Umxholo
- Umahluko kwisini
- Umahluko kubuhlanga
- Umahluko kubudala
- Yintoni onokuyenza ukunceda ukuthintela ukuxhatshazwa?
Ukuqonda kunye nokuqonda ukuphathwa gadalala kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi xa ujonga ubungakanani befuthe elinokuba nalo kuluntu olungqongileyo.
Ukuxhatshazwa kuko nakuphi na ukuziphatha okanye isenzo esithathwa ngokuba sikhohlakele, sinobundlobongela, okanye senziwa ngenjongo yokonzakalisa ixhoba. Uninzi lwamava okuphathwa gadalala lwenza njalo kubudlelwane obusenyongweni okanye kwezothando kwaye basondele kakhulu kubudlelwane abanokuthi bangazi malunga nokuziphatha okukhoyo.
Phantse isiqingatha sabo bonke abatshatileyo baya kufumana ubuncinci isiganeko sobundlobongela ebomini bobudlelwane; Kwisinye kwisine kwezi zibini, ubundlobongela buya kuba okanye buya kuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Ubundlobongela basekhaya kunye nokuxhatshazwa akuphelelanga kuhlanga olunye, isini, okanye ubudala; nabani na naye angalixhoba lokuxhatshazwa.
Ukuphathwa gadalala akunamkhethe.
Nangona kunjalo, ukubakho komntu oza kuva ubundlobongela okanye ubundlongondlongo kwiqabane athandana nalo liyahluka ngokuxhomekeka kubuntu, isini, ubuhlanga, imfundo kunye nengeniso, kodwa zinokubandakanya izinto ezinjengokukhetha ngokwesondo, ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi, imbali yosapho kunye nolwaphulo-mthetho. Imbali.
Umahluko kwisini
Phantse amashumi asibhozo anesihlanu eepesenti amaxhoba obundlobongela basekhaya ngabasetyhini.
Oku akuthethi ukuba amadoda asemngciphekweni osezantsi, ngokwe-se, kodwa kubonisa ukuba abasetyhini bathambekele ekubeni sesichengeni sokuziphatha gadalala kunamadoda. Ukongeza, ubundlobongela umntu anokuhlangabezana nabo liqabane lakhe linokwahluka ngokuxhomekeka kubuni besini okanye ngokwesini somntu ngamnye.
Amashumi amane anesine eepesenti yabasetyhini abathandanayo nabasetyhini kunye namashumi amathandathu ananye eepesenti yabasetyhini abathandanayo abaxhatshaziweyo ngamaqabane abo abathandanayo xa kuthelekiswa namashumi amathathu anesihlanu eepesenti yabasetyhini abathandanayo. Ngokuchaseneyo, amashumi amabini anesithandathu eepesenti yamadoda athandana namanye kunye namashumi amathathu anesixhenxe eepesenti yamadoda athandana nabantu abathandanayo abafumana ubundlobongela njengokudlwengulwa okanye ukugculelwa liqabane xa kuthelekiswa namashumi amabini anesithoba eepesenti yamadoda athandanayo.
Umahluko kubuhlanga
Iinkcukacha-manani zikazwelonke zobundlobongela basekhaya ezisekwe kubuhlanga kunye nobuhlanga zityhila ubunzima obukhoyo xa kuzanywa umba wobungozi.
Bamalunga nesine kwabalishumi abasetyhini abaMnyama, abane kwabalishumi baseMelika baseIndiya okanye baseMelika baseAlaska, kwaye omnye wabafazi ababini beentlanga ezahlukeneyo babe lixhoba lokuziphatha gwenxa kubudlelwane. Oku ngamashumi amathathu ukuya kumashumi amahlanu eepesenti ngaphezulu kwezibalo zokuxhaphaka kwabaseSpanishi, abaseCaucasus, kunye nabasetyhini baseAsia.
Emva kokuphononongwa kwedatha yokulungelelanisa, unxibelelwano lunokwenziwa phakathi kwezinto ezincinci kunye nemingcipheko eqhelekileyo amaqela amancinci ajongene nayo njengokunyuka kwamazinga okusetyenziswa gwenxa kweziyobisi, intswela-ngqesho, ukunqongophala kokufikelela kwimfundo, ukuhlala kwabantu abatshatileyo, ukukhulelwa okungalindelekanga okanye okungacetywanga, kunye nenqanaba lomvuzo . Kumadoda, ajikeleze amashumi amane anesihlanu eepesenti amaNdiya aseMelika okanye ama-Alaskan Native, amashumi amathathu anesithoba eepesenti yamadoda amnyama, kunye namashumi amathathu anesithoba eepesenti yamadoda eentlanga ezahlukeneyo afumana ubundlobongela kwiqabane elisenyongweni.
La maxabiso aphantse aliphinda kabini inqanaba lokuxhaphaka phakathi kwamadoda aseSpain nawaseCaucasus.
Umahluko kubudala
Emva kokuphononongwa kwedatha yeenkcukacha-manani, ubudala obuqhelekileyo bokuqala kobundlobongela (iminyaka eyi-12-18), inxibelelana nobudala obuqhelekileyo umntu uya kuqala ukufumana ubundlobongela kubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Abasetyhini kunye namadoda aneminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo ukuya kumashumi amabini anesine amava abo okuqala obundlobongela kwinqanaba eliphezulu kakhulu kunalo naliphi na elinye ixesha labantu abadala.
Ngokusekwe kulwazi lweenkcukacha-manani olukhoyo, ubudala apho umntu afumana ukuxhatshazwa okanye ubundlobongela basekhaya bunokwahluka kakhulu kwiminyaka yobudala Ekuqaleni ukwenzeka.
Yintoni onokuyenza ukunceda ukuthintela ukuxhatshazwa?
Ukwazi idatha kunye neenkcukacha-manani akunakuthintela nokuziphatha. Kubalulekile ukuba amalungu oluntu athathe inxaxheba ebonakalayo ekukhuthazeni ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nezakhono zonxibelelwano.
Uluntu kufuneka luhlale luxakekile ekufundiseni amalungu omngcipheko, iimpawu zokulumkisa, kunye neendlela zokuthintela ukunciphisa ubudlelwane obungenampilo. Uluntu oluninzi lubonelela ngeenkqubo zemfundo zasimahla kunye namaqela enkxaso yoontanga ukunceda abemi ekubeni baxhotyiswe ngakumbi ukunyuka kunye nokungenelela ukuba bangqina kubudlelwane obunokubaphatha gadalala. Ukwazi okukuko akuthethi ukuba unayo yonke impendulo.
Ukuba ubona into, yitsho into!
Kodwa ukuthintela akusoloko kusebenza. Njengommeli okanye njengomntu ohlangabezana nokuxhatshazwa, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba ngamanye amaxesha olona ncedo lusebenzayo luvela kumntu ongamameliyo engagwebi kwaye akho nje ukuxhasa. Xa umntu evezwe kukuziphatha gwenxa ukulungele ukuthetha, mamela kwaye ukukholelwe oko kuthethwayo. Yazi malunga nezixhobo ezikhoyo kwindawo ohlala kuyo kwaye ukwazi ukwazisa umntu ngokhetho lwabo.
Mxhase ngokungamgxeki, umgwebe okanye umsole umntu ngezenzo zangaphambili. Kwaye ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, musa ukoyika ukubandakanyeka, ngakumbi ukuba ukhuseleko lomzimba lomntu lusemngciphekweni.