Umxholo
- 1. Fumana imfundo
- 2. Fumana ingcaciso
- 3.Yila isivumelwano sokwahlukana kwaye ucwangcise amalungiselelo
Ukujongana kungekuphela nefuthe lengqondo lokwahlukana, kodwa kunye nokusebenza okunokubakho kungoyikisa. Nanga amanyathelo amathathu onokuwathatha xa ucinga ngokwahlukana emtshatweni.
1. Fumana imfundo
Ndiyazi ukuba oku kubonakala ngathi yinto yokugqibela onokufuna ukuyenza. Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba wenze uphando malunga nenkqubo yokwahlukana kuba imigaqo iyahluka ukusuka kurhulumente ukuya kurhulumente.
2. Fumana ingcaciso
Ndicebisa ukuba ndifundiswe ngayo yonke le nto kuqala, kuba kubantu abaninzi, kuthatha ixesha ukufumana ingcaciso ngokucacileyo ukuba bafuna ukwahlula okanye hayi.
Emsebenzini wam, ndihlala ndithetha ngumahluko phakathi kokubonakalisa kunye nokuqaqamba. Ukwenza izigqibo ekucaceni, kwindawo yokubonakalisa kunye nembono, phantse kuhlala kusebenza abathengi bam ngcono ngakumbi kwixesha elide kunokwenza izigqibo ngokukhawuleza ngomsindo, usizi, ukukhathazeka, okanye olunye uvakalelo.
Ukucamngca
Xa sikwimo yokubonakalisa, imeko yethu yokuziva ivulekile ngokubanzi, inomdla kwaye inomdla. Sivulekile ukuba samkele izimvo ezintsha kwaye siqwalasele izinto ezinokwenzeka. Sivuleleke kwisikhokelo kunye nokuqonda kwethu. Kukho umgangatho owahlukileyo kolu hlobo lokucinga. Inentsingiselo encinci yobuqu nayo. Rhoqo, nangona kungenjalo, kwenzeka xa sikwimeko yoxolo yokuba sodwa okanye kwimisebenzi esisiphazamisayo.
Ukukhanya
Ukukhanya ngumjikelo wokubanjwa kumgibe wokuphindaphinda ukucinga malunga neqabane lakho kunye nomtshato. Ngamaxesha apho unganakho ukuyeka ukuphindaphinda kwakhona, zonke izinto ezimbi ezithe zathethwa zenziwa liqabane lakho kule minyaka idlulileyo. Inokuba xa uhlala uxhalabile ngekamva lolwalamano lwakho kunye nosapho.
Zombini iindlela zokucinga ziqhelekile kwaye zezethutyana kwindalo. Nangona kunjalo, ukubonakalisa kulungele ukucacisa ukwenziwa kwezigqibo.
Kodwa, kuthekani ukuba ndinestres kangangokuba andinakubonakalisa?
Ndihlala ndisiva abantu besithi kunzima ukufumana indlela yokubonisa. Oku kuyinyani ngamanye amaxesha ngamanye amaxesha, akunjalo. Kungenxa yokuba ukucinga kwethu, imeko yethu yengqondo, iyatshintsha ngalo lonke ixesha (nokuba ayibonakali injalo).
Ngokomzekelo, ndandinomthengi owayedandathekileyo. Xa ndimbuza ukuba ngaba likho ixesha ngemini awayengaxinezelekanga ngayo, wathi akukho namnye. Ndimbuzile ukuba ingaba yinyani na leyo.
Emva koko, emva kokucinga, wayitshintsha impendulo yakhe wathi, "Ukuqala kwam ukuvuka, andinaxinzelelo." Kwinyanga ezayo, waxela ukuba iipesenti ezintlanu zemini wayengadandathekanga, ke wenza zonke izigqibo zakhe ezibalulekileyo ngemini ngelo xesha.
Emva kweenyanga ezi-6, wathi i-50% yexesha wayengasaziva edandathekile. Emva konyaka omnye, akasazichonganga njengomntu oxinezelekileyo. La ngamagunya okwenyani okufumana ulwazi ngakumbi ngemeko yomntu. Isivumela ukuba sihambe kumqhubi wenqwelo-mafutha kwaye siyeke ukujikwa ngeenxa zonke kukutyhala kunye nokutsala kweemvakalelo zethu kunye neengcinga ezingxamisekileyo.
Kwinkcubeko yethu, siqhele ukulungiswa ngokukhawuleza nangona. Sizama ukubaleka ukungakhululeki ngokweemvakalelo ngokukhawuleza. Sihlala sisenza izigqibo ngokungxama kuba ukucaca akubonakali ngexesha esifuna ukulifumana.
Kwakhona, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngale nto, kodwa ndiyakukhuthaza ukuba uzame lo mxholo wokubonisa kwaye ubone ukuba uyichaphazela njani impilo-ntle yakho kuyo yonke inkqubo yokwahlukana.
3.Yila isivumelwano sokwahlukana kwaye ucwangcise amalungiselelo
Ukuba isigqibo sokwahlukana siyadibana nawe kwaye uyacaca ukuba eli linyathelo elilandelayo elinengqiqo kubudlelwane bakho, into elandelayo ekufuneka yenziwe ziinkcukacha zesivumelwano sokwahlukana.
Oku kungabandakanya ukuza kwisivumelwano malunga nokudluliswa koxanduva xa kufikwa kwizinto ezinje: ngezindlu, ukukhathalelwa kwabantwana, ezemali, kunye nezinye izinto kunye namatyala.
Ewe ezinye izibini azizukufikelela kwisivumelwano ngezi zinto, esona sizathu sabo sokufuna ukwahlukana kungenxa yoxinzelelo olungapheliyo kunye nengxabano. Kwezi meko, ukufuna uncedo lwezomthetho kuya kusenza isibini esitshatileyo.
Elona nyathelo libaluleke kakhulu kwinkqubo yokuzahlula kukuzikhathalela.
Kuyinto cliche. Ndiyazi. Kodwa kuyinyani.
Ukuvala, zininzi izinto ezenziwayo zokujongana nemeko yokuba loluphi uhlobo lokwahlukana ogqiba ekubeni ulusebenzise. Ukwenza uluhlu lokutshekisha kunye nokuthatha into nganye, inyathelo ngenyathelo, kunokunceda ukunciphisa ukoyisa. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba yonke into igqitywe ngosuku olunye okanye kwiveki enye.
Akusayi kuhlala kulula, kodwa uya kuthi, ngelinye ixesha, wazi okona kukulungeleyo. Kumaxesha anzima, unakho ukomelela kwaye ucacise ukusombulula iingxaki ezinokukuhambisa kuyo yonke le ngxaki.