Umxholo
- Inkcazo yothando
- 1.Uthanda njani
- 2. Ngubani omthandayo
- 3. Nini ukuthanda
- 4. Uhambo lokugqibela lokuthatha
Wonke umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba angathanda njani, athande bani, kwaye athande nini. 'Luthande' eli gama leeleta ezine linokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye kunzima kwabanye ukuba baliqonde. Ayisiyonto ingaqhelekanga kuthi ukuba sinqwenele ukuthandwa kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayiqhelekanga ukuba sikunike.
Abanye banokucinga ukuba umntwana wabo akufuneki afunde ngothando bade babe kwishumi elivisayo, kodwa inyani kukuba bonke abantwana kufuneka bazi ukuthanda. Namhlanje zininzi kakhulu imisebenzi yezandla yokufundisa abantwana ngothando.
Nangona kunjalo, ngaphambili ukufundisa abantwana bakho ngothando nokuthandana kuqala kufuneka uqonde ukuba luyintoni na uthando. Ngegama uthando luza kudideka ngamanye amaxesha.
Wonke umntu unemibono eyahlukeneyo kunye nemibono malunga nenkcazo eyinyani yothando. Ke, luyintoni kanye kanye uthando, zithini iindlela zokufundisa abantwana bakho ngothando ngaphandle kokuthetha igama, kwaye yintoni i imisebenzi efundisa abantwana ngothando?
Inkcazo yothando
Akukho mpendulo ilula eya kuwuphendula lo mbuzo. Ichazwe ngeendlela ezininzi kodwa enye inkcazo eyichaza ngeyona ndlela ithi "Uthando luluhlu oluntsonkothileyo lweemvakalelo, indlela yokuziphatha, kunye neenkolelo ezinxulunyaniswa neemvakalelo ezinamandla zothando, ukukhusela, ukufudumala kunye nembeko komnye umntu."
Abanye bakholelwa ukuba awunakunceda umntu omthandayo, kwaye abanye bakholelwa ukuba unganceda. Uthando alunqweneli. Xa uthanda umntu, awumthandi kuphela kuyo yonke into ayiyo kodwa nangayo yonke into angayiyo. Ukulungele ukwamkela iimpazamo zabo.
Unomnqweno onamandla wokubakholisa kwaye wakhe ubudlelwane obungenakuqhawulwa. Zininzi iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zothando. Kukho i-love ukuba indoda nomfazi babelana kwaye kukho uthando umntwana abelana ngalo nabazali bakhe kunye nabanye abathandekayo.
Elokugqibela luhlobo lwe thanda ukuba kufanele ukuba ufundisa umntwana wakho. Bafundise hayi kuphela indlela yokuthanda kodwa ukuba bathande bani kwaye xa ilixesha elifanelekileyo.
1.Uthanda njani
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuthanda ngokumisela umzekelo. Njengabazali, umntwana wakho kufuneka anibone nobabini nibonisa uthando. Ukuhloniphana, ukubambana ngezandla, ukuchitha ixesha kunye njengentsapho zonke iindlela onokuthi ulubonise ngazo olu thando.
Ungaze woyike ukuvumela umntwana wakho abone ukuba nithandana kangakanani. Oku akuloncedo kuphela emntwaneni wakho, kodwa kunokugcina umtshato wakho womelele. Kuhlala kunceda ukwazi ukuba uthando lwakho omnye komnye lusekhona kwaye kufuneka wenze izinto ngenkuthalo ukugcina elo dangatye lingacimi.
Umntwana ufuna ukuva abazali bakhe bencoma omnye nomnye, bencoma omnye ngomsebenzi owenziwe kakuhle, kwanokwenza izinto ezintle omnye komnye njengokuvula umnyango.
Ndithembe xa ndisithi umntwana wakho uya kuxhamla kakhulu kwimizekelo oyimisileyo. Bafuna olu hlobo lwesikhokelo kuba siphila kwihlabathi elizele ngabantu abazingcayo yazi ukuthanda.
2. Ngubani omthandayo
Usenokucinga ukuba awukwazi fundisa umntwana wakho ukuthanda kodwa oku akunakuba kude nenyaniso. Ayisiyiyo yonke into okanye wonke umntu oya kulufanela uthando lomntwana wakho kwaye kukuwe ukubanceda bayiqonde le nyani. Uthando ngamanye amaxesha luziva lungalawuleki kodwa alunjalo.
Ngendlela efanayo obafundisa ngayo ukuthiya izinto ezimbi kufuneka ubenjalo ukubafundisa ukuthanda izinto ezilungileyo nabantu ebomini babo. Umzekelo, umlilo unokuba yingozi kunye nokubi. Mhlawumbi ubabafundisile oku ukusukela kusuku lokuqala.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba bayazi ukungadlali ngomlilo okanye bavumele le ngcinga ithi qatha ezingqondweni zabo. Kulungile ukufundisa umntwana wakho ukuba akhethe ukuba ngubani amnika uthando lwabo. Awungethandi ukuba bathande irhamncwa lomntwana okanye umntu oza kubenzakalisa.
Akufanele ufundise umntwana wakho ukuthiya omnye umntu kodwa ngaphandle kwenqaku. Inqaku lelokuba umntwana wakho kufuneka ayazi indlela yokubuyisela uthando kwabo babathandayo.
3. Nini ukuthanda
Uthando lubalulekile kodwa alunakulunga kuzo zonke iimeko. Ukususela ngomhla wokuzalwa kwabo Umntwana kufuneka afundiswe ukuthanda abazali babo, abantakwabo kunye noomakhulu nootatomkhulu. Uhlobo lothando abanalo kwabanye luyatshintsha njengoko bekhula.
Kuya kufuneka ufundise umntwana wakho i iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zothando kwaye ubacacisele xa nganye ifanelekileyo. Njengokuba bekhula kufuneka ufundise umntwana wakho ngothando olusondeleyo ekufuneka benalo kumaqabane abo xa begqiba kwelokuba bakulungele ukutshata.
Uthando lunokutshintsha kwaye le yinto ekufuneka beyifundisiwe. Umntwana wakho kufuneka azi ukuba kukho iintlobo ezithile zothando ezifanelekileyo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo.
4. Uhambo lokugqibela lokuthatha
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba abakhathalele abo bamnika uthando kuba ayinguye wonke umntu obathetha kakuhle. Uthando yinto efunwa ngumntu wonke, kwaye wonke umntu kufuneka azi ukuba angayinika njani. Umntwana wakho uya kukubulela ngokubafundisa elinye lamagama amakhulu kunobumba bakho.