Umxholo
- Yintoni eyenza ukuba isiqalo sibe sesikhethekileyo?
- Iingxaki eziqhelekileyo izibini ezitshatileyo zijongana ekuqaleni
- 1. Imali
- 2. Isini
- 3. Ukuzingelwa kweentsana
- Ukusombulula iimbambano
- Ugcina njani umtshato uqhubeka
- Iingcinga zokugqibela
Enye into ecingelwayo eqhelekileyo phantse kuwo onke amabhinqa ngumtshato. Uninzi lwabasetyhini baphupha ngenye imini betshata, babe ngumfazi wendoda kunye nomama wenani labantwana. Ngokungafaniyo nabasetyhini abaninzi, uninzi lwamadoda lufuna ukonwaba, lwenze imali kwaye lubonwabele ubomi. Oku kunokwenza ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo bobabini bube yinkohliso, njengoko iimfuno zabo kwangoko zinokwahluka.
Kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane bezothando, uthando kwiqabane lakho lubaluleke kakhulu kodwa xa kuziwa emtshatweni, uthando alunakwanela. Imitshato engaphumelelanga sisiphumo sezinto ezininzi kodwa ayibandakanyi ukungabikho kothando kwiqabane.
Zonke izibini ziphupha ngokutshata ixesha elide, ukufezekisa oku, enye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo ekufuneka ziqwalaselwe yindlela ebaluleke ngayo iminyaka embalwa yokuqala yomtshato.
Yintoni eyenza ukuba isiqalo sibe sesikhethekileyo?
Ewe, umtshato ubufanelwe ukuba ube 'luhambo oluhlala luhleli kunye'.Ukuya kude kube ngoku, ukuqala kohambo kudlala indima ebaluleke kakhulu. Kuhlala kukho olu thando kunye nenkathalo engapheliyo yokuba isibini esisandul 'ukutshata siziva sithandana. Eyona mbambano yile 'ixesha elide lingakanani?
Xa esi sibini siqala ukuziva sithandwa ngaphantsi kothando ababenalo ngaphambi kokuba batshate, luphawu lokuwa okunokwenzeka.
Imvakalelo yokungaxatyiswa kwaye ungaxatyiswanga, ukungabikho kokukholelwa kuthando lomlingane, ukuphulukana nothando njl njl. Olu phuhliso lunokubaluleka ngakumbi ukuba lwenzeka kwiminyaka emibini yokuqala yomtshato.
Ke ngoko, iminyaka yokuqala yomtshato lixesha lokwakha ukholo malunga nothando lweqabane lakho kuwe nothando lwakho kwiqabane lakho, lixesha lokuba uzimisele, uzimisele ukufikelela esiphelweni.
Iingxaki eziqhelekileyo izibini ezitshatileyo zijongana ekuqaleni
Njengokuba kungekho mntu uthanda ukukuvuma, ukuphoxeka kuhlala kuvela emitshatweni ngakumbi kwinqanaba lokuqala xa ufumana izinto malunga neqabane lakho obungazi ngaphambili. Into ebalulekileyo ayizizo iingxaki kodwa yindlela osabela ngayo. Ezona zixhaphakileyo kwezi ngxaki zezi;
1. Imali
Le yingxaki eqhelekileyo abajamelana nayo abantu abatshatileyo. Imiba yemali ingaqala ekubeni ngubani owenza ingeniso engaphezulu, indlela esetyenziswa ngayo ingeniso, into yokuthenga, nini kwaye phi, inkcitho engaginyisi mathe kunye nenkcitho eyonga. Zonke ezi zinto zibonakala zincinci kodwa xa omabini la maqela eneembono ezahlukileyo malunga nemicimbi yemali, inokuba sisizathu sokukhathazeka.
2. Isini
Lo ngumtshato, hayi umdlalo wesikolo esiphakamileyo. Unokuba neentlobano zesini zasendle kunye neqabane lakho okanye abanye ngaphambi kokutshata. Oku akunakwenzeka ukuba kube njalo nasemva komtshato.
Uxinzelelo lomsebenzi kunye nobomi uqobo alunakushiya thuba lokuzibandakanya kwezesondo.
Kungenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho alilunganga ebhedini njengoko elinye lilindele. Oku kubangela ingxaki enkulu emtshatweni.
3. Ukuzingelwa kweentsana
Oku kuqhelekile kumanenekazi. Kungcono ukuba ucwangcise usapho lwakho ngaphambi kokuba uqalise umtshato. Ukuba oku akucwangciswanga kakuhle, kunokuba ngumcimbi ukuba akukho sana emva kweminyaka emi-2-3 yomtshato.
Iba yingxaki enkulu ukuba elinye iqabane lilungile kwaye elinye alilungile.
Ukusombulula iimbambano
Le yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yomtshato, ngakumbi entsha. Usombulula njani iingxabano zakho kwiintsuku zokuqala / kwiminyaka yomtshato wakho ihamba ixesha elide ekumiseleni ukuba umtshato uza kuhlala ixesha elingakanani. Ukuba ukungavisisani kuya kukhokelela ekuphatheni gadalala ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo, leyo iflegi ebomvu kubo nabuphi na ubudlelwane.
Iminyaka emibini yokuqala yomtshato ihlala iyiminyaka yokwakha. Ungathatha isigqibo sokuba ukhetha ukuziphelisa njani iimbambano zakho.
Baza kuza ngamaxesha athile kodwa kuya kufuneka uhlale phantsi uthethe izinto emva koko. Ukukwazi kwenu ukusombulula iimbambano ngoxolo njengesibini luphawu lomtshato ohlala ixesha elide.
Ugcina njani umtshato uqhubeka
Ayisiyonto ilula ukugcina uthando lomntu omnye ixesha elide. Ungakruquka kwangoko nje ukuba uqhele umntu. Kuyafaneleka kakhulu ukuthatha amanyathelo angabom ukugcina uthando. Khupha omnye nomnye kumhla, ungaya kwiimuvi, zama nje into engaphaya kwesiqhelo semihla ngemihla.
Qinisekisa ukuba udala ixesha xa ninokuhlala kunye nodwa. Vuka ukwanga omnye komnye. Zisani isidlo sakusasa ebhedini. Oku kusebenza ngakumbi xa indoda isenza. Ikhefu kwindlela yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla liyanceda ukugcina umlilo uvutha.
Iingcinga zokugqibela
Isiseko salo naluphi na ubudlelwane obuhlala ixesha elide luthando, ukuthembana kunye nokuzinikela. Inye ayonelanga, ezi zinto zintathu zisebenza kunye zilungiselela naluphi na ulwalamano. Akukho mvakalelo imnandi njengokuhlala ulwalamano oluhle noluthembekileyo neqabane lakho. Ke ngoko, kuya kufuneka uqale ukondla umtshato wakho kwasekuqaleni.