Umxholo
- Kutheni ukungathembeki kubuhlungu kangaka
- Amanqanaba okuphilisa emva kokungathembeki
- Kuthekani ukuba awuziva ungcono?
Wonke umntu ophumeleleyo kuyo uya kuvuma- ukuphilisa emva kokungathembeki kunamanqanaba ambalwa ekufuneka uwenzile. Kwaye zonke zinzima kwaye zibuhlungu. Kude kube akusekho. Kwaye siyathembisa-uyakudlula. Siyazi ukuba yeyona nto kufuneka uyazi ngalo mzuzu, njengabo bangcatshwa ngabantu ababathandayo ngoluhlobo, kunokubonakala ngathi ngekhe baphinde babengcono. Iza ku.
Kutheni ukungathembeki kubuhlungu kangaka
Ukuba uthetha naye nabani na onamava okungathembeki kweqabane lakhe, nokuba bahlala kunye okanye bohlukene, nokuba bazamile ukulungisa izinto okanye balungisa nje ukushiya ubudlelwane ngasemva, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuva into enye- yayiyeyona nto ibuhlungu izinto zokuhamba. Kubonakala ngathi yinto yonke, nangona kukho iinkcubeko ezithile apho kungangothusiyo okanye ukungcatshwa njengoko kunjalo kwinkcubeko yaseNtshona.
Isizathu sokuba iwele phantsi kolunye loxinzelelo olukhulu kubomi bomntu yinkcubeko, kunye nombuzo wokuzivelela kwezinto. Uninzi lweenkcubeko zale mihla zijolise kumntu omnye, ubuncinci okwangoku xa ababini bethatha isigqibo sokutshata. Kuthetha ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokunikezela ngalo lonke ixesha lakho kunye nothando kumntu omnye, ukwakha ubomi kunye, ukuya kuyo yonke into njengeqela elingenakuqhekeka. Kwaye umcimbi uyangcangcazela lo mbono usembindini wawo.
Ngapha koko, ayisiyombambano kuphela ngokwembono yezentlalo. Ukuthetha ngokwebhayoloji, singekhe senziwe ukuba sibodwa. Nangona kunjalo, xa i-biology yahlangana kunye nenkqubela yethu yenkcubeko njengohlobo oluthile, kwaphumela kwindaleko ehlangana kunye nomona kunye nesidingo sokufumana iqabane lethu ngokupheleleyo. Ngoba? Kungenxa yokuba ukungathembeki kuphazamisana nokuzala kwethu, okanye, ngokuchanekileyo, kunye nentlalontle yenzala yethu-sakuba sifumene iqabane eligqibeleleyo, asifuni ukuba inzala yethu ikhuphisane nekhowudi yemfuza ephezulu ngokulinganayo.
Kodwa, xa zonke ezi ngcaciso zithathelwa ingqalelo, into eshiyeke nayo yinyani elula- kwinqanaba lomntu, ukunganyaniseki kweqabane lethu kubuhlungu njengokungekhoyo ngaphambili. Ngumbandela wokuthembana okungagungqiyo. Ngumba wokungaze uphinde uzive ukhuselekile nalo mntu. Ishukumisa ukuzithemba kwethu ukuya kwinqanaba. Inokonakalisa ubomi bethu bonke. Kwaye kuyatshisa nje umngxuma emathunjini ethu.
Amanqanaba okuphilisa emva kokungathembeki
Ukuhamba ngenkqubo yokuphilisa emva kokungathembeki kuyahluka nje kancinci kunokubuyela kwilahleko yobuqu xa umntu osondeleyo kuwe esifa. Kungenxa yokuba kukho into eyafayo. Kwaye masithi ngoku - into engcono inokuvela kuyo. Kodwa uyakube uhamba ngamanqanaba okuba buhlungu ngenxa yobuhlobo bakho, ukuthembana kwakho, kunye nezinye izinto ezininzi.
Umzuzu wokuqala ufumanisa malunga nokuthandana, nokuba uphume ngombala oluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka okanye ubune-hunch kangangeenyanga (okanye iminyaka), ngokuqinisekileyo uyakukhanyela. Yothuse kakhulu! Ingakumbi ukuba kusekho indlela ethile yokuthandabuza. Nokuba uyibona ngamehlo okanye uyiva ngokuthe ngqo kwiqabane lakho, usenokuba ukhangela enye inkcazo ngokukhawuleza.
Nangona kunjalo, xa kucacile ukuba akukho mathandabuzo nokuba yintoni, nina, njengabantu bonke, niyakuthi nigqitywe ngumsindo ongachazekiyo. Kwaye, ngelishwa, eli nqanaba linotyekelo lokuhlala ixesha elide kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awuyivumeli ukuba ibe sisifo, umsindo uyinxalenye yenkqubo yokuphilisa, njengoko ikuvumela ukuba ubonise yonke intlungu kunye neengcinga zakho.
Nje ukuba ukwazi ukujamelana nomsindo, uya kudibana nengxoxo. Kwimicimbi yothando, eli nqanaba linokuthatha iindlela ezininzi, kodwa zonke zinenjongo yokukukhupha kwimeko njengoko zinjalo. Nangona kunjalo, ayizukusebenza. Into ekufuneka yenzekile kukuba uye kwinqanaba elilandelayo lenkqubo yokuphilisa, uxinzelelo. Kuvakala kungaqhelekanga, kodwa yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yenkqubo kuba kuphela emva koxinzelelo olunokuthi lufike kwinqanaba lokugqibela, nokwamkelwa. Ukwamkelwa okuza kusitshintsha ngonaphakade, kwaye ngethemba, kuya kuba ngcono.
Kuthekani ukuba awuziva ungcono?
Kuwo nawaphi na amanqanaba, unelungelo lokuziva unganakho ukujongana nalo. Musa ukuba nzima kuwe, kwaye ungazami ukuzinyanzela ukuba uhambe ngamanqanaba ebesithetha ngawo ngokukhawuleza. Ingathabatha iminyaka. Kwaye ukuba kuvakala kuthoba isidima, khumbula nje- yindlela eqinisekileyo yokuziva ulungile kwakhona, inokuba lide ixesha elithile. Kodwa ukuba uziva ngathi awunakukwazi ukuyiphatha ngokwakho, ungathandabuzi ukutyelela ugqirha wezengqondo- akukho hlazo ekuceleni uncedo emva kolo hlungu lukhulu ebomini bakho.