Khumbula okokuqala ukuba amadoda nabafazi banxibelelana ngokwahlukileyo: Abasetyhini bathanda ukusebenzisa imvakalelo, intetho engwevu ejolise ebantwini ngelixa amadoda ethanda ukusebenzisa ikhonkrithi, ulwimi olumnyama nomhlophe olujolise kwimeko.
Amaxesha amaninzi abasetyhini banobunzima ekunxibelelaneni oko bacinga emadodeni kuba amadoda azama ukuhlengahlula ukuze asombulule umba apho abasetyhini bafuna ukuqondana ukuba baphi, ngokuhambelana. Oku kungoyiswa ngokulungisa indlela abanxibelelana ngayo. Kukho izicwangciso zokwenza ukuba umntu wakho akuphulaphule kwaye aqonde ulwimi lwakho lweemvakalelo.
Iindlela zokwenza ukuba iqabane lakho limamele, lithethe kwaye liqonde ulwimi lweemvakalelo:
- Qalisa incoko
Jonga iCandelo 1 leli nqaku malunga nendlela yokwenza ukuba umyeni wakho akuphulaphule kunye nendlela yokuqalisa incoko. Ngokubhekisa koku unokufumana iingcebiso zokwenza ukuba umyeni wakho akuphulaphule. Kodwa kukho okuninzi ekufuneka ukwenzile ukuba ufuna aqonde kwaye azalisekise oko ukufunayo kuye. Qhubeka ufunda ukuze ufunde indlela yokwenza umyeni wakho aqonde kwaye athethe ulwimi oluvakalayo ngokutyibilikayo.
- Sebenzisa ulwimi olulula lweemvakalelo
Namathela kwiimvakalelo ezisisiseko (wonwabile, ulusizi, uphambene / unomsindo (ukukhathazeka sisilungisi esihle), ukumangaliswa, ukunyanyeka, indelelo, kunye noloyiko / uloyiko) njengesiqalo kuba angaziqonda ezo zinje jikelele.
Esi sisiqinisekiso sokuba uya kuba nakho ukunxibelelana kwinqanaba elithile kwaye akwazi ukuphendula esebenzisa ulwimi olufanayo- onokuthi, kwaye kufanele, ukukhuthaza.
- Sebenzisa ulwimi lwekhonkrithi (oluMnyama noMhlophe)
Zama ukuyila into oyithethayo kwiiparameter ezithile zekhonkrithi; le ncoko yimvakalelo kwaye unokuyiguqulela kuye kwikhonkrithi njengolwimi kangangoko. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ufuna ukuviwa kwaye yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba kukuzama ukuthetha ulwimi lwakho ngelixa uluxubanisa nolwakho.
Oku kumnika indlela yokunxibelelana nawe esebenzisa ulwimi lwakho kunye nolwakhe.
- Linda
Umfundisa ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo. Oku akuthethi ukuba umphathe njengomntwana okanye isidenge (akanguye); kuthetha ukuyigcina ilula kwaye imfutshane (oko kuthetha izivakalisi ezi-3 ukuya kwezi-5).
- Beka imida
Yindlela afunde ngayo umntu ukuzama ukusombulula okanye ukulungisa. Ngaphandle kokuba le yimeko apho yile nto uyifunayo, mcele ukuba ayeke ukusombulula nokulungisa. Uya kusilela kuyo kuba yile nto ayiqhelileyo kwaye yeyona nto ayiqonda kakuhle. Myeke ngobumnene umcele ukuba akuve ngokulula kuba yile nto uyifunayo kwaye ukusombulula / ukulungisa kulimaza kuwe.
- Mcele ukuba aphulaphule ngenyameko
- Eli lithuba lakho lokucacisa le nto uyithethayo
- Yima uze umcele ukuba akuxelele ukuba uvile ntoni. Oku ayikokumhlazisa, kukuqinisekisa ukuba le nto uyithethayo iviwe ngokucacileyo kwaye ayihluzwa kwaye ihlaziywe ngezihluzo zakhe kunye neenkolelo (sonke esinomdla wokuzenza).Khumbula ukuba, kwangethuba, akazukuphinda ayenze into oyithethayo kakuhle.
- Mcele ukuba anqumame ngokufanelekileyo, ndikubuze ukuba angakuxelela ukuba uvile uthini ukuza kuthi ga ngoku (oku kuyamnika imvume ungenzi ngathi uyayiqonda into oyithethayo kwaye ucele ingcaciso). Ukuba wenza oku, oko kuhambele phambili kuba, ngoku, uzimisele ukuvuma ukuba akafezekanga.
- Ukuba uyayichaza into oyithethileyo, ingaba le nto ayithethileyo yanele ngokwaneleyo? Cinga ngenene ngaloo nto- ufuna ukuba ayifumane le nto uyithethayo. Ukuba ulungelelanisa okanye wamkela "uhlobo," ke uyazikhupha wena kunye neemfuno zakho. Yena unako Yifumane. Eli ayiloxesha lokuthi, "Kulungile, kulungile."
Ungaze ucinge ukuba ukuva ngokuchanekileyo ngaphandle kokujonga ngempendulo yakhe.
- Mncede ahlale ekhona
Ukuba umbona ebhadula entlokweni yakhe, unokuba ubeka impendulo yakhe okanye acinge ngezinye izinto ezizezona zilunge ngakumbi (umzekelo: umsebenzi, iprojekthi, indawo yokwenza umthambo); ngomonde nqumama kancinci ngokwaneleyo ukuze ufumane umdla wakhe kwaye umcele ukuba abuye.
- Zazi iindlela zakhe zokuzikhusela
- Iindlela zokhuselo zizenzekelayo zizenzekelayo-ngenxa yoko kusenokwenzeka ukuba enye iza kuvela.
- Amanye amathuba:
- Izizathu kunye nokuzithethelela: Kukhusela ngokwendalo xa senze into engalunganga kwaye sihlazekile / sihlazekile zizenzo zethu. Isandla esithambileyo kwingalo yakhe okanye entliziyweni inokuyizolisa loo nto.
- Ukutyhola: Ukuba ukukhusela kwakhe kugxeka, umda kufuneka usethwe. Kungcono ukuthi ngokuzolileyo utsho ukuba ungayikhetha kamva. Oku kuyakuthatha uthintelo oluninzi kodwa ukuqhubeka kwengxoxo kwinqanaba lakhe kungangabinaziqhamo, okanye kubi.
- Zikhumbuze ngalo lonke ixesha
Okwangoku akanabuchule bokumamela kwaye "afumane" ulwimi lweemvakalelo. Oku kuya kukunceda ube nomonde. Ayisiyonto ilula le kuye kodwa yena unako Yifumane.
- Khumbula injongo yakho:
Ufuna ukuviwa ngenxa yeengcinga zakho, izimvo, kunye neemvakalelo kwaye ubonwe ukuba ungubani kanye kanye.