Umxholo
Ukuzala umntwana kunokuba yenye yezona zinto zimangalisayo ukwenzeka kwisibini esitshatileyo. Umntwana sisipho sobomi, kwaye yinto enqwenelekayo kubafazi xa behlala phantsi. Ewe, yonke into ayisoloko ikhanyiswa yimitha kunye nemvula xa isiza ekuzaleni. Ngenxa yobumnandi bemeko, zininzi izinto ekufuneka zingene xa kuthathelwa ingqalelo ukukhulelwa umntwana. Ezi zinto, kubandakanya ukwenzakala kokuzalwa, ukutya, indawo yokuhlala, kunye nokunxiba, kunokuba negalelo kuxinzelelo oluninzi ngaphambi, ngexesha, okanye emva kokubeleka.
Ngelishwa, inkqubo yokuzala ngokwayo ayisiyiyo yokuhamba epakini. Ukuba nisibini esitshatileyo, kunokuba nzima kuni nobabini ukufumana iindlela zokusondelelana xa ninomntwana oza kumgcina. Nangona kunjalo, le nkqubo ayinakwenzeka. Ngapha koko, umntwana unokunceda ukwenza umtshato wakho womelele ngakumbi kunangaphambili, unikwe uhlobo olufanelekileyo lokukhuthaza.
Ukubeleka yimeko yoxinzelelo, kodwa ayizukuhlala inexinzelelo ngonaphakade. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukubona uncumo lomntwana kungayivuyisa nayiphi na intliziyo yomzali, kwaye umntwana anganceda kakhulu ekwenzeni ubudlelwane bakho bukhule ngakumbi kwaye bukhuliswe.
Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokwenza umtshato wakho womelele emva koxinzelelo lokuzala.
Umntwana luhambo olutsha
Xa unomntwana, cinga ngako njengokuqala kohambo olutsha ukunceda umtshato wakho ukhule kwaye uphuhle. Ngoku nibe ngabazali, kwaye nizise esona sipho sikhulu ehlabathini: ubomi. Oku kuthetha ukuba ngoku usecusp yohambo olutsha, kwaye kuya kuba mnandi ngakumbi ukusuka apha.
- Zama ukukhumbuzana rhoqo ukuba kutheni nithandana, kwaye kutheni nigqibe kwelokuba nincamisane ixesha elide. Ukuncoma kunceda, nasemva kokubeleka, njengoko oku kunokunika iqabane lakho idrive abayifunayo ukuze babonise uthando olufanayo emntwaneni wakho.
- Zama ukulungela ukuthatha elinye leqela, ngakumbi ukuba uyindoda. Umfazi wakho usandula ukudlula kwisilingo esinzima kakhulu, kwaye kuya kufuneka achache ukuze abuye namandla. Njengotata wosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa, luxanduva lwakho ngoku ukuqinisekisa ukuba umfazi wakho ufumana konke akufunayo kwaye umntwana wakho ufumana ukhathalelo olufanelekileyo.
- Njengokuba umntwana ekhula, hlala ukhumbuza iqabane lakho ukuba umntwana wakho uncede kangakanani na ekwenzeni ubuhlobo bakho bomelele. Ukunceda umntwana akhule ayisiyonto elula, kwaye siyabulela kuzo zombini iinzame zakho zokuba umntwana wakho akhulele ekubeni ngumntwana omncinci omangalisayo, okanye ulutsha olufezekileyo, okanye umntu omdala omangalisayo. Zama ukungazilibali ezi nzame, kwaye ubulele omnye nomnye ngokusoloko unemqolo omnye komnye.
Kungcono ngesicwangciso
Eli cebiso liza okokugqibela, njengoko oku kufuna ukulungiswa kancinci. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho nithatha isigqibo sokuba nomntwana, kuhlala kungcono ukuba nizilungiselele izinto eziza kwenzeka ukuze ukwazi ukujongana nemeko ngcono. Ayifanelanga ukuba sisicwangciso esifanelekileyo, kodwa isicwangciso esinokuthi ubuncinci sikuncede uzikhokele kwicala elifanelekileyo ngoxinzelelo lokuzala engqondweni.
- Xa ucwangcisa ukukhulelwa umntwana, zama ukujonga ukuba unazo na iindlela zokulungiselela ukufika komntwana. Ngaba unayo igumbi ekhaya elilungiselelwe umntwana? Ngaba uthathe isigqibo malunga namalungiselelo okulala, kwaye unazo izinto ezaneleyo zokuxhasa ubuncinci iinyanga ezimbalwa okanye ezemali zonyaka zokutya, amanapukeni kunye nezinye izinto eziyimfuneko?
- Zama ukukhangela ukuba ungenza amalungiselelo na emsebenzini ukuze ufumane ikhefu lokubeleka okanye likatata. Ngale ndlela, uya kuba nakho ukugxila ngakumbi ekunyamekeleni umntwana wakho endaweni yokuzikhathaza malunga nendlela oku okunokuwuchaphazela ngayo umsebenzi xa umntwana sele eqhubeka. Ukulungiselela oku kwangoko kunokunceda kakhulu imeko yakho.
- Ukuba unayo imali oyisebenzisayo, zama ukukhangela ababoneleli ngeinshurensi yomntwana wakho kwangoko kwaye uqaphele amaxabiso anokubakho. Ukuba unako ukuxhasa i-premium kunye nezinye iindleko zakho engqondweni, unokufuna ukubonisana neengcali zezezimali kwaye ufune iingcebiso ukuba kukuhamba kakuhle ukwenza oko.
- Akukubi ukubonisana nonyango kuqala ngaphambi okanye ngexesha lokukhulelwa ukuze ube neengcebiso ezithile ezilungiselelwe imeko yakho. Ngale ndlela, unokuba neendlela ezinobuchule zokujamelana noxinzelelo lokubeleka xa umntwana efika ekugqibeleni.
Isiphelo
Ummangaliso wokuzalwa komntwana linyathelo nje elinye kuhambo lwakho lobomi bomtshato. Ayizukuba lula, kwaye ayizusoloko iza nemnyama kunye nelanga, kodwa iya kuba yenye yezona ndawo zivuyisayo kubomi bakho bomtshato.
Nangona kunjalo, akusoloko kukubi ukwazi ukuba ungalufuna nini uncedo kwaye ufumane uncedo xa uludinga. Ukuba wena neqabane lakho niziva ngathi kukho imfuneko yokufumana uncedo lobuchwephesha, niyakhuthazwa ukuba nibone ugqirha wezengqondo okanye ugqirha wezonyango ukufumana iindlela zendlela onokujamelana ngayo kwaye uncede umtshato wakho ukhule emva koxinzelelo lokuzala. Kuhlala kungcono ukuxhotyiswa ngeendlela kunye neendlela onokuzisebenzisa ukunceda ukukhulisa ubudlelwane bethu ukuze ufumane intuthuzelo kwinkampani yomnye nomnye.