadoda amaninzi namhlanje akhulele kumakhaya anomzali omnye kunanini na ngaphambili. Amakhwenkwe akhulele kule mizi asemngciphekweni omkhulu wokuhlaselwa sisifo sengqondo.
Ukongeza, nangona ayisiyonyani ukuba isiqingatha sayo yonke imitshato iphela kuqhawulo-mtshato, uninzi lwabo luyaphela. Inkqubo yezomthetho iyatshintsha kancinci, kwaye iinkundla zisaqhubeka nokukhetha abantu ababhinqileyo abaseluvalelweni.
Ukuphulukana nokunxibelelana nabantwana kunokubangela ukuba amadoda aphelelwe lithemba.
4. Amadoda anokungaziboni iimpawu
Amadoda abonisa ukuphazamiseka okunje ngokudakumba noxinzelelo ngokwahlukileyo kunabafazi.
Ngelixa abafazi bathambekele ekubhekiseni intlungu yabo ngaphakathi kwaye basebenzise amagama anje ngo “buhlungu” okanye “ukudakumba,” amadoda athanda ukuba nomsindo ngakumbi kunesiqhelo.
Nazi ezinye iimpawu zengxaki yempilo yengqondo ekufuneka uyijonge kumfana okhethekileyo omthandayo-
- Ukuphulukana namandla - Ukuphulukana namandla kungaphuma kwizizathu ezininzi, kodwa uxinzelelo sisizathu esiqhelekileyo.
- Ukuphulukana nomdla kwimisebenzi ebimnandi ngaphambili-Amadoda anexinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo anokuyeka iligi ye-softball yeligi okanye aphume kwindibano yosapho ukuze ahlale ekhaya abukele umabonwakude. Baye bathambekele ekuphulukaneni nomdla kwisini.
- Umsindo kunye nokugqabhuka -Amadoda angaziboniyo iimpawu zoxinzelelo ahlala efuna ukuphathwa ngeigloves zabantwana ukunqanda ukuqhuma.
- Ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi-Amadoda athambekele ekuzisebenziseleni ngokwabo amayeza kunye neziyobisi. Banokuthatha inxaxheba kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezinobungozi obuphezulu njengokubaleka kunye nokuluka ngaphakathi nangaphandle kweemoto kuhola wendlela.
Ukuba uyayibona le miqondiso, thetha ngentliziyo nentliziyo. Cela ukubanceda ufumane ugqirha okanye ugqirha wengqondo. Ukuba woyika ukuba bangazenzakalisa, ungatsalela umnxeba kwiNational Hotline yokuzibulala ucele omnye wabacebisi abaqeqeshiweyo ngengcebiso.
5. Basenokungazi ukuba mabalufune phi uncedo
Yabelana ngezixhobo kunye nomntu obathandayo, njengokubhala imiyalezo nge-741741 ukuba ibanxibelelanise nomntu oxhasa igama abangakwaziyo ukuqhagamshelana ngononophelo ngoncedo.
Bapheleke ukuya kugqirha ukuze bathunyelwe kwiinkonzo zempilo yengqondo kwaye babambe isandla sabo njengoko bexoxa ngonyango olunokwenzeka.
Ukukhanya ekukhanyeni kwimicimbi yezempilo yengqondo yamadoda
Amadoda amaninzi ayathandabuza ukujongana nemicimbi yezempilo yengqondo, kodwa ukwenza njalo kunokuwuphucula kakhulu umgangatho wobomi.
Ukuba indoda oyaziyo iyenzakalisa, mncede ukuba afumane inkathalo ayifunayo. Unokugcina nje ubomi.