Umxholo
- Kukulungele ngokusemthethweni
- Ithintela ukuhleba
- Abantwana abayi kudideka
- Unesizathu esivakalayo sokuphepha izinto eziphambeneyo
- Kuhle kuba yenza izinto lula
Ke yintoni eyenza umtshato ube mkhulu kangaka? Ngokukodwa, ngalo lonke uqhawulo-mtshato, ukuqhekeka okungcolileyo, kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu ejikelezayo. Umbuzo onomdla.
Buza nabani na oyintloko phezu kwezithende uthandana nomntu, kwaye uya kufumana impendulo. Iya kwahluka enye nenye nangona kunjalo, iyadideka ukujonga izinto ezingaphandle kwebhokisi.
Kodwa ukuba umntu ubuza umbuzo onyanisekileyo, kungcono umphendule ngokunyanisekileyo. Umbuzo uyingqangi, uyehlisa. Ke ekukhuseleni izigidi zabantu abatshatileyo phaya, kubandakanya nam, ndingathanda ukunika iisenti zam ezimbini ngalo mbandela, ukuze ezi filosofi zobudala obutsha eziqhubekayo zingacingi ukuba sizizidenge ngokupheleleyo.
Kukulungele ngokusemthethweni
Awudingi umtshato obukhazikhazi ukwenza usapho.
Ukwenza abantwana namhlanje kwenziwa ngendlela efanayo oko bekuhlala kusenzeka kwasekuqaleni kwexesha. Khuphela. Ke kutheni izibini kunye neentsapho zabo zichitha imali eninzi emtshatweni?
Ngenxa yokuba kubhiyozelwa, bonwabile. Isizathu esifanayo sokuba abalandeli babhiyozele Amantshontsho aphumelele ipenantant kwakhona emva kweminyaka eli-108.
Esi sibini sonwabe kakhulu kwaye bafuna ukwabelana ngalo mzuzu nabahlobo babo kunye nosapho ngeendlela ezibaluleke ngakumbi kunokuthumela ividiyo kuFacebook.
Kodwa umbhiyozo womtshato yile nto, itheko.
Emva kwepati ye-bachelor, owona msitho uphambili, kunye neholide yasemva komtshato, iphelile. Ayisiyo loo nto umalunga nomtshato, umalunga nesivumelwano esisemthethweni esibophelelayo.
Ngaphantsi kwamazwe amaninzi ikhowudi yoluntu, imitshato ibophelela esi sibini njengeziko elinye lezemali. Kwenza kube lula ukubanga i-inshurensi, uthenge indlu, kwaye ngokubanzi ubangqinelana njengesiqinisekiso. Kulula nokuba abantwana bafumane ipasi xa bephethe ifani efanayo neyabazali.
Ke yintoni eyenza umtshato ube mkhulu kangaka?
Ilungile kwaye iluncedo ngakumbi xa inye kuphela isibini esenza imali. Kwimeko apho ungazi, iibhanki zinomdla wokwazi ukuba uyithathe phi imali yakho ukuba awunamsebenzi kwaye uvule iakhawunti. Yinto ebandakanya imali, funda ngayo.
Ukuba zombini izibini zenza imali, umvuzo odibeneyo wenza kube lula ukufumana iimali-mboleko. Akukho gosa lemali mboleko liya kubuza isibini esitshatileyo ukuba kutheni befuna ukufumana imali-mboleko yendlu kwaye bayihlawule kunye.
Kukho izibonelelo zerhafu nazo, kuxhomekeke kweliphi ilizwe ohlala kulo, kodwa kufanele ukuba kubekho izikhuthazi ezimbalwa, ngakumbi ukuba uhlala kwilizwe lokuqala.
Ngendlela, into yeinshurensi ibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa sisibonelelo esinye endiyathemba ukuba abantu abatshatileyo abanakuze basisebenzise.
Ithintela ukuhleba
Abantu abathobayo bayathanda ukuhleba, kubandakanya abo bangamabhinca abahleka amasiko emveli njengemitshato. Kodwa xa isibini esitshatileyo sihlala kunye, silala kakhulu, kwaye ekugqibeleni, sinabantwana, abo bantu bengenanto ilunge ngakumbi ukuba bangayenza ngobomi babo kunokuthetha ngabanye abayi kufumana zinto zokuhleba.
Uyalwazi uhlobo, abo bahlala befuna iimpazamo kwabanye kwaye bathethe ngayo kuyo yonke idolophu. Abo baziva bengaphezulu kwabanye ngenxa nje yokuba besenza izinto ngokwahlukileyo. Uyazi njengabantu abakholelwa kwimitshato kwaye bahleke xa behluleka.
Akukho mntu utshatayo ukuphepha ukuhleba. Sisibonelelo nje esifanelekileyo esiza nayo. Ithintela abo bantu bahlekisayo ukuthetha ngesibini esihlala kunye phantsi kophahla olunye kunye nokucinga zonke iintlobo zezinto ngasemva kweengcango ezivaliweyo.
Ke yintoni eyenza umtshato ube mkhulu kangaka? Igcina izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Ngale ndlela abarhwebi bahleba ukufumana omnye umntu ukuba abe lixhoba.
Abantwana abayi kudideka
Unokukholelwa ukuba abazali abangenamaqabane ngamagorha angaziwayo. Banjalo, kwaye nabantu abatshatileyo siyabathanda. Kodwa abanye abantwana banokungayijongi ngale ndlela. Abaxhaphazi bahlala bejonga into eyahlukileyo kwabanye abantwana kwaye xa besenza, bayisebenzisa njengesixhobo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba le yindlela yokucinga engakhulanga, kulungile ukuba babe ngabantwana. Zifanele ukuba zingakhuli.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungakhusela wonke umntwana esikolweni nxamnye nabangcungcuthekisi, emva koko uqhubeke, urhulumente sele ezama ukufumana isisombululo kule ngxaki kwizizukulwana ngezizukulwana.
Ke emva kwesihloko sethu, umtshato ulungile kuba wenza abantwana babo "baqheleke." Banotata, umama, umntakwabo okanye ababini. Abayi kuba nazintloni malunga nosapho lwabo nabanye abantwana.
Unesizathu esivakalayo sokuphepha izinto eziphambeneyo
Kukho amaxesha apho umphathi wakho kuya kufuneka akucele ukuba wenze ixesha elongezelelekileyo lenyanga ethe ngqo ngenxa yeprojekthi ebalulekileyo eya kubenza, hayi wena, unyuselwe.
Kukho namaxesha apho umhlobo ezisa intombi yakhe endlwini yakhe kwaye ufuna ukuvavanya ipilisi entsha ehlala ixesha elide.
Kukho ixesha apho umhlobo wakho omdala wesikolo esiphakamileyo ongakhange uve kuye kwithuba elithile ecela ukuboleka imali yokubhatala incwadi yakhe.
Ungathi hayi, emva koko, unokuhlala uthi hayi ungatshatanga, kodwa baya kuhlala bekukhathaza kuba becinga ukuba ayikho enye into onokuyenza. Oko kunokuba yinyani okanye kungenyaniso, kodwa abantu abatshatileyo banesizathu sokwala ngeklasi.
Ukutshata kukunika inketho, usenokuthi ewe kwaye uphambene. Ngethamsanqa kwaye ngethemba lokuba awuzukuzisola.
Ewe ewe, yintoni eyenza umtshato ube mkhulu kangaka? Ayisiyonto inkulu kakhulu xa ithelekiswa nokuphumelela iOlimpiki. Ayisiyonto eya kuqinisekisa ukhuseleko lwezezimali nokuba utshatele kusapho olutyebileyo.
Ke yintoni eyenza ukuba ibe ntle? Ngaba iyanceda ukoyisa ubulolo? Ngaba iqinisekisa iqabane lobomi bonke? Hayi, ayenzi njalo.
Kuhle kuba yenza izinto lula
Kanye njengeefowuni eziphathwayo zilungile. Ithintela uninzi lweentloko xa uthatha isigqibo sokukhula kwaye uxanduva lomnye umntu, ngakumbi abantwana bakho.
Kulungile kuba yenza iodolo. Ihamba kunye nolungelelwaniso lwendalo kulindelo lobomi.
Ngumntu ongakhathali kuphela onokuthi enze into engafunekiyo ukuba ibe yiyo. Ukuba kukho into engahambanga kakuhle ngomtshato othile, ayisoze ibe yimpazamo kwiphepha elinye. Nangona kunjalo, elo phepha linye linokukukhusela kwiibhola ezininzi ezijikajikayo ebomini.