Umxholo
- Isifo somntwana oyindoda
- Yintoni ebangela isifo sendoda yomntu?
- Ungajongana njani nendoda engakhuli ngokwasemphefumlweni
Siyabona Umntwana ongumntu memes on Facebook, abo abahlobo bakho ababhinqileyo bathumela nge-glee. Babonisa indoda ephethwe kakubi ngenxa yento encinci, mhlawumbi ebandayo, okanye ukuba bakhonzwe ngamanqatha apheleleyo kunokuba bangatyebisi kwi-Starbucks yabo abayithandayo.
Inokuba niyazibuza ukuba yintoni umntwana womntu. Makhe sijonge ezinye zazo xelela imiqondiso yendoda engekavuthwa.
Isifo somntwana oyindoda
Nantsi into ekufuneka uyijongile ukuba ucinga ukuba umyeni okanye iqabane lakho linokuba lilungu le- umntwana womntu:
- Uswele ngokugqithisileyo, kodwa unokukufulathela aze abande kakhulu kuwe.
- Uhlala ekhalaza, ngesiqhelo ngezinto angenakulawula kuzo, njengokutshintsha kwexesha lokonga emini, okanye akukho nto intle kwiNetflix. Yonke into "liphupha elibi" kuye, liphupha elibi elibangelwa ngomnye umntu.
- Akazange ahlambulule emva kwakhe. Nokuba kucoca itreyi yakhe kwindawo yokutyela ethengisa ukutya okukhawulezayo, okanye ukucoceka ekhaya, akwenzi njalo. Njengomntwana, ulindele ukuba omnye umntu atshayele emva kwakhe kwaye anyamekele konke ukungcola.
- Akaze afike ngexesha. Ixesha lakho alibalulekanga. Uya kubonakala emva kwexesha lokuqeshwa kunye nemicimbi yoluntu. Akayi kuba lapho ufuna ukuba abe khona ngexesha elimiselweyo.
- Ukunganyaniseki. Akayi kuxoka ukuze akhusele kwaye asebenze iimfuno zakhe
- I-Narcissism. Zombini ezomzimba nezengqondo: uchitha ixesha elininzi ebeka phambi kwesipili. Ukwahoya iimfuno zabanye, ebeka phambili eyakhe.
- Ubuvila. Akabelani ngomthwalo wekhaya, akushiye unoxanduva ngayo yonke imisebenzi efunekayo ukugcina ikhaya lihamba kakuhle
- Uziva abanye abantu benetyala kuye
- Uvakalelo olunelungelo
- Ucinga ukuba uhlala elungile kwaye abanye babekek 'ityala ngayo yonke into engalunganga
- Ukungakwazi ukwamkela ukuba kukho iziphumo kuzo zonke iintshukumo, ngakumbi isenzo esinetyhefu
Yintoni ebangela isifo sendoda yomntu?
Umqhubi oqhuba i umntu ongekakhuli ngokweemvakalelo yindlela akhule ngayo. Amakhwenkwe anabazali ababenza bakwazi ukusukela kwiminyaka yobudala bahlala bekhula babe ngabantwana abangamadoda. Babenakho konke abenzele kona njengamakhwenkwe amancinci kwaye balindele ukuba oku kuqhubeke ebomini babo bonke.
Ukuba utshatele emntwaneni oyindoda, uya kuba nemiceli mngeni emininzi. Enye kukuba umntwana wakho uyala ukusebenza. Indoda eyindoda inokuba nobunzima ekubambeni umsebenzi ngenxa yesimo sabo sengqondo sokungakhuli kwabanye.
Akukho mqeshi uya kuxabisa umntu ongazukuthatha xanduva ngempazamo emsebenzini. Ngamanye amaxesha umntwana oyindoda unokuhlala emsebenzini kuba bahlala befana kwaye bonwabile ekuqaleni (njengomntwana) kodwa ekugqibeleni, abaphathi bayaqonda ukuba banoxanduva.
Ngelo xesha, baya kugxothwa. Ukuba oku kwenzeka kaninzi, ayimangalisi into yokuba indoda iyala ukusebenza. Kodwa endaweni yokujonga ngaphakathi ukuze abuze ukuba kutheni engakwazi ukubamba umsebenzi, umntwana oyindoda uya kugxeka wonke umntu:
“Zizidenge zonke. Ndingoyena mqeshwa uphambili phaya; Ityala labo abayiqondi ingcungela xa iphambi kwabo. ”
Ukuba utshatele emntwaneni oyindoda, ziziphi ezinye zeendlela zokuhlangabezana nazo?
Ungajongana njani nendoda engakhuli ngokwasemphefumlweni
Okokuqala, yazi ukuba awuwedwa. Amadoda abantwana banokuqala ukuba nomtsalane kakhulu, bakutsalele kwilizwe labo. Ke sukuzibek 'ityala ngokungena kobu budlelwane.
Okwesibini, qonda ukuba akukho nto ingako unokuyenza ukutshintsha indlela aziphethe ngayo. Indlela yakhe yobunzulu obunzulu, ebuyela ebuntwaneni bakhe.
Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abantwana abangamadoda bengenakubona ukuba indlela abasebenza ngayo emhlabeni ineziphumo ezibi kwabanye, ababakhuthazi ukuba bafune utshintsho.
Ithetha ntoni le nto kuwe? Isicwangciso esinye kukungakhathaleli isimilo sakhe. Kodwa oku kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi kwizinto ezinkulu ezinje ukuba uyala ukusebenza. Zibuze: Ngaba ufuna ukuba kuphela komntu oxhasa isonka kolu lwalamano? Ngaba lulwalamano olude nolungelulo nolwanelisayo?
Elinye icebo kukuzama ukufikelela kwisivumelwano nendoda yakho engumntwana. Ukuba uyi Indoda eyonqenayo kwaye akukho kungxama okanye ukuxhamla kuchaphazele, mhlalise phantsi umxelele ukuba anganalo igumbi endlwini apho anokwenza khona into yakhe.
Igumbi elinye kuphela. Indawo eseleyo yendlu “yindawo yakho.” Uya kugcina ucoceko kunye nocwangco kuwo onke amagumbi ngaphandle kwendoda yakhe. Zive ukhululekile ukubeka lo mthetho ngaphandle kokumema ingxoxo. Ukuba uza kwenza njengomntwana, unokulindelwa ukuba aphathwe njengaye, naye.
Ukujongana ne umyeni ongakhulanga ngokwasemoyeni unokurhafisa kuwe. Ngexesha elithile, unokuba unqwenela ukuthetha nomcebisi okanye umcebisi womtshato, nangona kufuneka uhambe wedwa.
Akumnandanga ukuhlala ubomi phantsi kwemiqathango yomntwana oyindoda. Wonke umntu ufanelwe ubudlelwane obonwabileyo nolungeleleneyo; yinjongo yobomi, akunjalo? Ayinakuba yinto engekho ngqiqweni kuwe ukuba uzifumane ukwimeko apho uqala ukuzibuza ukuba ngaba kufuneka ulushiye ulwalamano.
Abafazi bangaphambili abashiya amadoda abo ngokweemvakalelo abakhulanga bathi: Ukuba uyakrokrela eyakho umfana ongakhulanga ibonisa iimpawu zokuba ngumntwana oyindoda, musa ukuzibophelela kubudlelwane bexesha elide.
Musa ukutsiba kwizinto ezikhawulezayo, nokuba umhle ngokungaboni, uyathandeka kwaye uyahlekisa. Funda ukuba ungazibona njani iimpawu zesifo somntwana, kwaye ukuba uyabona, ubonakalisa uninzi lwezi zinto, zisindise usiya kulwalamano olungonwabisiyo.
Shiya ufumane omnye umntu. Zininzi iintlanzi elwandle, ke qala ukudada kwakhona. Ungaze ulahle ithemba. Uya kufumana umdlalo ogqibeleleyo, kwaye ngeli xesha uyakube ukhulile.